Hyperfocal Posted June 6, 2015 Share Posted June 6, 2015 So I am new to this OLD thing, and find one profile that seems interesting based only on filled in fields such as "occupation" "education," "gender..." and the photos. The paragraph sections are blank. This is in the early 30's straight woman, FYI. One thing about my area is that I'd only message perhaps 5-10 women, there are not any more I'd be interested in. First I can speculated if it is a new member, she's not sure what to write, shy, or attention seeking (not seriously interested in anything.) But I do notice that the photos convey a person who is likely to be interesting and mature, so... How do I draft a 1st, email to this type. Normally my 1st emails have been like. "I enjoyed reading your profile, it appears that you have diverse interests. I share some of that ambition, periodically bending the Status Quo in order to live life more completely; perhaps one example is that I am on this site... I'd enjoy learning more about you; I look forward to hearing from you." I often include a question specific to their profile and one sentence that is more specific as well. While my first week has not been successful my expectations are low enough to not disappoint. So back to the question, is it worth messaging a minimalist profile person, and if so how? Thanks, Link to post Share on other sites
misspond Posted June 6, 2015 Share Posted June 6, 2015 Don't get your hopes up. As a 40-something woman I get lots of, "Hi" messages from men who have nothing at all in their profile, and whose age range is 29 - 79. I never reply. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 While the odds of her being your future wife are low, it certainly doesn't cost you much to shoot off an email and see what happens. Try to use some humor and say something relevant. I have been known to pay women little compliments or say I can't quite make out the color of your eyes or something when the have no pic as a way of breaking the ice. I went out with a woman this past weekend who had and still has an empty profile, and we're going out again next weekend too! She was worth taking a chance on. She did post a pic for me for one day (very attractive) and we've been emailing for a month--a lot more than I would normally do but I had a feeling abut her. She's interesting. So we'll see. Good luck with yours! Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Say "Hello. I noticed you didn't say much in your profile. I'd like to get to know you though" Then ask her a question that you're interested in. (make it something nonoffensive and that she'll have an easy time answering) You can also crack a joke. Women love funny men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hyperfocal Posted June 9, 2015 Author Share Posted June 9, 2015 I appreciate the advice folks. I think the Popsicle phrase is fitting and approachable. My weakness is that in text I am too formal, in person I am personable... I am zero for six so far in this 2 weeks of OLD, messaged 6 total, 2 are old profiles, 2 read and ignore, 1 has been online but not read... I am still learning the ropes, This mystery woman will be the seventh. I just don't care to robo-message women like some commodity, only interested in a few, this might take time. Thanks, Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Yeah, I seen these, too. I sometimes wonder if they are fakes or they keep the write-up to a minimum. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 (edited) I see that sometimes. I've mailed a couple, but I typically won't. It seems to me that you think that they are quite physically attractive. What I run into a little more often is because I am a 2nd generation minority, I'll see some profiles where the women are very cute but their English is just horrible. A couple have even viewed my profile first. And one was really hot. I won't send in that situation because I really am looking for a relationship and that would be incompatible. I would be down for no-strings sex or FWB with such women, but the chances that a woman wants that with me are about zero to zero. Also, just to let you know, since you say you are a newbie, if the woman is attractive, her profile could be bare and she would still get flooded with messages. Edited June 9, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Normally I would not bother putting in the effort to write to someone who can't be bothered to spend 2 minutes filling in a proper profile. Simply go to the next. I did once though, based on the photos alone, because that's all there was. I think my message went something like: "That's a nice camera you have in that photo, and a nice location. Is it Oxford?" or something like that. Got a response and met up a couple of days later. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 I'm guessing she hasn't fully committed to OLD - maybe didn't finish her profile because she wasn't yet ready to get underway. So I wouldn't get your hopes up. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Personally I would put something along the lines of Saw you haven't said much about yourself but did see x in your photos. Ask questions about that x what ever it was. If you say you enjoyed reading her profile then you are basically saying you enjoyed looking at her pictures and reading about her body statistics... Doesn't sound so great dos it?! Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts