Sweetescape910 Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 I'm 18 years old. I'm a pretty girl and I've had my fair share of *******s. I've never had a boy who's treated me with love and respect entirely and had the best intentions for me, and at this point I feel like there are no good hearted men out there that are right for me. My friends all have boyfriends, and the ones who don't don't seem to care about that. I'm at the stage of my life where I want to share my thoughts and feelings and happiness with someone. I don't want a one night crappy stand, I honestly despise them. I don't know what I can do other than wait for time to play its course, but I don't know how to stop wanting one so badly where it's all I think about everyday. And I know I know, when you least expect it, It'll come. Blah. Any hope you guys can feed me? Like stories?(: I just sort of lost all hope. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 It can seem like it'll never happen. Yet it does happen, for thousands of people, every day around the world. My suggestion? Have a good hard think about what you think a boyfriend is going to bring into your life. What do you have to offer? As a person? Sure, you're pretty. That's great. But what else? What are your interests? Hobbies? What are your passions? Those are the things to be focusing your energy on. If you are out in the world, being happy in yourself and in the things you're doing, you will find love. The more you focus on the discomfort of single life, the worse it becomes. Let it go for a while and breath. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 He's right, you need to have more to offer not just for someone else but for your own good as well. Do you really want to put all your stock into just finding a boyfriend? Believe it or not love isn't the only thing that can make you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
karmasama Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 Your boyfriend needs to be, first of all, you best friend. Try t think about it that way. If you don't see him like a potential best friend, then he's probably not the one. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 Stop rushing things. Somehow boys sense your desperation. Guys can smell desperate the way dogs can smell fear. You are 18 years old. Many people have not had a real BF or GF at that age. Live your life. Do things that are interesting to you. Spend time with your friends. Plan for college & immerse yourself in your studies. Be Happy & confident in your own skin. When you like yourself & enjoy your own company -- basically when you realize that you don't need a BF, you will find somebody. Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 I'm 18 years old. I'm a pretty girl and I've had my fair share of *******s. I've never had a boy who's treated me with love and respect entirely and had the best intentions for me, and at this point I feel like there are no good hearted men out there that are right for me. My friends all have boyfriends, and the ones who don't don't seem to care about that. I'm at the stage of my life where I want to share my thoughts and feelings and happiness with someone. I don't want a one night crappy stand, I honestly despise them. I don't know what I can do other than wait for time to play its course, but I don't know how to stop wanting one so badly where it's all I think about everyday. And I know I know, when you least expect it, It'll come. Blah. Any hope you guys can feed me? Like stories?(: I just sort of lost all hope. how's the BF hunting coming along ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted January 14, 2015 Share Posted January 14, 2015 I guess she found someone already =0) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetescape910 Posted January 15, 2015 Author Share Posted January 15, 2015 Haha I didn't find someone already. Sorry, saying that I'm just good looking sounded a bit shallow. I'm a good hearted person, and I have the best intentions for people. I think I'm fed up because I cant find a guy with the same "heart" as I do. I care about somebody with everything in me when they mean a lot to me. So my past relationships weren't the best because I haven't found someone who can provide me with what I need. I like acting ALOT and I'm into cinematography as well. But it's true, were so busy trying to find somebody as, meanwhile half the time we don't even know who we are fully. I will admit, I am a bit depressed and I don't have my **** together mentally, so how can I expect to have a healthy relationship with someone else? Sometimes I just don't want to focus on myself, I want to focus on people who make me happy, and if that's a man I really love, then that's amazing. I guess I'm trying to fight my constant battle of loneliness. Thanks for the feedback guys I appreciate it Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I know how you feel. I'm now 5 months from turning 19 years old and regarding the romantic aspect of my life it's been 1 infatuation (with a guy who later turned out to be a total jerk so I just enjoyed his sight from afar) and 1 kiss, no more, no less. But when I thought really, really hard about it, I just can't deal with a relationship right now. It's easy to get together and have sex, but a good relationship is real tough work. I also can't think of a guy my age that I would consider relationship-material to be honest; the closest one I thought was more mature because he's a few years older cheated on my friend a few months ago with his ex. I honestly doubt I'll jump into relationships anytime soon, although I do hope that someday there'll be a guy who'd like FWB. But apparently even that won't happen because for some reason people who don't know me think I'm taken; strange, no? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 -Be what you want to attract. -The slower you move and the more slowly someone is willing to move with you, the better chance you will have of meeting someone who cares about you. I think also if you can train your eye to look past image i.e. good looks, status and prestige, affluence, you can find real gems in the rough. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fisho Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 there are no good hearted men out there no good hearted men out there/QUOTE] Haha, this quote reminds me of high school. I remember walking to class and one of the popular girls was in front of me and another student (popular guy with a bad boy attitude that some girls seem to be attracted to) opened the door and let her in first. Brownies to him, I meant that's how I was brought up so good on him. Anyway, Her comment was "awwwww, I wish there are more guys like you out there". Long story short she dated him for a month or so before he broke her heart. Slept with another girl from memory. So what I'm trying to say is, they are out there and you can't or don't want to acknowledge them because they aren't good looking, they're not popular, they are a "nerd", they are too shy to approach you etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fisho Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I think also if you can train your eye to look past image i.e. good looks, status and prestige, affluence, you can find real gems in the rough. There you go, what I wanted to say in a nutshell. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 from what I have noticed w/ past experience, people just judge people before they actually know them .... looks can be one thing but personality is another IMO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetescape910 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Share Posted January 20, 2015 Guys you're right. My ex boyfriend wasn't the best looking guy, and we broke up about 11 months ago. This guy I dated a couple months ago treated me like crap, and it reminded me of how good I had it with my ex. It wasn't an amazing relationship, but it made me realize that he was a good guy to me, rather than that a-hole. I texted my ex and he was a bit distant and cold, and I showed him some of the bar mitzvah photos of my sisters barmitsvah. It was cute pictures of me and him I never got to show him. He was a bit cold throughout the entire conversation, and when I showed him the pictures he said "haha nice pics" Next day I texted him saying "Shabbat shalom :)" ( I'm jewish and so is he) And he never responded. We broke up because we constantly fought. He wouldn't pay for me because he didn't have much money and he thought I was using him for rides and such. It was immature petty drama that caused him to break up with me. I wanted to apologize, but he never responded to my text so I never got a chance to. So this is what I mean when I say I have a big heart. I still care for my ex, even after not talking for about 8 months personally. Ouch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 time heal(s) ( as they say ) Link to post Share on other sites
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