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Not a woman but some most certainly would if that was the answer you were hoping for. Plenty of excellent women will notice your personality and qualities and be attracted to that. Also even if your neither "ugly or fat" as you say, those people would be able to get dates too, it all depends on the person. Same goes if the situation was reversed.

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Not a woman but some most certainly would if that was the answer you were hoping for. Plenty of excellent women will notice your personality and qualities and be attracted to that. Also even if your neither "ugly or fat" as you say, those people would be able to get dates too, it all depends on the person. Same goes if the situation was reversed.

 

Honestly perhaps I need to move to the land of Lego if this is true because my experience has been anything but the above and I am older than the OP and in the same position.

 

 

Then again perhaps I am not "the person".

 

 

OP my suggestion is don't get a complex about your lack of experience, who knows perhaps you will meet someone fantastic, as other keep telling me its about putting yourself "out there" wherever that is, when you find out please let me know!

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When I was that age, maybe if everything else clicked AND he didn't announce to me on an early date that he was a virgin.

 

At my age now, no, in part because you are close to being too young for me, not because you are a virgin.

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Im 26 year old virgin, never kissed too. Im not ugly or fat, and im not religious.

 

Is there anything else about you a woman should consider, or is this your entire identity?

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Is there anything else about you a woman should consider, or is this your entire identity?

Like what? Only anxiety, im still fighting to put that behind, im a lot better. Being a 26 year virgin male, bothers me, because im a lot behind other guys. :(

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Being a 26 year virgin male, bothers me, because im a lot behind other guys. :(

 

Life is not a competition. Who cares what other guys do? Losing your virginity early doesn't guarantee you a win at life.

 

Some girls would date you. Some wouldn't.

 

Some would care that you are a virgin. Some would be excited by it. Most wouldn't give a flip one way or the other.

 

If you would have to guess why you are still a virgin, what would your guess be?

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Like what? Only anxiety, im still fighting to put that behind, im a lot better. Being a 26 year virgin male, bothers me, because im a lot behind other guys. :(

 

I think what normal person was asking is what do you have to offer a woman, that would make her interested in you?

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I could care less about how many girls a guy had. It wouldn't bother me at all, I look at the rest of the package.

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If you would have to guess why you are still a virgin, what would your guess be?

I dont have social life, dont have friends. Im working on that matter.

 

I think what normal person was asking is what do you have to offer a woman, that would make her interested in you?

Well, i dont know to be honest. Im smart, have a sense of humor.

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Honestly, don't worry so much about your V.

 

Focus on finding somebody that likes you for you. V shouldn't play a part in this, if they really adore you as a person. Not like strangers notice your V status.

 

Focus on your personality and know what you have to offer somebody that could potentially fall in love with you. V has absolutely nothing to do with your chances to find love, your personality - whatever that may be - does 100%.

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Im 26 year old virgin, never kissed too. Im not ugly or fat, and im not religious.

 

I don't date men based on whether they are virgins or not.

 

I don't know if a man is a virgin or not when he initially shows interest and when I initially show interest. I assume he isn't but basically me dating him will be based on if I like him, if we've gone out and we have chemistry, I'm attracted, he has qualities I'm looking for etc. If all that is right I'm not gonna dump him because he's a virgin. I'd be surprised and honestly curious about why and would want to know more... If what he says is strange and seems like he has intimacy issues or something then maybe I'd pass but if what he says sounds fair then I'd still date him.

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Life is not a competition. Who cares what other guys do? Losing your virginity early doesn't guarantee you a win at life.

 

Some girls would date you. Some wouldn't.

 

Some would care that you are a virgin. Some would be excited by it. Most wouldn't give a flip one way or the other.

 

If you would have to guess why you are still a virgin, what would your guess be?

 

well being an adult male virgin probably would not have been an issue for a guy before the sexual revolution sometime in the 20th century

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I don't date men based on whether they are virgins or not.

 

I don't know if a man is a virgin or not when he initially shows interest and when I initially show interest. I assume he isn't but basically me dating him will be based on if I like him, if we've gone out and we have chemistry, I'm attracted, he has qualities I'm looking for etc. If all that is right I'm not gonna dump him because he's a virgin. I'd be surprised and honestly curious about why and would want to know more... If what he says is strange and seems like he has intimacy issues or something then maybe I'd pass but if what he says sounds fair then I'd still date him.

 

Ok would you find a 31yo virgin strange?

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I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly two years, and we were both virgins. We both had the mind set of wanting to wait for the right person, and when we found each other, it's like it was meant to be. When we first started dating I definitely had no idea he was a virgin based on his confidence and experience. Granted we are younger than you. To me, as long as you can at least pretend to know what you're doing, I wouldn't care. Obviously it depends on the woman but I think some would find this to be sweet/attractive.

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Ok would you find a 31yo virgin strange?

 

Yes.

 

But I would judge him based on a sum of factors and not just that one thing.

 

My point was that if I am on a date with you and see you multiple times and we're clicking then I'm not gonna find out about you being a virgin and immediately split. I'd inquire about it and judge it based on everything else I've learned about you.

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Like what? Only anxiety, im still fighting to put that behind, im a lot better. Being a 26 year virgin male, bothers me, because im a lot behind other guys. :(

 

My point was to illustrate that you've made it seem like virginity is the the only thing about you a girl would consider when going out with you. Is there anything else about that would give a girl a reason not to care about this? Are you funny, talented, smart, exciting, etc? Does she have a desire to be around you regardless?

 

Yes, your virginity might cause some hesitation at some points, especially if you tie your identity to it, ex: "Dan the virgin." What will cause a lot less hesitation is if you don't let the fact that you're a virgin consume your existence and; don't let it be your defining trait, ex: "Dan the exciting guy who's a lot of fun to talk to and be around."

 

See what I mean? Don't make it an issue if it's not one yet.

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Girls, would you date a 26/27 year old virgin?

If I was a 22 year old female, why not ??:D

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If I was in my late 20s and dating, I'd actually prefer to find a virgin. I realize most guys will have had experiences by that age, so it's not something I'd expect. It would be a nice bonus, though, to know I wouldn't have to worry about any diseases.

 

The lack of any relationship experience wouldn't really bother me either. Just because somebody was shy, picky, not searching, etc. doesn't mean he might not be a great catch.

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If I was in my late 20s and dating, I'd actually prefer to find a virgin. I realize most guys will have had experiences by that age, so it's not something I'd expect. It would be a nice bonus, though, to know I wouldn't have to worry about any diseases.

 

The lack of any relationship experience wouldn't really bother me either. Just because somebody was shy, picky, not searching, etc. doesn't mean he might not be a great catch.

Interesting to hear

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I don't date men based on whether they are virgins or not.

 

I don't know if a man is a virgin or not when he initially shows interest and when I initially show interest. I assume he isn't but basically me dating him will be based on if I like him, if we've gone out and we have chemistry, I'm attracted, he has qualities I'm looking for etc. If all that is right I'm not gonna dump him because he's a virgin. I'd be surprised and honestly curious about why and would want to know more... If what he says is strange and seems like he has intimacy issues or something then maybe I'd pass but if what he says sounds fair then I'd still date him.

Intimacy issues? Like what?

If I was in my late 20s and dating, I'd actually prefer to find a virgin. I realize most guys will have had experiences by that age, so it's not something I'd expect. It would be a nice bonus, though, to know I wouldn't have to worry about any diseases.

 

The lack of any relationship experience wouldn't really bother me either. Just because somebody was shy, picky, not searching, etc. doesn't mean he might not be a great catch.

Interesting post :). Nice to hear.

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So says the gender who puts social status of guys above all else. Stating the obvious being a virgin guy is not good at all and being a player despite what your gender says, is a gargantuan plus.

Yeah I don't know that I wholly buy the 'it doesn't matter' claim, unless one is talking about conservative religious types who positively value virginity. If a guy doesn't have many friends, women will often wonder what's wrong with him (and operate from the assumption that there must be something wrong with him to not have many friends) and count it against him; that much is admitted pretty openly. So if a guy has no experience with women, I expect they would deduce the exact same thing: 'how can a guy go so long without getting any women to be willing to sleep with him?Wonder what's wrong with him.'

 

People estimate the value of things (and people) from how much other people value them. Can anyone really deny that women generally like the popular guy who everyone is friends with; and related to that, the guy who all the other women like? And consequently, the guy who has lots of experience with other women? It seems like a case of, on one had, people will say what they think is the 'right answer', the position to which they at least think they aspire, and then there's the more realistic, pragmatic, and cynical truth of the matter.

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Yeah I don't know that I wholly buy the 'it doesn't matter' claim, unless one is talking about conservative religious types who positively value virginity. If a guy doesn't have many friends, women will often wonder what's wrong with him (and operate from the assumption that there must be something wrong with him to not have many friends) and count it against him; that much is admitted pretty openly. So if a guy has no experience with women, I expect they would deduce the exact same thing: 'how can a guy go so long without getting any women to be willing to sleep with him?Wonder what's wrong with him.'

 

People estimate the value of things (and people) from how much other people value them. Can anyone really deny that women generally like the popular guy who everyone is friends with; and related to that, the guy who all the other women like? And consequently, the guy who has lots of experience with other women? It seems like a case of, on one had, people will say what they think is the 'right answer', the position to which they at least think they aspire, and then there's the more realistic, pragmatic, and cynical truth of the matter.

 

For me this is possibly the post of the week and I would like to hear the thoughts of others on this.

 

 

I think you hit the nail on the head with this, the only way to overcome this in my opinion is to find a free thinking female who doesn't put a premium on society, however they are about a rare as 2 weeks of sunny days in London.

 

 

What you touch on here is the severely judgemental way society views dating and to a larger degree sex.

 

 

I'd argue and I may be biased that the quiet guy with few friends has a lot more to offer a female from a commitment point of view than the player who has been around every bar in town, unfortunately females don't seem to see this.

 

 

If I could be crude for a minute. Females complain all guys want is sex, they complain guys hook up and use them but on the other hand they don't give the guys the time of day who actually don't want to use them as a F buddy, one night stand, notch on the belt.

 

 

I have never understood this logic.

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