lordbaelish Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 So, so to repeat, I am completely inexperienced in dating, girls etc. So, how would I know if a girl is hitting on me ? I have had a girl say, 'I love your glasses'. Was she hitting on me, mocking me or just interested in my glasses ? Also, what's a good way to subtly hit on a girl ? Link to post Share on other sites
MLAZ1990 Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 So, so to repeat, I am completely inexperienced in dating, girls etc. So, how would I know if a girl is hitting on me ? I have had a girl say, 'I love your glasses'. Was she hitting on me, mocking me or just interested in my glasses ? Also, what's a good way to subtly hit on a girl ? Haha that's a tough one to tell if she loved them or she was just mocking you! I'm like you man, I can't tell when a girl is hitting on me either. I had a girl I work with basically tell me to ask her out and I didn't realize it until like a day or 2 later. It's tough! Girls always swear they "make it very clear "when they're interested in a guy...but that's just BS! Link to post Share on other sites
RedButton Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 It's hard to say for me, I generally assume they aren't. I'm pretty sure there was one girl who was hitting on me, but I didn't follow up since we worked together AND she was a friend's ex. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 She wasn't mocking you. From that statement alone, without the context & seeing her body language & hearing her tone, I can't tell you if she genuinely liked your glasses or was hitting on you but it was still a positive statement. It's usually flirty if there is eye contact, a smile, a brush of the hand, standing in your personal space & a light tone of voice. In that settling you flirt back by saying "thanks? wanna try them on?" Then handing them to her & brushing her hand when you do. You tell her something like she looks less beautiful to you now but only because w/o your glasses, she's blurry. You get them back, put them on, smile & say that's better & can see your pretty face again. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 (edited) As a general rule, if women have hit on you before and you are SURE that was their intention and that has happened with regularity, then the probability is higher. In other words, if you have to ask, the answer is generally no. It really is of no matter anyway, because it is very difficult to differentiate between 'getting hit on' and 'being treated in a friendly manner'. If you get either/or, just go for it I'd say. Just for the purpose of this thread, I can't even count how many times my mind construed that a woman was flirting with me, and I have been wrong every single time I've acted on it. When I have been able to land women, the interaction was on a much more platonic level. Also. Certain women just have flirty/heartbreaker/toy with guys kind of personalities. They'll be 'flirty' with all guys whether they like them or not. I can't even count how many times this has happened. You'll be talking to this woman and she's talking in a sweet voice and giggling and stuff and then she turns around and does the same exact thing with the next guy. This is the kind of woman who will have like 4 to 5 guy friends in love with her at any given time. Edited March 30, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 I have had a girl say, 'I love your glasses'. Was she hitting on me, mocking me or just interested in my glasses ? She may have been doing all three together or two or just one of them. Who knows? Do you know the girl? If not, then I guess she was probably interested in you on some level, unless she said it in a nasty way. Mocking can be part of flirting, so do not get all upset if you think she was mocking you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lordbaelish Posted March 30, 2015 Author Share Posted March 30, 2015 Haha that's a tough one to tell if she loved them or she was just mocking you! I'm like you man, I can't tell when a girl is hitting on me either. I had a girl I work with basically tell me to ask her out and I didn't realize it until like a day or 2 later. It's tough! Girls always swear they "make it very clear "when they're interested in a guy...but that's just BS! I know, I just dont know who to behave or what to do, or how to spot a flirty woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lordbaelish Posted March 30, 2015 Author Share Posted March 30, 2015 She wasn't mocking you. From that statement alone, without the context & seeing her body language & hearing her tone, I can't tell you if she genuinely liked your glasses or was hitting on you but it was still a positive statement. It's usually flirty if there is eye contact, a smile, a brush of the hand, standing in your personal space & a light tone of voice. In that settling you flirt back by saying "thanks? wanna try them on?" Then handing them to her & brushing her hand when you do. You tell her something like she looks less beautiful to you now but only because w/o your glasses, she's blurry. You get them back, put them on, smile & say that's better & can see your pretty face again. haha, that sounds like a good idea. Also, all I know is that she was smiling when she said it. I do get 'I love your glasses' comment from girls a lot, so next time I see one of interest, I will use that line, or perhaps 'they're not for sale, however you can try them on'. You're always a great help, so thank you once again !! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lordbaelish Posted March 30, 2015 Author Share Posted March 30, 2015 She may have been doing all three together or two or just one of them. Who knows? Do you know the girl? If not, then I guess she was probably interested in you on some level, unless she said it in a nasty way. Mocking can be part of flirting, so do not get all upset if you think she was mocking you. I dont know this girl, she smiled and then proceeded to tell me about my glasses. I should have said something back, but I get so nervous, my heart starts racing etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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