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Texting: The passive communication


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A male friend of mine had met a woman online and had been texting with her. She was actually trying to set up a meet with him while he was in the middle of working on a yard project outside.

 

So, just imagine, one person (her) sitting on her couch at home, texting him...he...sees the texts, answers, puts the phone down, and works on his yard for 2 hrs while she's wondering wtf is taking him so long to respond.

 

So his responses had major gaps in time between while she was sitting there waiting on baited breath while making arrangements to meet.

 

So the conversation goes on something like this.

 

Her: "Would you like to meet up Saturday afternoon

 

Him: "I am not sure as I'm helping a friend move that afternoon and not sure if I can make it back in time to meet."

 

*Him, puts down the phone...works in the yard for an hour.

 

She responds quickly, as she's still sitting on the couch, treating the conversation as if it were real time.

 

Her: So how about we meet up on Sunday then?

 

Of course, he doesn't get back to her text until all that time in the yard and in the mean time she's getting irritated with his lack of response.

 

I fault him, because he never tells her what he's been doing this entire time.

 

He gets back to the phone and says, "I'll have to check to see what I have going on Sunday."

 

He puts down the phone and leaves to do whatever.

 

So here you have an irritated person trying to schedule a date right there on the spot while waiting him to take hours to reply.

 

These delays make her think he isn't really serious about meeting and expresses this in her final text to him.

 

It was only THEN he says back to her, "I was busy working in the yard in order to get back to you, but if you're going to be like that, then I wish you luck on your search."

 

I said to him, "How come you never said to her, 'How come you didn't say you were working in the yard , so there may be a delay in my response.' or 'I'm busy in the yard, can we talk later?'"

 

His response, "I didn't think about it at the time." Apparently, the thought never occurred to him to let her know what he's been up to during the entire conversation.

 

Anyhow, have you known this to happen? Has this caused people to be irritated? I used to get irritated back in the days of AIM (AOL instant messenger), but now...I just think "Well, I guess the person went off and did the laundry or something..."

 

But if it takes over a day for them to respond, then I'll follow-up.

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If she wanted a date, she should have called him. Anyone who believes that someone should drop everything while another person is texting them, is deluding themselves.

 

No guesses as to why that woman is still single.

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Art_Critic

dude, he wasn't interested in her and was doing it to mess with her.. seriously.. what a douche.

 

why is it you think it is so funny what he did ? the guy was being a tool, there is no way he wasn't doing it on purpose.. IMO

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Well... to be honest, more than the taking so long to reply, the content of the replies didn't really show his interest.

 

If I was the woman, I would have been pissed off as well, as it seems like the guy is just fobbing me off.

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Clarence_Boddicker

Normally when I'm texting I try to let the other person know what I'm doing & if I might not be able to respond in a normal timeframe, out of common courtesy. I've found texting is only a problem when people are inconsiderate or lazy. Of course there's sometimes when texting is not possible, just like calling isn't like during work.

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OMG. This is why I hate texting. I will never ever get into a relationship with a guy who starts out texting me asking me on a date or whatever. Ever. I refuse. I would rather be single than deal with this nonsense.

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