Can your FB page make you look sexist?

[LookAtThisPOst]

I am not sure if "sexist" is the proper word, but let's say you're a man and single, and are seen with photos of you with Hooters waitresses, or you "liked" a few "biker babes" or "girls in bikinis" pages.

 

Would women judge you as a pig for doing so? I remember someone having made a comment on me having attended a sci-fi convention some time ago where she unfriended me on FB because I had too many "19-year olds" posing with me in pictures I had uploaded. They were actually in their early 30's as I knew a lot of these women in real life.

 

I mean , excuse ME for wanting a pic with the green lady from Star Trek, yes? lol Or the woman in the Slave Leah bikini.

 

Thoughts on this? Should some people just lighten up?

[PegNosePete]

I have some friends who often share/like revealing pics of models, have many female facebook friends but few male ones, and pay a lot more attention to women on facebook. It does make them appear... not sexist as such, more like a man-tart or womanizer. If I were a woman, that behaviour would probably put me off.

[Woggle]

If they do think that don't worry about it. No matter what you do somebody will have a problem with it so stop caring what they think.

[Toodaloo]

As a woman, we know men like to look. In general, unless we are very insecure, then it doesn't bother us all that much at all.

 

Depends on how much you have going on there really. Have you got other pages or just ones sporting half naked women... If its a couple and the rest are all general interest don't worry. If its more than say around 20 - 30% delete a few off.

 

Peg Nose is right. Too much and you just look like a slapper, desperate or a pervert...

 

To be honest I don't know any man who wouldn't want a hug with "Slave" Leah... Or a Hooters girl for that matter... Its fun!

 

Remember that some women DO need to get a life and you probably don't want to attract those! Most of the women I know are the ones taking the picture while their husbands/ other halves pose with semi clad 20 yr olds... Its ok we understand, the vast majority of us don't care about it, just don't go over board with it as that just gets dull and a bit pathetic.

[xxoo]

If it's a once-in-a-while thing, it can be silly fun.

 

If it's a common thing, it's pathetic and immature.

[E-Squared]

I am guilty of having "liked" several bikini models, whether they are fitness models or just regular lingerie/swimsuit models. I don't think it should matter. I mean come on, those women are bound to get male attention. However, I don't share the pictures. I remember relatives of mine mentioned to me in person about the hot models who I "like."

[Rejected Rosebud]

If somebody doesn't like you because of what you chose to post on fb then you would not be compatible with them - so who cares really, put up what you like!!! You might be a sexist though ...

[preraph]

If a guy was posting photos of himself at Hooter's as if he was posing with celebrities, then I would automatically write him off as immature and idiotic. Sorry. We all know you care more about boobs than just about anything. We don't need to see a scrapbook about it.

[GemmaUK]

Oh boy!

 

 

I see SO many pics on FB and when I was on OLD of guys standing with women at car shows or celebrities or something similar and yep I would avoid them like the plague.

 

 

It just looks a bit sad.

 

 

Same as selfies and this is what I had for lunch.

Teeedium!!

 

 

I work with a woman who you would think is just a normal older lady with a bit of rock chick/hippy (but age appropriate) dress sense..

Not many folk know that she was in fact married to a hugely famous rock star who is the father of her two sons and that she toked with John Lennon.

She doesn't need to advertise (she has no need to as she knows who she has met and what she has done) and keeps her stuff to herself..unless you ask.

When you ask..it's real..her stories are amazing! She plays them all down.

 

 

I could tell stories about me and people I have met and I have met qyite a lot of celebs but..they are my memories. I would never post pictures on FB. I'd look like a saddo!

[MissBee]

I am not sure if "sexist" is the proper word, but let's say you're a man and single, and are seen with photos of you with Hooters waitresses, or you "liked" a few "biker babes" or "girls in bikinis" pages.

 

Would women judge you as a pig for doing so? I remember someone having made a comment on me having attended a sci-fi convention some time ago where she unfriended me on FB because I had too many "19-year olds" posing with me in pictures I had uploaded. They were actually in their early 30's as I knew a lot of these women in real life.

 

I mean , excuse ME for wanting a pic with the green lady from Star Trek, yes? lol Or the woman in the Slave Leah bikini.

 

Thoughts on this? Should some people just lighten up?

 

Everything we do says a lot about us.

 

People read us all the time based on what we say, what we "like", pictures we choose to put up etc. They all tell something about us, and maybe what the person thinks isn't exactly accurate, but it's not necessarily unreasonable to decide that how someone presents themselves isn't something you gel with.

 

I personally know a man who always has pictures up of Hooter girls or is liking "Big Boobs" pages and so on is incompatible with me for MANY reasons.

[preraph]

OP, I would just say that when you get ready to actually date women rather than collect photos to ogle of them, you should take that kind of stuff off whatever social media you're using to attract women. Posting pictures of boobs, contrary to what many new age thinkers might argue, does not make the universe send you boobs.

[GemmaUK]

OP, I would just say that when you get ready to actually date women rather than collect photos to ogle of them, you should take that kind of stuff off whatever social media you're using to attract women. Posting pictures of boobs, contrary to what many new age thinkers might argue, does not make the universe send you boobs.

 

 

 

Maybe I am wrong in thinking that he should be honest about what he likes?

If the OP wishes and likes to post this kind of pic there isn't actually anything wrong with it - it's his taste.

 

 

Does it not give a false impression if he changes his actions/behaviour?

If a guy sees adding a pic of him when he met Mr Spock as cool then that IS him. To some women that would be fine, not to all but to some.

 

 

I would rather know upfront and have an option to choose whether I am interested in said guy or not.

[Vercetti]

Better idea, no Facebook page and let people discover you by being with you. Or can wonder if being a status seeking mouth breather makes you look like a tool.

 

Really, think a girl hanging off trolls in dives with a series of likes on magic Mike fan pages would make me dig deeper. Nope, that's the image wants to paint...So even if not the " real person " something is off with the girl.

[No Limit]

I wouldn't mind the "liking" but if his avatar picture and everything consisted of barely-clothed women only it'd be a dealbreaker for me.

[preraph]

Maybe I am wrong in thinking that he should be honest about what he likes?

If the OP wishes and likes to post this kind of pic there isn't actually anything wrong with it - it's his taste.

 

 

Does it not give a false impression if he changes his actions/behaviour?

If a guy sees adding a pic of him when he met Mr Spock as cool then that IS him. To some women that would be fine, not to all but to some.

 

 

I would rather know upfront and have an option to choose whether I am interested in said guy or not.

 

You have a point. Forewarned is forearmed. But he did ask if it was sexist, so...

[xxoo]

Maybe I am wrong in thinking that he should be honest about what he likes?

 

Do we really want men we date to be honest about how many women they are sexually attracted to? That much honesty is just oversharing. It's ok to keep some thoughts to ourselves.

[guest569]

Once a friend was trying to set me up with a man and showed me his facebook page. His interests included 'anti-feminism' so yes, he appeared very sexist.

 

If a man bombards facebook with semi-naked women I don't think it's sexist but I would find it a bit offputting.

[rester]

I'm quite certain I would not have a girlfriend nor the respect of a lot of my friends if I were posting things like that on facebook. Maybe they and I are all judgmental a-holes but this sort of thing does come across as trashy and immature to me. I don't know anyone personally that has or would do this.

 

edited to add...what if a business contact or coworker saw that?

[Million.to.1]

Personal photos from comicon or whatever you put on FB are your business.

 

If you "like" or comment on photos posted from pages like "Hot Bikini Babes" or "The Gap" or pages like that, it does sometimes show up on your friends news feed.

 

As a female, whenever I see in my feed that a male friend has "liked" a photo from one of those stupid pages of a scantily clad woman pouting seductively at the camera, I just get this pathetic image of him on the couch with his laptop on a saturday night in sweat pants eating cheezels. "yeah- she's hot.. i'd F**k her" -LIKE.

 

It's just soooooooo sad.

[Imajerk17]

Are these "19-year-olds" you are posing with actually friends of yours or are they just on the clock?

 

Too many such pictures makes you appear quite sex-focused, immature, even a bit creepy. It says you'd really really want to get to sleep with girls young enough to be your daughter, but you can't even come close, so you'll settle for chasing lots of pictures with them.

 

Women your age, who are likely to have 19-year-old daughters or nieces or probably have friends who have daughters that age, are likely to being doubly grossed-out.

Edited April 2, 2015 by Imajerk17

[MidwestUSA]

My husband doesn't even share or like pics of his own daughter. She's a hot model. The only pics he has of her are from her youthful innocent days.

 

I'd worry if he flaunted her or any other woman for that matter. And his history proves he never did, well before we met. I respect that. A LOT!

 

Give me a man who shares animal rescue stories, and contributes to the cause.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Are these "19-year-olds" you are posing with actually friends of yours or are they just on the clock?

 

Too many such pictures makes you appear quite sex-focused, immature, even a bit creepy. It says you'd really really want to get to sleep with girls young enough to be your daughter, but you can't even come close, so you'll settle for chasing lots of pictures with them.

 

Women your age, who are likely to have 19-year-old daughters or nieces or probably have friends who have daughters that age, are likely to being doubly grossed-out.

 

"On the clock"? I'm not sure what you mean. Anyhow, I go to sci-fi convention once a year and I would upload around 20-ish photos from the event, some of which included attractive women in costume.

 

Actually, most of them were around their 30's sometimes 40's, I usually kind of shy away from the anime enthusiast since that's more of a college-aged demographic. I guess since their 30-somethings, makes it less creepy, right? LOL There's one you can see plain as day on his page of "tattoo girls" and a woman covering her breasts with her hands.

 

From the event once a year. I would upload them and I'd get a lot of "likes" and such from people who appreciate the costumes or that genre...no biggie, I just had one older, insecure woman that got wild hair up her butt about the batch of photos she saw, that's all. I was kind of surprised, because she was an attractive older woman that kept herself in shape.

 

Personally, I didn't know anyone from even your friends list could see what pages you "liked", because when I go to my own Facebook page, I never see that, but someone from your friends list see what you liked a certain page of let's say of "2015 Hooters Bikini contest", you're friends could see that (I didn't know that). But it's not like my Facebook page is inundated with that kind of thing though.

 

What's so ironic is, a male co-worker of mine who has been in a 5 year long term relationship with a woman is on a few "babes" Facebook pages, apparently it has no bearing or stress on their relationship *(shrug) YOu can click on his "likes" page....and there's just TONS of stuff he "liked" of course its a huge mix, but he does have several "Lingerie" pages he "liked"....man, it's so EASY to click that LIKE button, right? lol

Edited April 3, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst

[GemmaUK]

"On the clock"? I'm not sure what you mean. Anyhow, I go to sci-fi convention once a year and I would upload around 20-ish photos from the event, some of which included attractive women in costume.

 

Actually, most of them were around their 30's sometimes 40's, I usually kind of shy away from the anime enthusiast since that's more of a college-aged demographic. I guess since their 30-somethings, makes it less creepy, right? LOL There's one you can see plain as day on his page of "tattoo girls" and a woman covering her breasts with her hands.

 

From the event once a year. I would upload them and I'd get a lot of "likes" and such from people who appreciate the costumes or that genre...no biggie, I just had one older, insecure woman that got wild hair up her butt about the batch of photos she saw, that's all. I was kind of surprised, because she was an attractive older woman that kept herself in shape.

 

Personally, I didn't know anyone from even your friends list could see what pages you "liked", because when I go to my own Facebook page, I never see that, but someone from your friends list see what you liked a certain page of let's say of "2015 Hooters Bikini contest", you're friends could see that (I didn't know that). But it's not like my Facebook page is inundated with that kind of thing though.

 

What's so ironic is, a male co-worker of mine who has been in a 5 year long term relationship with a woman is on a few "babes" Facebook pages, apparently it has no bearing or stress on their relationship *(shrug) YOu can click on his "likes" page....and there's just TONS of stuff he "liked" of course its a huge mix, but he does have several "Lingerie" pages he "liked"....man, it's so EASY to click that LIKE button, right? lol

 

 

What is ironic about that?

Either she doesn't give a rat's, she does it herself or they aren't as happy as you assume. It's their business, not yours.

 

 

Perception of ourselves is really not that relevant but liking hooters or having pics taken with bikini or budgie smuggler clad's is going to look way tacky to a prospective date who thinks it looks tacky.

 

 

Basically LATP own it or own it.

Deal with that some women and some men won't like it and that people may well talk about it.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I got a friend of mine, early 50's had recently started posting pics of him at the last Geek Convention of him with ladies in costumes in celebration of this weekends "Geek" event.

 

They were quite younger than him, but I kept seeing rather "snarky" comments from the women on his page like "Um...aren't the old as one of your daughters?" (he has a daughter that's in college).

 

Another, "Whatever floats your boat. :P"

 

Comments along those lines...stuff like that. It's amazing what some women will get jealous over.