Is dating more difficult for newcomers ?

[lordbaelish]

I am 21 years old, i've never been involved in a relationship with a girl, in any capacity whatsoever. It's getting extremely depressing everyday, to see my peers move on in life, it reminds me of the Keane song 'Everybody's changing', as time passes on, i've not gone any closer to going on a date with a woman. I would just like to thank my defective personality for that. So, is dating more difficult for people who are late into the dating scene ?

[JuneJulySeptember]

I am 21 years old, i've never been involved in a relationship with a girl, in any capacity whatsoever. It's getting extremely depressing everyday, to see my peers move on in life, it reminds me of the Keane song 'Everybody's changing', as time passes on, i've not gone any closer to going on a date with a woman. I would just like to thank my defective personality for that. So, is dating more difficult for people who are late into the dating scene ?

 

I love that song...

 

Yes, it is harder. And that is usually because you are less attractive than average in some way or another.

 

But whatever. It's life.

 

One of my friends just died last week. I'm serious. He was under 40. You may very well have less than 20 years to live yourself.

 

So, just enjoy it and don't worry about it that much. Take your shots when you get em and stay yourself.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I'd also add that if I was in your shoes, I'd go shotgun and just try and date somebody.

 

That's because it's very difficult of a man that age. All guys talk about is sex, girlfriends, and etc, and getting that monkey off your back and being able to talk about it will make you happier I think. Less angst.

 

Once you're my age, good luck trying to get anybody to even listen about your dating problems and such. They won't care if I hadn't been laid in 7 years, they're so pre-occupied with their kids and jobs.

[lordbaelish]

I'd also add that if I was in your shoes, I'd go shotgun and just try and date somebody.

 

That's because it's very difficult of a man that age. All guys talk about is sex, girlfriends, and etc, and getting that monkey off your back and being able to talk about it will make you happier I think. Less angst.

 

Once you're my age, good luck trying to get anybody to even listen about your dating problems and such. They won't care if I hadn't been laid in 7 years, they're so pre-occupied with their kids and jobs.

 

haha, yeah, most guys are talking about girls they've been with, whether its just casual sex or a long term relationship. I dont want to miss out on that, I dont want to be the 30 year old loner. I think its time to just let the shot gun out , and try without thinking about the consequences.

[JuneJulySeptember]

haha, yeah, most guys are talking about girls they've been with, whether its just casual sex or a long term relationship. I dont want to miss out on that, I dont want to be the 30 year old loner. I think its time to just let the shot gun out , and try without thinking about the consequences.

 

Yes, I was in the same situation.

 

Just ask out a lot of different women, maybe not go for the prettiest women, and see what you can get.

 

One of 'em might be really cool and you might really like her.

[Frank2thepoint]

I had my first girlfriend when I was 20 and I lost my virginity to her. Now based on many people's idea about dating and when to have sex, I was considered a late bloomer at 20. I don't see it as that, but luckily it didn't affect me. I have dated women and had girlfriends since then. The key is to not put anymore pressure on yourself, which peers already do. Instead of having a defeatist attitude, work on putting yourself out there to get dates and eventually get a girlfriend.