jonwashington Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 hi everyone so i started working as a loss prevention officer/security at a big warehouse recently. you are not really supposed to associate with any of the workers in the warehouse because the company doesnt want you to share info with the workers. (ex. whos getting in trouble, who stole what. etc.) or if someone your friends with gets in trouble you would probably want to tell them beforehand. or you might be able to show someone how to get away with something..you get the point anyways. i had no intention of liking anyone there. so i was wrong because the most beautiful girl works there. 1 day a week i will do a door check and watch everyone come in the building. every time i say hi to her or she will say hi to me. whenever i say hi to her she gives me like a fake smile and looks forward past me. my first day my boss showed me something directly in front of her and i knew she was looking at me but i chose not to look at her. i smiled at her one time outside and she looked down right away. ill ask her how shes doing and she will like half smile, say "fine" and look down. i want to stop her or joke with her but im half scared because i dont want to be caught doing something im not supposed to. i have not crossed the line because i am worried for my job but at the same time i am slowly learning its not a big deal as long as your not obvious about it and there is some wiggle room. today she looked at me and spilt her drink she was carrying. i do feel like her fake smile is nerves. but i dont want to build myself up for no reason. i am a good looking guy, i have a been a salesman and have no problem talking to anyone.i see other women at the warehouse all look at me and even say things out loud when i walk by but this girl is not like that. i am so nervous to talk to her for some reason its either because im scared for my job or shes just so pretty. so does a fake smile mean shes nervous or does it mean nothing at all? did i screw up by not being playful with her? most of you will probly say dude just keep your job who cares. but i think this girl is the most beautiful girl i have ever seen. do girls give fake smiles when they are nervous? or doesnt think shes good enough because of where she works? idk thats not really right to say. any info or thoughts guys? Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 She could be nervous because you work in loss prevention. Some people have a habit of feeling nervous and anxious around people such as police officers, loss prevention and security guards, even when they have done nothing wrong. Its the fear of getting into trouble for something you didn't do. It would explain all the behaviors you described. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 A nervous smile is not a fake smile.....and she sounds nervous more than anything maybe its because of where you work.....she isnt cut out for it.....or maybe its you...whatever it i s...sounds more like nerves than anything else....and nerves arent fake they are deeply felt...the awkward smile the clumsiness.....all point to nerves...something about you affects her....best wishes....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author jonwashington Posted May 19, 2015 Author Share Posted May 19, 2015 A nervous smile is not a fake smile.....and she sounds nervous more than anything maybe its because of where you work.....she isnt cut out for it.....or maybe its you...whatever it i s...sounds more like nerves than anything else....and nerves arent fake they are deeply felt...the awkward smile the clumsiness.....all point to nerves...something about you affects her....best wishes....deb well its like a smile you give someone to be nice..not like a "hi ur cute smile" just like a idk fake smile! but i think girls can still give that weird smile if they like you because they don't know what to do lol ..maybe she thinks i like her so i freak her out? but i haven't done anything for her to think that..how do i determine if she's nervous because I'm security or nervous because she likes me? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 well its like a smile you give someone to be nice..not like a "hi ur cute smile" just like a idk fake smile! but i think girls can still give that weird smile if they like you because they don't know what to do lol ..maybe she thinks i like her so i freak her out? but i haven't done anything for her to think that..how do i determine if she's nervous because I'm security or nervous because she likes me? Just be friendly......thats my honest answer the more you show her friendliness if she is nervous she will relax enough to maybe start talking to you.....and if she is insecure because you are security its the same deal...friendliness will allow you to get to know her...if you dont include friendliness and an open demeanour...you wont ever know i guess..which it is....the only way you can get to know someone and their ways is observe how they react to you and the people around them..especially in regards too certain smiles....or looks....it is fact that if you are open and your face is open and friendly....it will spread out.....and mirroring happens,friendliness is also infectious..........deb.... Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Real smiles include eye wrinkles and some sustainted eye contact, fake smiles don't. My guess is that she is aware that you are interested and she is being civil but giving you all the social cues not to approach her by breaking and sometimes not giving eye contact and giving a civil smile rather than a welcoming eye wrinkled one. If she liked you and was happy for you to approach she would be more forthcoming with smiles and eye contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jonwashington Posted May 20, 2015 Author Share Posted May 20, 2015 i get that but if there was a girl that likes me that i didnt like at all i wouldn't continue to look at them..i would get annoyed and just walk by after a while.yes i definitley know what it looks like when a girl likes you and makes it obvious. but theres girls that make it obvious and then people that don't. i know when i like a girl i don't make it obvious. i kind of play it cool. idk. theres girls there that push their friends into me when I'm there and laugh because they like me so idk why this girl that i like wouldn't like me back. i don't know how to get to the second stage because she just walks by me and smiles Link to post Share on other sites
Author jonwashington Posted December 12, 2015 Author Share Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) Okay guys remember me? Posted about a girl giving fake smiles. ?? Well after i posted this original thread in May things actually turned out how i thought.i just chilled and did my job and now... A few weeks ago a guy came up to me and said that the girl that was giving me fake smiles wants me to talk to her. Which surprised me. So i went to talk to her. She does not look me in the eye at all and looks down with that smile wenever i walk past her still. She speaks loud and clearly wen i do talk to her though. I finally approached her and asked how her night was(we work night shift) and i said ill see you tomorrow.the next day she walked right past me and didnt look at me and i said "wow you dont say hi to me " playfully and she laughed and said hi. Later in the night i i worked near her(i am loss prevention. she is an employee inside) she came to me and said "hi my friend" and i said "ohhy your my friend? But you didnt say hi when you walked in tonight" (she does this play it cool act )then i told her if shes good i might put her number in my phone and she said okay with a smile. It seems like she has this play it cool attitude like she wont talk to me unless i say something her and she looks down when ever i walk past her. The next day i knew she was working but played dumb when i walked past her and said "your working tonight? and she said "yaaa" in an obviously kind of tone. But it was a night she normally wouldnt work I dont even know how shes attracted to me because it seems like she doesnt look at me to see what i even look like lol unless she does it secretly. Shes very gorgeous. But is she just doing it for attention?because shes bored? And wants to see if she can get the somewhat handsome guards attention? It seems totally submissive of her to look down always and not in my eyes. But plays it cool wen i talk to her and gives answrrs. I end up feeling bad about myself because i dont know if im just playing myself or i look dumb. I dont want to sweat her and make it look like i need her but also dont want her to get sick of me not making a real move. What do i do? Or am i doing okay. Is it her nerves that make her act like this. ? I am proud that we now speak after me admiring her for so long. When i flirt with her she seems like she likes me. But when she does her little play it cool act i feel like she doesnt like me and i feel like im playing myself. Is she just shy and i have to do all the work? Edited December 12, 2015 by jonwashington Link to post Share on other sites
Redfisher Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Dude she wants you...Man up and you can have your man card back. Link to post Share on other sites
deep_night Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 when im into someone i certainly cant look them in the eye and on top of that i panic so much that my facial muscles don't work properly. i may be smiling from happiness inside, but i'll still be a nervous wreck (secretly) and won't be able to put together even a simple smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jonwashington Posted December 14, 2015 Author Share Posted December 14, 2015 FML...so remember i said that someone told me the girl i liked wanted me to talk to her??? turns out it was another girl...not the girl i liked...he pointed in her direction and both girls were standing next to eachother...i assumed it was the girl i liked..so i have been talking to the girl i like all along and she never even told anyone to say anything to me....LOL does it still seem like she kinda is interested by the way she is talking ?i kind of do??im kind of pissed...BUT me thinking she said something gave me the balls to talk to her..WTFFF any thoughts??? Link to post Share on other sites
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