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Like does it take away, loneliness, make you feel more happy, does it make you have a glow on your face every day, do you have a reason to wake up in the morning...basically is it more healthy???

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Like does it take away, loneliness, make you feel more happy, does it make you have a glow on your face every day, do you have a reason to wake up in the morning...basically is it more healthy???

 

Depends on the relationship and depends on the individuals in the relationship. In terms of happiness, there tends to be a honeymoon period (~2 years) after which people regress back to the same level of happiness they had before the relationship.

 

In terms of health, married men are healthier overall than single men. Women don't see much of a change. Hard to know if marriage is causing it, or it's just that women are picking healthier men to start with.

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Like does it take away, loneliness,

not always...

 

make you feel more happy, does it make you have a glow on your face every day, do you have a reason to wake up in the morning...basically is it more healthy???

 

Generally speaking, to begin with, yes.

Then sometimes, when 'the Honeymoon' period is over, it stops being a Mills & Boon romance, and begins to be more like a cross between Roseanne and a Stephen King Novel....;)

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There is a very distinct difference between being lonely and simply being alone. Whilst the latter suggests that there just isn't anyone around, the former suggests that you WISH there was someone around.

 

Being alone only becomes a problem when you start to FEEL lonely. If you are truly content not being in a relationship, forming one won't have any real benefit to your life. But if you spend your time wishing you had someone to share your experiences/feelings with, then developing a relationship with someone will improve your life.

 

Relationships should be formed out of true desire to connect with someone else, not just boredom. If you are content being alone for now, stay alone. Don't enter a relationship as some kind of pastime.

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If you find yourself with someone yet back here asking, "is this right?", "should they/I have said/done this?", "what do you guys think?" then you're not in a good place and you're not going with the flow.

 

If you ain't here asking questions then you've got it all sussed.

 

And I'm not being sarcastic. When it's all good it's good.

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In itself it's no guarantee of happiness.

 

You will often read this here:

 

"We loved each other more than anything in the world. She was my everything, and we talked about getting married and having kids. True, we fought a lot, but it was a perfect relationship.

 

But she dumped me, and said she 'just couldn't do it anymore.'"

 

If that's a perfect relationship, how bad is a bad one?

 

There has to be PEACE.

 

Without that, no, relationships don't make you happy.

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In a way that's like asking if food in healthy. The knee jerk answer is yes but the more accurate answer is it depends on the relationship.

 

Just like food, some relationships are fulfilling and make you stronger. But others are toxic and make you worse and are worse than being on your own.

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in the beginning :-) and then.. you wake up and realize a relationship takes work, comes with problems, and isn't all *that* great. thumbs up to being single!

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Well it's been scientifically confirmed that having an orgasm once a day is quite healthy - but you don't need a relationship for that. :p It really depends on how well you click with your significant other.

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During the honeymoon stage definitely. The feeling is amazing when you are first falling in love. It's like friggin magic not to be cheesy ...lol. However, once the relationship becomes comfortable then small arguments start or compromises may need to happen, certain things annoy you about the person. It turns out to be not so fun anymore (some of the time).

 

So no I do not think a relationship improves your life. You as a person can improve your life single or in a relationship.

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Like does it take away, loneliness, make you feel more happy, does it make you have a glow on your face every day, do you have a reason to wake up in the morning...basically is it more healthy???

 

I have to envy the couples that are currently in their early 40s openly celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary with the "Loves of their lives" on Facebook.

 

Even after 20 years, it seems they are still shouting from the rooftops (or Facebook) their love for each other. I have to say it is surprising, these days, that their marriage has lasted that long.

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Put it this way, I wouldn't go back to being single for a billion dollars.

 

I know how hard it is to find love as it took 27 years to get there and I'd never willingly go back to life without it. Not a chance.

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Like does it take away, loneliness, make you feel more happy, does it make you have a glow on your face every day, do you have a reason to wake up in the morning...basically is it more healthy???

 

If your life is fulfilled, then yes, the right relationship will improve it. In fact, that's really the only reason. Your life is better with them in it, but you'd be ok if they weren't.

 

If you need a relationship to be the reason you get out of bed in the morning, then you're going to have a bad time.

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