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Hey everyone! There is this girl I really like in my Human Diversity class in college. We sit across the room from each other and I really just want to get to know her better. Problem is idk how to approach it. She seems like a quiet and shy girl, but I can’t tell for sure. I’ve been looking for signs that she may like me too, but nothing obvious. I tried to add her on Facebook, but she never accepted it. It’s possible she doesn’t use her Facebook much or just didn’t want to add me because we obviously don’t know each other at all. I’ve been thinking about sending a Facebook message to her saying I have taken notice of her, saying she seems like an awesome girl and I would like to get to know her better. However, I don’t know if this is too creepy or not. It would be creepy to just randomly start trying to sit near her or begin talking to her in person since it’s more than half way through the semester. I don’t really know what to do. I just want to start by getting to know her, then hopefully friends, and then maybe work to dating. Advice???

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JuneJulySeptember
Hey everyone! There is this girl I really like in my Human Diversity class in college. We sit across the room from each other and I really just want to get to know her better. Problem is idk how to approach it. She seems like a quiet and shy girl, but I can’t tell for sure. I’ve been looking for signs that she may like me too, but nothing obvious. I tried to add her on Facebook, but she never accepted it. It’s possible she doesn’t use her Facebook much or just didn’t want to add me because we obviously don’t know each other at all. I’ve been thinking about sending a Facebook message to her saying I have taken notice of her, saying she seems like an awesome girl and I would like to get to know her better. However, I don’t know if this is too creepy or not. It would be creepy to just randomly start trying to sit near her or begin talking to her in person since it’s more than half way through the semester. I don’t really know what to do. I just want to start by getting to know her, then hopefully friends, and then maybe work to dating. Advice???

 

You really shouldn't become infatuated with women who don't like you back. Especially ones you don't know from a hole in the wall. It's not healthy and it is leading you down the wrong path.

 

I know you're young, but you need to start visualizing women as many fish in a pool where you only have the bait to catch very few, but you don't know which ones.

 

Think about it, and then act accordingly.

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Hey it sounds like you've never even spoken to this girl at all. So, I'm going to assume when you say you 'really like her', what you mean "I find her very attractive to look at". And frankly, you simply cannot tell if someone would make for a good relationship just by looking at them.

 

There are hundreds, if not millions of attractive women in this world, but very few of them would be a good match with any specific person.

 

Now to be more helpful for you - if you wanted to get to know her, I think you may have missed your chance for now. It's already halfway into the semester, and until you decide to sit next to her and introduce yourself - then I don't see how anything can move forward.

 

For next time - the best time to get to know a particular girl in class is the same time you get to know anyone in class. It begins with a classroom full of strangers, and you sit next to some of them. "Hi, my name is youkersith", you would say as people make their introductions to each other in the first class. And over the course of the semester, you get to know them a bit more - as regular people - and if she's a good match for you, I reckon the mutual interest would become clear as the year progresses.

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