LookAtThisPOst Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Met a woman at Meetup last night at a Christmas party...actually, knew her from previous Meetup events, but she is one of those "once in a blue moon" pop-in types. Says she has her notifications for the events turned off, so she doesn't get the emails. She's one of those types that don't RSVP, but shows up anyway. I was supervised she showed, because it was more of a required RSVP that required also payment for the party. But she paid in person. She knew me from before, and she seems to always show interest in me specifically as she likes to hang with me at these events more than anyone else, esp. other men. I would kind of get a kick out of how she would say how some men at the events would be a bit too forward with her and talked about how on Facebook she's kept her settings so private as to not be found by whom she encounters. She talked about how some guy grabbed her phone and added her on FB. I guess she's pretty comfortable with me as she's usually by my side at the events...almost felt like a date. LOL Anyhow, I walk her to her car and asked if she'd like to get together some time. And she goes, "Maybe....I dunno, I'm not good with relationships. Nothing personal, if I seem stand-offish, it's not you...it's me." And I'm thinking, "Dang girl, this isn't a marriage proposal, who said anything about jumping into a relationship?" I didn't want to argue this fact. She wouldn't even hug me good night, but I do have to admit, she's kind of the squirrely, nervous type. So not sure how to take that. She added me on Facebook, so at least that's something. She assured me she would be at next week's Meetup event as if our next encounter would be best in public, among a group of people...I suppose *shrug*...but heck, she's the only one there that's around my age bracket. lol Any thoughts on this? Think she's just being cautious? She seems to be really overly cautious of men in general though. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 She doesn't want to date you. Doesn't mean she hates you. Means she probably isn't attracted to you. Women don't like to just be blunt and say no, but they need to so as not to leave guys hanging and hoping. If I were you, then I'd tell her, Okay, you won't date me. Got any nice friends you want to hook me up with? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 She doesn't want to date you. Doesn't mean she hates you. Means she probably isn't attracted to you. Women don't like to just be blunt and say no, but they need to so as not to leave guys hanging and hoping. If I were you, then I'd tell her, Okay, you won't date me. Got any nice friends you want to hook me up with? Well, she rather led me to think she was interested as she was dropping hints on how she would like to partake in certain local activities that I mentioned in conversation and also...she was pretty much sticking to me like glue the entire night. I mean, she'd mingle every so often, but would use me as some kind of home base...so I figured she would at least be interested in doing some kind of activity outside of Meetup as she was rather a local single woman...and that's usually hard to find in an area with senior citizens or married people my age. Oh, and she unfriended me on Facebook because she felt she didn't know me well enough to have me there, even though she added me on her smartphone at the party. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 From all you have said she simply knows you more than anyone and also thinks you are a safe bet as you won't hit on her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 She's not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 From all you have said she simply knows you more than anyone and also thinks you are a safe bet as you won't hit on her. Yeah, I get along with most women great, until I ask them out. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 Yeah, I get along with most women great, until I ask them out. Are you irc333 reincarnated? Your posts about analyzing women's behaviour and meetup are quite similar. Just curious if you started a new account. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 A word of advice-- When a woman is talking/complaining to you about other guys, it's because she doesn't see you as a romantic option. You're the safe friend. If she saw you in a romantic light, the focus would be on YOU and flirting with you, not on other men. You were there to keep other guys that she didn't want bothering her from hitting on her. Generally most guys won't hit on you if you're standing with another guy. Then you went and did what she had just complained about...and hit on her. No, she is not interested. Your conversations during the meetup event should have told you that. Just because someone engages you in conversation or is pleasant to you doesn't mean they want to date you. Look at the social context...the whole picture. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 Yup had a female female friend just like this. Would talk to me for hours and about other guys too. She even cried to me about past relationships. Asked her out twice and said no thanks but she still kept talking to me. Situations like these are generally bad for your self esteem. With me I really just can't have female friends except for a certain few with exceptionally great personalities that even though may not like me don't mention other guys. Link to post Share on other sites
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