Bobbi7 Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 Either this guy is wasting my time/ wants to be pen-pals. He initiating contact with me 2 weeks ago, I wrote back, didn't hear from him since, just yesterday he messaged me like nothing...um, and I saw that he has been online since then. No plans on his part to want to meet in person. I'm certainly not going to initiate these things, and I'm not to waste my time messaging back saying not to waste my time when this strange guy will laugh and think its funny. I ignored, blocked, deleted. NEXT! Link to post Share on other sites
HansonGirl Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 Either this guy is wasting my time/ wants to be pen-pals. He initiating contact with me 2 weeks ago, I wrote back, didn't hear from him since, just yesterday he messaged me like nothing...um, and I saw that he has been online since then. No plans on his part to want to meet in person. I'm certainly not going to initiate these things, and I'm not to waste my time messaging back saying not to waste my time when this strange guy will laugh and think its funny. I ignored, blocked, deleted. NEXT! My experience personally has been that i get so many messages that i lose track, and then i get busy and don't log in for a while and when i log back in i don't respond to everyone because there are too many messages. I am not saying i am some super hot person who gets tons of guys, i think this is typical for females. And i definitely have seen those guys, among the ones i'm actually interested in pursuing a conversation with, who contact me , and we exchange a few messages and i never hear from them again! so yes i think what you are describing is typical Link to post Share on other sites
johndoe2 Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Either this guy is wasting my time/ wants to be pen-pals. He initiating contact with me 2 weeks ago, I wrote back, didn't hear from him since, just yesterday he messaged me like nothing...um, and I saw that he has been online since then. No plans on his part to want to meet in person. I'm certainly not going to initiate these things, and I'm not to waste my time messaging back saying not to waste my time when this strange guy will laugh and think its funny. I ignored, blocked, deleted. NEXT! Well he's probably not interested, but regarding the portion of your comment that I bolded, may I ask why not? Why can't you going to initiate 'these things'? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Philosopher Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 I can't speak for other guys, but in my view it is best to try and meet up as soon as possible as meeting in person is the only real way to tell if anything is going to happen long term. If I am interested in someone I will reply to their messages within a day or two (usually a day), and I will suggest meeting up within three or four exchanges of messages. If I am not interested I will stop messaging them completely. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Consistency and reasonable reliability in messaging is an indication of what you will probably find a person to be like in real life. Still, you can't draw firm conclusions from a couple of messages as there may be extenuating circumstances. In hindsight, all of the women I've ended up dating for awhile were consistent in their communication. The ones that I met despite erratic messaging seemed to have a hard time staying focused in person as well. So if they won't respond consistently I take that to mean they're just using the dating site for amusement and probably aren't able to give any one person more than five seconds of attention. Next. Did you actually expect him to ask for a date on the second message? Pretty sure I read that right. Link to post Share on other sites
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