My lover Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Nope. Some of us like smart, intellectuals. In my current relationship, *I* am the Bad Girl and I am often reminded how much I colored outside the box by my straight-laced, Good Boy... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 There is never a one size fits all in any category. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 I like smart mature adult men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. To get HOT women? Or to get A woman? If the former, then possibly so. Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Women and men want a challenge not a clingy, smoothering, patsy right out of the gate.. Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 (edited) Subconsciously almost every woman needs Alpha male traits in their partner to be fulfilled. That's a deep animalistic urge that is there for survival of the species. A lot of lesbian women with submissive traits seek female partners who have Alpha male traits. That doesn't mean they are secretly attracted to men. Yes there are some women who possess Alpha traits & seek partners with submissive traits, men or women. Some women are have submissive traits, yet are attracted to those with submissive traits, male or female. Some women have Alpha traits, yet are attracted to those with Alpha traits. Being a fake Alpha is a mistake, because she will eventually figure out that. Don't try to be something that you are not. Edited May 16, 2015 by Clarence_Boddicker 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Being a fake Alpha is a mistake, because she will eventually figure out that. Don't try to be something that you are not. Couldn't have said it better. Life is too short to be completely 180ing your personality to try and turn yourself into an Alpha stud, even though apparently some women love that. In any case, it's not really a transformation you can pull off anyway. I've seen many men fail miserably. Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 i think every woman wants her version of a 'man,' whatever that might be. the definition of bad will vary according to a woman's preferences; you just have to meet the woman who likes the badness quotient you present. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. In bed, yes Out of bed, be a good, strong man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 ummm it would be no......bad boys have short life spans....and even shorter relationship spans...no guts...no honor....no reality...ever seen a bad boy with a walker....well no.....i want to grow old with someone and walk like penguins....my guy has to out live me..for if he doesnt.....i wont be long behind him...........not going into why...so my good guy....he is the one i am looking for...deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Couldn't have said it better. Life is too short to be completely 180ing your personality to try and turn yourself into an Alpha stud, even though apparently some women love that. In any case, it's not really a transformation you can pull off anyway. I've seen many men fail miserably. I don't really see 'alpha' as a positive thing. I would say many women and men agree. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 At some point you will learn that it's just a phase and honestly if a woman is over 25 still looking for that then it's best to run like hell. She hasn't matured. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
bebe23 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 You know I've never heard the term 'alpha male' referred to human beings at all until I started reading forums like this. Before, it was only nature documentaries about animals that used this! It seems like a new 21st century buzzword. I have been trying to type males I know as alpha or beta, and I honestly do NOT know! Most seem in-between. Normal. So probably every guy I know is a beta, I guess. My husband is probably a beta- a nice, moral, loyal guy- but when we were younger he had sort of a little- I dunno- I'd call it a 'badass' streak. When we dated he did dangerous things like ride a motorcycle in the rain at high speeds, or physically challenging, daredevil stuff. I did like that about him. (These days he doesn't have time or energy to do those things, and I kind of miss seeing it.) I have come across very few 'bad boy' or 'alpha' men in my life. Probably because I've never associated in the kind of circles that they do- bars, clubs, etc. Libraries and coffee shops are more my style! The true 'bad' men, as in men who have committed crimes or hurt others, are often quiet and mild mannered on the surface. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. In short: no. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Women like men they can respect and nobody will respect you if you don't respect yourself. It seems that the only men these days with some self respect are the bad boys or those who think for themselves and aren't bound by rules. This society wants men to neuter ourselves and bad boys seem to be the only ones who refuse to do that which is attractive to women. You can have self respect and still have ethics which is just as attractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 ummm it would be no......bad boys have short life spans....and even shorter relationship spans...no guts...no honor....no reality...ever seen a bad boy with a walker....well no.....i want to grow old with someone and walk like penguins....my guy has to out live me. Yes, this is your view now...but in your 20s I bet it was different. I thought when you were younger you dated a rugby player and a martial arts tough guy. In their 20s especially the bad boy appeals. Then it doesn't matter if he has a short life span or short relationship span, as people tend to live for the short term then not the long term. Not being nasty but for guys what really resonates with them is what women want (or what they actually do more so then what they say they want) in the prime sexy years. My sisters, like most (not all but) of their friends seemed to into the badboy type guys. They grew out of it by mid 20s. A bad boy doesn't really have to be one. It can totally be style over substance. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 What women wouldn't want a straight thug with a drug problem, sh*t tatted on his face and 2 felonies? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Most women want a bad boy who knows how to be a good man 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 There is a world of difference between a bad boy who walks to the beat of his own drum and one that is just balls out disrespectful. One can be sexy but the other is not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 (edited) Yes, this is your view now...but in your 20s I bet it was different. I thought when you were younger you dated a rugby player and a martial arts tough guy. In their 20s especially the bad boy appeals. Then it doesn't matter if he has a short life span or short relationship span, as people tend to live for the short term then not the long term. Not being nasty but for guys what really resonates with them is what women want (or what they actually do more so then what they say they want) in the prime sexy years. My sisters, like most (not all but) of their friends seemed to into the badboy type guys. They grew out of it by mid 20s. A bad boy doesn't really have to be one. It can totally be style over substance. no actually it wasnt different.....i am loyal.....i expected the same...i wen tout with physically peak men...because i was into that.ex military....dancer......i was also into helping others...and both those guys you mentioned worked with kids with issues...one worked with homeless street kids taught them break dancing to fill in time ....and the other....he worked at a handicapped childrens home where they had a boy who was kept in a cage for years and clucked like a chicken...they were tough men...still are.....i saw something in them...plus ill add.......that me goign out with them i see now as i direct link to my childhood......what i sought out was men who helped kids.....deb... Edited May 17, 2015 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 There is a world of difference between a bad boy who walks to the beat of his own drum and one that is just balls out disrespectful. One can be sexy but the other is not. ^^^^This^^^^ Bad boys usually exude confidence and often take a stand against society and its norms. Young women brought up to be "nice", can be drawn to men who can confidently pitch themselves against the norm, who can look society and everyone else in the face and say "who cares? I'll do what I want" Confidence is very, very attractive to most and especially to people who may not be all that confident themselves. "I may not be able to push my weight around, but when I am with him, we both can." Some see the "bad boy" as a project, someone to heal, someone to cure. They excuse his bad behaviour - "He had a bad childhood, his mother didn't love him, but I will." Some see him as a challenge, he may be a lion to everyone else but to me he is a big pussy cat - "I am soooo special, I tamed the lion." Being a dare devil is also highly attractive, because he dares, he is brave, he has courage, whilst others including herself will duck out. He is thus special, a one off and uniqueness is also very attractive. He may kill himself on a motor bike, and be pretty foolish with his own life, but his daring tends to trump all that. He is a hero. Being a real "bad boy" is not easily copied, those that try are often found to be weak. They are nasty to or push "helpless" women around, but when other men or real opponents arrive, they duck out. Their "daring" stunts flop, or are are seen to be easily copied by just about anyone. They are NOT their own man, they do not exude confidence in their own skin, they whine, they are sarcastic, they are arrogant or entitled. They see women as "the enemy" and disrespect them, because they are too weak to stand up for themselves and accept women for what they are, just other human beings. Women tend to grow out of wanting "bad boys" and those that try and fail to copy them - they just want real confident men. As Michelle says "men who walk to the beat of their own drum." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 I frequently leave the lights on at night for which i am admonished for by my `Flame` How bad is that? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 (edited) Define 'bad boy'. If it means a criminal record, angry / pointlessly rebellious attitude, kicking off / pulling a disappearing act every time things get tough, saying disgusting or provocatively insensitive stuff under the guise of 'saying what's on his mind', forgetting how to use a shower, severe lack of body hygiene, treating his partner like a punch bag (emotionally or worse), then no. If it means someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to get it (confidence and respect for himself and others = perfect combo), then yes. That said, some women are suckers for punishment and will go for these types of bad boys because they either lack confidence or are completely blinded by their feelings. Works both ways, too. Edited May 17, 2015 by PrettyEmily77 Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 The deep desire for a Alpha personality diminishes, once she is pregnant & is into nesting mode. Then a beta personality becomes more attractive. Supposedly modern birth control can alter or tweak these instinctual urges, by altering hormonal levels. Remember that in most humans (male & female) there is a constant internal conflict between the conscious & subconscious parts of the mind. When a girl tells you that she's confused, or doesn't know what she wants, believe her & understand it might be due to things out of her control. Link to post Share on other sites
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