My lover Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Men myself inluded find reading a woman's body language and signs of interest very difficult. How do I know?. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
utilisateur Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Good question. I wish I had the answer. I can't tell if a woman is attracted to me or if she's just being really friendly. Lately I've decided to ask her out if she's friendly because it's better to ask and know for sure than to chicken out and never know. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
zebracolors Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Depends on the situation and location. If its a stranger in a place like Starbucks or something, that I'm curious about, I will usually start by smiling at him, casually trying to make eye contact with brief glances. Don't want to seem like I'm staring at him. But a lot of the times the guy is just oblivious and doesn't notice. Though In a place like that, I'd never approach the guy unless he seemed to return my curiosity. So you have to be observant of people around you. But if its at a night club or meet up thing, I personally have no trouble with approaching and making small talk if it looks like he is receptive. So even in a social situation like this you also have to be observant. Link to post Share on other sites
Cool Mandrid Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 When I am interested in a guy, I like to look and glance at them a lot, smile a little bit, and just generally try to be polite but observing. If a girl is looking at you and seems to be in a happy mood, you guys have eye contact and she responds in a positive manner/with a happy expression, don't be afraid to approach her, I'd say. Just be polite and introducing. I know that if I didn't want to talk to a guy, I wouldn't be looking at them all the time like a kid in a candy store. Seriously though, don't be that dude that is too cool for approaching first, if there is anything a typical average girl likes, it's to be treated like she has something about her of value, and to be pursued. We have watched too many Disney movies that our minds are mostly brainwashed into still wanting to be a Princess with a Prince and all that non-sense. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Men myself inluded find reading a woman's body language and signs of interest very difficult. How do I know?. Please help. When she's interested, she'll show you a sign. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Lingering eye contact, or furtive but repeated glances in your direction. She smiles genuinely at you. If this happens, just approach her, introduce yourself, and ask if she was looking/smiling at you. If she says she wasn't, just apologize that you made a mistake, and walk away. If she says she was, then there's your green light. Another good way is to crack a joke at an opportune time based on the situation. Exchange a few words, and if you are getting her to look at you and smile, introduce yourself and ask her out. When she's interested, she'll show you a sign. That's a perfect indicator. The world needs more brave and feisty women like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you feel like there's enough positive eye contact going on, just approach her. If she's not interested, she'll tell you. Politely apologize & leave her alone. Your best lesson is experience. Here's an easy way to build some confidence talking to random girls: look for a wardrobe malfunction. If you see a tag or hanger strap obviously exposed, politely let her know about it. Just don't be creepy about it. If she's wearing a ring, don't be flirty. If no ring, say something like: I couldn't help but notice...If she's open to chat, be friendly. If she says thanks & closes up, walk away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 good looking men get a lot more practice flirting with women Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 How do I know if a woman is flirting and giving me a green light to approach her? IMO, different aspects - flirting is fairly easy, in that the lady's body language, actions and words are focused on a particular man and are decidedly more sexual than platonic. 'Green light' is a bit more ambiguous, if not accompanied by flirting. I generally note it as holding a steady gaze in response to mine, sometimes breaking that gaze, sometimes with a bit of a wry smile, along with open body language the focuses in my direction. However, none of this necessarily means she's attracted; it could, sure. It merely means, in that moment, a particular man has caught her attention and she'd like the attention of that man and is signaling him to engage. My best lessons in this realm were provided by women who turned out to be married. Great practice. Why? They liked the attention and were comfortable in actively seeking it out since they knew nothing would come of it. Still, the basics of the process held steady throughout interactions over time. The lesson learned was to separate attention seeking in the moment from sincere attraction and interest and to refrain from jumping to premature conclusions such as 'she likes me'. In some cases, it was simply 'she likes that I like her'. I was, largely, irrelevant. My attention was the product sought. Since all interactions are risks and the results unknown, more practice brings greater odds of success, so don't worry about the particulars and get out there. Kneel down before the god of reproduction and do your part. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Of course it depends how bold she is. A social person who thinks you might be interesting will just say something to you. A less bold one will put herself in your vicinity or next to you when possible and hope you talk to her. A very shy woman (and I've never personally known one in my 62 years) probably won't do anything you could interpret as friendly. She may give the cold shoulder or just keep her head down. The whole point is if certain ones are interested, they will be friendly. If other types think maybe you're interesting, you will never know. But the point is YOU be the friendly one who goes up and says hi and talks to people you're standing next to or the one who looks briefly at everyone, not just girls, in the hall and nods, smiles or acknowledges them, and then you won't have to play the guessing game. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 10 cues that a woman is interested http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-proven-signs-shes-interested.html I had a buddy in college that could read women incredibly well. There was one woman who wanted to sleep with me and he knew after seeing her look at me for about two seconds. I had suspected but wasn't sure until she came on to me directly. But he knew it in an instant. Pretty damned impressive. Link to post Share on other sites
Bolacool Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 The above responses had hit the nail on the head. So the ball is now in your court. The information given are enough to make you a master of the game, therefore, don't sit ideal, the key word is that go out there and feel the pulse. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Necris Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Personally I never get signals at all and i just approach anyway. Of course ive bever really had success but yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Don't want to hijack the thread, but you just made me wonder how men express their interest. To be honest, I have no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Don't want to hijack the thread, but you just made me wonder how men express their interest. To be honest, I have no idea. Come have a drink with me and I'll show you how it's done. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Come have a drink with me and I'll show you how it's done. That line right there would be enough of a sign for me. Only that unless the guy has had his fair share of drinks I'll get looks, then I look back, then he looks away, then back, then away again and then he's gone. Ah well. I'll stick to the slightly intoxicated ones I guess. Might be a good approach for guys to hit it off with slightly intoxicated girls as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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