I_Squared_R Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I have never landed dates like I have recently - at least I think they are dates. None of these women ever became romantic and I get launched into the friend zone so quick I don't even know what happened. I am a late college student and take classes at night where there is ton of people my age. I find it so easy to take these women out for coffee, lunch, or dinner when you share the same class. Last week I had three dates.. Each one labeled me as just as a friend. The crazy thing is, they were fascinated by me. They all think the same of me; intelligent, active, entrepreneur, "most likely to succeed". I remain very humble when I talk with them, but I am starting to believe that im just not attractive looking even though I do my best to take care of myself and be fit. I have never had a girlfriend - I always spent my time improving on myself and doing my hobbies. Being an introvert for so long made me very talented and made me alot of money while other people spent their time chasing women. An older married woman I talk to thinks that maybe they're intimidated by me. I don't think so. I like to think that they benefit by being friendly with me or I just know how to propose a date. Another friend thinks that I should be more forward and aggressive. He's one of those people that date for sex, nothing else and nothing more. I start to think that maybe thats what everyone is looking for? Do people really not care about personality? Its as if women just want a good looking guy thats good in bed or alot of money. Im neither of those. I was thinking that when my company gets more successful it will be easier since I will have a nice income and a nice car.. I got to have some sort of advantage right? Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 What are you doing on these dates? Do you flirt? Do you steer the conversation toward romantic pursuits? Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Is it clear that you're not just hanging out as friends? Are you making it clear that you're asking them out on dates? Link to post Share on other sites
Author I_Squared_R Posted May 5, 2015 Author Share Posted May 5, 2015 Is it clear that you're not just hanging out as friends? Are you making it clear that you're asking them out on dates? Oh yeah absolutely. Alot of flirting goes on before. The one girl I wasn't sure about so I asked her what time our *date* was then she hit me with the friend speech after our *date*. We went out a few times before that as well. I thought she was just shy because she wasn't too flirty. She liked to call me at night and have long conversations with me. Her phone was terrible so I told her "we have to go look at phones for you" and she said "noo dont buy me anything" which striked me as odd because I had no intentions anyway The other girl was very flirty, we went out and it went pretty good then she only replies to texts when she feels like it. I am not good at flirting on dates. I am very good over texts though I can think and be creative - in person I have difficulty coming up with the material that I do over texting. Of course it's a 2 way street so it's worthless if she isnt actively involved in flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
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