LookAtThisPOst Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 Read this article about "Don't date a girl who travels." On dating sites, I am running into a lot of women who tend to travel, for fun, internationally probably 3 to 5 times a year...these aren't the once every few years travelers either...and sometimes the man she dates, it may be a requirement that he would need to be on the same page with her. "Have passport, will travel!" "Have a passport, then we may be right for each other!" Personally, I cannot afford such luxuries and also I'm not THAT much into traveling they way some men are into sports or what not. Also, saving up a vacation at work takes time, too...so I'm wondering how she is able to be away from works weeks on end. Does her work give her a full 30 days vacation after working for a year. Saw this in that article: Chances are, she can't hold a steady job. Or she's probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn't want to keep working her ass off for someone else's dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don't waste her time complaining about your boring job. I've known women like this, spent time with one that's a LMT (Massage therapist), likes to travel...but typically an LMT job isn't' a lucrative one either...so I would gather there's some kind of instability in this person's life...as they probably get bored easily. I mean, I would like to travel on occasion...been on a couple of cruises if that counts...but it just isn't affordable to me either. Wouldn't mind going to Australia or New Zealand one o fthese days. Thoughts on this? Anyone met the travel-obsessed? Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 Hm, it really depends on the girl's living situation. Possibilities are 1) She's financed by family for trips. That is likely the case especially when you see "travel often" listed on the profile of younger women. 2) They might indeed be free lancers. The cousin of a friend is one of those, she travels internationally by working abroad - minijobs only though, so basically she's working for food, a room and a little pocket money. Definitely not the kind of GF you want if you hope to have a family someday 'cause she won't stay at the same place for more than a couple of years and once at home she moves in with relatives because she has barely money of her own. 3) She's way up there in her career and can choose when she works or maybe she works by sitting at her laptop for a few hours a day. 4) Her job requires her to travel internationally. Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 Oh my GOD!!! This article describes me (and therefore my dream girl) to a tee! Where is the article on where to find these girls? If there was ever a girl that fit the descriptions in this article, I'd have found as close to a "soulmate" as I could get. Literally my dream girl described here... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 18, 2015 Author Share Posted June 18, 2015 Oh my GOD!!! This article describes me (and therefore my dream girl) to a tee! Where is the article on where to find these girls? If there was ever a girl that fit the descriptions in this article, I'd have found as close to a "soulmate" as I could get. Literally my dream girl described here... How is she your dream girl? The article talks about how one should not date a woman who travels abroad constantly. You a man or a woman, loveweary? lol Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 Sounds like a preference to me, looking for a like-minded person. If preferences don't match up, then no relationship occurs. Hey, try dating a flight attendant.....met plenty in my couple million miles in the air and certainly could opine dating them would be a challenge, if only for the logistics, since they're all over the place and their job is travel. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 How is she your dream girl? The article talks about how one should not date a woman who travels abroad constantly. You a man or a woman, loveweary? lol I read it. Yes, it talked about not dating a girl who likes to travel, but line by line, everything they said stinks about this girl in the article is exactly what I'm looking for. Not sure how my sex is in doubt here... Im a hetero guy and this article says not tondate my dream girl. Every negative they list, I see as a positive in a partner. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
scorpiogirl Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 How is she your dream girl? The article talks about how one should not date a woman who travels abroad constantly. You a man or a woman, loveweary? lol So because The Article said it, men shouldn't date women who travel. You've said time and again how you will not move from your little town, how you won't take a job that required anything more than weekdays 9-5, how you "remember" the wwII days where women just fell into the lap of the first guy who wanted her, how it's funny that women are into sports but you remember a time when women drank tea in the kitchen. You get more offensive every day. Women can fund their own travels. They don't need sugar daddies to do it. I have a very stable job and travel often. My friend owns a law firm and travels 4-5 times a year while working very hard. People who travel are interesting, well-rounded, adventurous, flexible. What intelligent man with something to offer, wouldn't want a woman who's curious about the world. If you're not this man then leave her alone. I'm Sorry but your life doesn't sound interesting to me in the least. It may surprise you but women don't have to take what they're given anymore. I know that's a hard concept for you to grasp given that you remember the WWII days and the 1950s so fondly but if you stop judging from the sidelines you might be a person more women would like to get to know. 15 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 So because The Article said it, men shouldn't date women who travel. You've said time and again how you will not move from your little town, how you won't take a job that required anything more than weekdays 9-5, how you "remember" the wwII days where women just fell into the lap of the first guy who wanted her, how it's funny that women are into sports but you remember a time when women drank tea in the kitchen. You get more offensive every day. Women can fund their own travels. They don't need sugar daddies to do it. I have a very stable job and travel often. My friend owns a law firm and travels 4-5 times a year while working very hard. People who travel are interesting, well-rounded, adventurous, flexible. What intelligent man with something to offer, wouldn't want a woman who's curious about the world. If you're not this man then leave her alone. I'm Sorry but your life doesn't sound interesting to me in the least. It may surprise you but women don't have to take what they're given anymore. I know that's a hard concept for you to grasp given that you remember the WWII days and the 1950s so fondly but if you stop judging from the sidelines you might be a person more women would like to get to know. ^Slow clap for that right there. Applause Animated GIF 5 Link to post Share on other sites
scorpiogirl Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 ^Slow clap for that right there. Applause Animated GIF I've never been slow clapped before. I didn't even prepare a speech ... So unexpected. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 i think these women like to travel because they are not getting enough quality nookie 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fleur de cactus Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I dont see why you cannot date a woman just because she likes to travel. Maybe you can stay home and she will go by herself. I am one of these women who like to travel. I also put it on my profile on OLD. But I don't say that my match should have a passport. Now i know why I am not lucky to find a good date!!! The good ones do not like to travel? Maybe I should not mention it in the future? Anyway, I like to travel because many people in my family are outside of the country. Also, I grew up in another country so to me it is important that I go back regularly. It is a long trip so I hope one day I find someone who will enjoy to travel with me. Besides traveling to the country of origin, I also like to travel in general. I am curious to visit new places and check out different cultures. When you like to travel, you know your goals so you start saving. And saving is not hard when you know what you want. Also, when you are a family that like to travel, or when you travels often, you earn some sky miles that are worth a ticket to travel again. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 (edited) I agree w scorpiogirl. I know a lot of women who travel--one of them is a nuclear engineer, another a pharmacist, yet another is an event planner. The two things in common they have is that they are curious about the world, and they care enough to see it for themselves (funding their trips and travelling). You know, this thread is ironic in the sense that *you* OP, would probably benefit from travel, as much as anyone here would. A real trip not just a cruise. You'd come back w some stories and hell you might even meet someone. A woman would much rather date a man with a sense of adventure of his own, instead of a guy who nitpicks women for their sense of adventure (and, in your case, for about everything else too). Edited June 19, 2015 by Imajerk17 11 Link to post Share on other sites
I_Squared_R Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Some people spend all their money on fast cars. Others spend it on lavish homes or jewelry. And then the women you talk about spend it on traveling. Everybody has their own hobbies. Traveling isn't yours. I'd love to travel, but I don't have the time or resources to currently do it. I don't think I ever will be able to. I envy those who can. My idea of traveling is on a motorcycle. There is a forum dedicated to traveling on a motorcycle and some of the stories those guys post about are fascinating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I am currently interested in a woman that is heading back to the United States from Nigeria while being involved in the antique business. For me, a woman that travels makes her even more attractive to me. With the way my life has been the past 10 years, I find the predictable stuff to be WAY too boring and stale for me to continue like this and I also got an interest to travel. This is why I need to hurry up and finish off my passport. A woman who travels is definitely not of interest to you, OP, but her worldwide knowledge and interest in such things will be a nice competent to me. I will welcome those women with open arms.....so please pass them over to me. Thanks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Exactly, but some feel that you have to have exactly the same interests for it to be a match. Also, you don't have to travel to have a sense of adventure. There's always the zipline adventures, airboat rides, kayaking untapped areas of the region, etc. Some of them even include Groupon Deals, it's great! :-) I dont see why you cannot date a woman just because she likes to travel. Maybe you can stay home and she will go by herself. I am one of these women who like to travel. I also put it on my profile on OLD. But I don't say that my match should have a passport. Now i know why I am not lucky to find a good date!!! The good ones do not like to travel? Maybe I should not mention it in the future? Anyway, I like to travel because many people in my family are outside of the country. Also, I grew up in another country so to me it is important that I go back regularly. It is a long trip so I hope one day I find someone who will enjoy to travel with me. Besides traveling to the country of origin, I also like to travel in general. I am curious to visit new places and check out different cultures. When you like to travel, you know your goals so you start saving. And saving is not hard when you know what you want. Also, when you are a family that like to travel, or when you travels often, you earn some sky miles that are worth a ticket to travel again. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Odd how ppl equate traveling with the financially stable. By no means do I have money to spare...but travel....ahhh that can be done with a train and a back pack. Seen various places with a nickel to spare and loved the journey. Travel lust is fun and takes you off the beaten path. I abhor the tourist areas. My one guy sailed the world for two years and it was the best thing for him! He'd call me up and say...got a few days in panama..come meet me. Dating wasn't a problem..if you can find that person who shares the spirit. Free living and slow going..it works for some. The only negative was the weather and being out of touch sometimes....the satelite radio would get wonky sometimes... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it. Honestly, most gainfully employed people under 40 and over 25 have hopped jobs so often that they don't have that much vacation time accrued, so aside from the 2 weeks per year vacation, most of what they say is just what they dream of. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Yes, I have noticed a common theme that these people tend to be gyspy-like in nature. Some hop from town to town doing various odd jobs Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Odd how ppl equate traveling with the financially stable. By no means do I have money to spare...but travel....ahhh that can be done with a train and a back pack. Seen various places with a nickel to spare and loved the journey. Travel lust is fun and takes you off the beaten path. I abhor the tourist areas. My one guy sailed the world for two years and it was the best thing for him! He'd call me up and say...got a few days in panama..come meet me. Dating wasn't a problem..if you can find that person who shares the spirit. Free living and slow going..it works for some. The only negative was the weather and being out of touch sometimes....the satelite radio would get wonky sometimes... You need to be in great shape for that type of lifestyle. When my husband pisses me off I think about selling everything and spending the rest of my life doing odd jobs and backpacking. I have great gardening skills so I might be an asset to some small communities. But it's a hard life. I did it for four months but I had money so I didn't need to work. I thought about doing it longer and working at a youth hostel in Switzerland or Greece but I didn't. Actually, what I want right now is a peaceful life. It doesn't matter where it is. But it would be nice to see some of the countries I didn't see. I'd like to check out the Buddhist temples in Asia. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I am currently interested in a woman that is heading back to the United States from Nigeria while being involved in the antique business. I love how you said this with a straight face. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I have a good career, investment properties and lived on different continents. I lost count how many countries I've been to. Yet I don't live like a gypsy and my permanent residence has been the same city for over 20 years. I just choose to get out of my comfort zone on a regular basis. Hobbies, new cultures, new people. Can't imagine anything more boring than staying in the same place you were born in all your life. What do you spend the money on? Some shiny pick up truck? How very dull. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 If travel is really important to you, more than a dream, it can be done. You don't need to work odd jobs, either. All you have to do is set your life up around travel by getting rid of junk that costs you money on a monthly basis, then setting up a type of work or business that is location independent. It's really as simple as that. That's what I've done and not to be a jerk, but due to this perfect setup of finances to support travel, I have literally, more money than I need or know what to do with. If you travel right, it costs you nothing at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I have a good career, investment properties and lived on different continents. I lost count how many countries I've been to. Yet I don't live like a gypsy and my permanent residence has been the same city for over 20 years. I just choose to get out of my comfort zone on a regular basis. Hobbies, new cultures, new people. Can't imagine anything more boring than staying in the same place you were born in all your life. What do you spend the money on? Some shiny pick up truck? How very dull. You sound like you've found the perfect balance! Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 You sound like you've found the perfect balance! It feels like it now yes. I have options which is nice. I honestly don't understand why this is a problem for some. Different preferences and perhaps less conventional set up. What's wrong with that? Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Yes, I have noticed a common theme that these people tend to be gyspy-like in nature. Some hop from town to town doing various odd jobs I'm a travel junkie and must say its almost a requirement that any girl I date feels the same. Its about expanding your comfort zone and broadening your view. Seeing things from different perspectives and angles. That is really the only way to understand another persons perspective is to literally walk in their shoes. On the job front you really don't have to be a traveling gypsie. Some pople like that lifestyle and thats completely fine. For me I own property and work as an IT Consultant making a good wage. I've been able to use my job as a way to travel for free. I lived in 2 different countries in Europe the last 2 years and spend every second weekend doing short trips off to somewhere new. I was in Austria last weekend hiking in the alps. In Turkey 2 weeks before that exploring Istanbul. I mean why just go to the mall on the weekend when you can go to the Grand Bazaar 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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