blew my chance!

[amyO]

I feel silly even making a post out of this, but I met a guy today and I feel like I blew my chance at giving him my number or the chance of seeing him again.

 

From my previous posts, you can see I recently got out of a 3 month relationship. Nothing serious and the guy didn't even break up with me. He did the whole "fade" thing which really hurts. I haven't always had the best luck with dating- I fall for the wrong guys always and put myself in stupid situations.

I told myself I would just take a break from dating, but to at least learn more about myself and realize what I find important in guys and when I'm ready I'll go back to dating. I'm back in therapy which is helping a great deal too.

 

However, I got lunch with 3 of my friends today. We had a really nice waiter. He was really polite, friendly and overall you could see he was a genuine person. He was joking around with us about how he is a nursing student and things about a healthy diet. He kept looking at me the whole time, whether he was at our table or walking around - he would always go to look back at me. We kept noticing we were looking at one another too... He also kept coming back time after time. Like more than any waiter or waitress would normally do. He was explaining things to us on the menu and he bent down to speak to us. He placed his hand on my menu and again, would just keep looking at me while talking.

 

When it came time for the check, My 3 friends used cash and since I didn't have any on me at the time, I used my credit card. There was a part of me that had the urge to write my name and phone number down on the receipt. I decided not to. I didn't want to look stupid in front of my friends or even him if I read the signs all wrong (god forbid he also was in a relationship.)

 

After I got home though, I kept thinking about it. I don't know how to explain it, but for once I thought to myself- wow that was a really nice guy that I could see myself actually being with ( I know I sound crazy. ) I even said to my friend "that was a really handsome and nice guy." She mentioned right away-"you should have gave him your number, he kept looking at you the whole time."

 

So I guess there isn't much of a point to this post. I just wanted to vent that I felt like for once in a random moment of life that I met someone and lost a chance at something more. If that makes any sense at all?

 

The restaurant is near where I live- but I don't think I'll ever see him again. I also wouldn't want to look like a creeper or stalker by going in there more. Although I guess writing about it on a internet forum isn't that much different haha

 

Has anyone else had an experience like this? Did you do anything about it or just let it fall to the wayside? Again I feel stupid about posting this, but I can't stop thinking about it and wanted to express how I was thinking/feeling.

[TheyCallMeOx]

I had an experience like this before, and I totally forgot how it escalated. I can't remember if I originally left a message on the bill saying that I would've pursued her if I wasn't so damn heart broken, but I know that I regretted not pursuing her. She was decently attractive, and seemed to have a sense of humor, so I didn't pursue her the first time I saw her. 1-2 more times at that restaurant, I decided to pursue her. My friend and I usually went there when it was late, so I waited till it died down and she came back from the kitchen. I pulled her aside and asked her out. She gave me her number. Found out she had a kid through the phone, and as a coward, I didn't talk to her again. But I did ask her out, and regret was my motivation. I just wanted to do it and not be afraid of the consequences. I wasn't thinking about whether it was stalkerish or anything like that. Yeah, things didn't work out, but there's always second chances to pursue someone you've never been with.

 

Get your ass over there and give him your number.

[Danda]

There would be nothing creeper/stalkerish at all if you went back there once a week or every two weeks or so. Regardless of crushing on staff members, tons of people have their favorite places that they frequent. If you want to grab a friend and go back in a week or so, nobody in their right mind would think anything of it. But if the waiter was interested and working, he would probably go out of his way to get your attention again. And if not, big whoop, you like the food.

[preraph]

I go in restaurants alone probably 3 times a week. No one thinks I'm a stalker. Give it a week and go the same time and hope he's on shift. Trouble is, you probably won't get the same server this time. So you're probably going to have to go a few times.