LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Went on this 3-day gathering on the coast. Most of us got our own hotel rooms, some paired up 50/50 couples, some singles of the same gender paired up and split the costs. One of the men there didn't seem to be into any women (he's single and one of the hosts). You know how some men attempt to spend an inoridinate amount of time with a woman, sometimes you'll see them flirtin' back and forth, but I hardly saw him really even getting to know anyone. There was this other woman. I knew her from the old days of Meetup, she pretty much fell off the radar and just randomly pops up. I was like "long time no see!" She said she's just been busy lately with work and had at one time been seeing someone out of town. Come Sun morning, saw them cuddling up together on a bench, holding hands. I was kind of taken aback because I never saw them together in any romantic capacity. They weren't a couple when they got there that's for sure, but sure came out one. I mean, I could've asked "So ya'll hook up last night?" But I didn't. lol Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'm so glad you didn't say anything like that, it would have sounded a bit like a dig and would have been inappropriate. You can't expect to know people's private business just because you know the people. Maybe they knew each other before the weekend and wanted to see how they got along and grab some time away from the crowd. A weekend away with a group and without pressure is the perfect opportunity for that. Or maybe they met this weekend and did the same, again, prefect opportunity. Good for them! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'm so glad you didn't say anything like that, it would have sounded a bit like a dig and would have been inappropriate. You can't expect to know people's private business just because you know the people. Maybe they knew each other before the weekend and wanted to see how they got along and grab some time away from the crowd. A weekend away with a group and without pressure is the perfect opportunity for that. Or maybe they met this weekend and did the same, again, prefect opportunity. Good for them! Yeah, good for them. :-) I often wondered that myself. But I'm not sure if women want to get hit on at an event like this and I tend to enjoy the event for what it is. I wasn't really looking to garner really much interest from the women there as I figured that we were bonding and perhaps have future opportunities to get together like this. I'm not much for instant coupling I suppose. Some groups schedule cruises as well and I wonder if some men have their "eye" on certain women as they board the ramp. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 This reminds me of a camping trip, where a man (in his 50s), had asked a woman he had the hots for to carpool with him and share a camper with him that he hauled to the site. Yes, they shared sleeping quarters with each other....and she enabled it. People were teasin them, "If this campers a rockin' don't come a knockin"...and he was kind of possessive of her at the trip...not in a jealous fashion, but making it look to other people as if they were "together" in a romantic sense. This was awkward for her...and at the end of the trip he asked her to be his girlfriend and she turned him down....ouch and after having shared sleeping quarters together he didn't get the answer he expected. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Yeah, good for them. :-) I often wondered that myself. But I'm not sure if women want to get hit on at an event like this and I tend to enjoy the event for what it is. I wasn't really looking to garner really much interest from the women there as I figured that we were bonding and perhaps have future opportunities to get together like this. I'm not much for instant coupling I suppose. Some groups schedule cruises as well and I wonder if some men have their "eye" on certain women as they board the ramp. Seize the day! I guess "bonding" may be putting you straight into the friendzone. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Seize the day! I guess "bonding" may be putting you straight into the friendzone. Absolutely 'Seize the day!'. If I like a guy and was on a weekend away such as this I would go for it, I would hope he would too. The only reason not to would be circumstances eg. the person I liked was already with someone or me or he were not in a position to date for some reason. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 The women probably don't want to be hit on, but many single people are hoping to meet that someone special who makes them feel all giddy inside. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 The women probably don't want to be hit on, but many single people are hoping to meet that someone special who makes them feel all giddy inside. I have to admit that I don't even really know what 'hit on' means. It sounds like something teenagers would do and it doesn't sound very nice! Then again, I am from the UK so maybe it just doesn't translate well. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I have to admit that I don't even really know what 'hit on' means. It sounds like something teenagers would do and it doesn't sound very nice! Then again, I am from the UK so maybe it just doesn't translate well. Hit on - to show someone that you are sexually attracted to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I have to admit that I don't even really know what 'hit on' means. It sounds like something teenagers would do and it doesn't sound very nice! Then again, I am from the UK so maybe it just doesn't translate well. It makes me think of pick up lines, and random attempts to pick up any woman at all (vs two people naturally gravitating toward each other and feeling mutual interest). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Hit on - to show someone that you are sexually attracted to them. I keep looking back at this and can't help laughing! Sorry Elaine! : All that keeps running through my mind is sidling up to a guy in a crowd really creepily and saying: 'Hey! Look! All I have to do is stand next to you and look at those nipples on my puppies man!! Imma taking you home hot stuff!' Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Seize the day! I guess "bonding" may be putting you straight into the friendzone. Not sure how you would surmise such a silly notion as I think quite the opposite would be true as the other option would just be a short term fling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Actually 'hit on" is usually defined by the individual (woman) being approached. I've noticed if it's a man they aren't into, they'll use a term that has a negative connotation..."hit on". If it's by a man they have thw hots for...."fllirting" or some other positive term is used. It makes me think of pick up lines, and random attempts to pick up any woman at all (vs two people naturally gravitating toward each other and feeling mutual interest). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DivorcedDad123 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 "Love the one you're with" Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Not sure how you would surmise such a silly notion as I think quite the opposite would be true as the other option would just be a short term fling. I believe what she meant by 'bonding may be putting you straight in the friend zone' is that if you don't express an interest in terms more than just as an acquaintance or friend straight at the start then she will not think you have any interest in her sexually/romantically. It's not a silly notion at all. Must admit I have dated people after knowing them a while or gone on a date soon after meeting them first time but either way I have always known for sure they were interested in me in that way right from the first time we laid eyes on each other, then it was only a matter of time/situation. If of course I was not interested I would make sure they got all the signals of only being an acquaintance/friend in my eyes. Vice versa too - I have read those signals clearly from guys too when I have become aware they were not interested in dating me and it was only ever just friendship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Some situations it's too soon to tell, but if she's being a *itch or acting obnoxious. ... then you know quickly. There was this one man on our excursion that's self admittedly obnoxious in his attempt at being cute or funny. Thing is...he doesn't know when to stop. Lol and is universally a turn off Link to post Share on other sites
Moy Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Actually 'hit on" is usually defined by the individual (woman) being approached. I've noticed if it's a man they aren't into, they'll use a term that has a negative connotation..."hit on". If it's by a man they have thw hots for...."fllirting" or some other positive term is used. Unattractive man says hi: "Ewwww, he's creepy!" Attractive man says hi in exactly the same manner as the unattractive man: "Awww, he's cute!" Link to post Share on other sites
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