Is it odd that I find it more comfortable to go to an "all ladies" meetup events?

[spanishchick00]

I'm in a few meetup groups-mostly for the 20's, 30's, social, bar-hopping, happy hours, etc, etc. I saw an "girls night out" group and will be going to my first event. There were a few happy hour events for some of the other groups that I'm in, but obviously there are alot of guys that will be attending, for some reason I find it uncomfortable to go, seeing that probably half of the girls there will be chatting it up all night with the guys and probably I'll be ignored by half of the guys there.

[preraph]

I know exactly what you mean. Going to "singles" stuff has this stigma that everyone there is "looking" and then it's tricky because you'll get people who think just because you're there, you should pick them rather than nobody. Also I have gotten uncomfortable at meetups where there's couples and singles. The couples only wanted to talk to the couples (mostly this was the women excluding other women, threatened). It left me with a group of very quiet vegetarians (fortunately I had brought pesto pasta to the event, so at least they liked me for it). Not taking a dig at vegetarians. One of my best friends is one. But this crowd was the very definition of wallflower.

 

I was in a paranormal group I really enjoyed for awhile, and then a small core of really childish adults sort of took it over when two new members joined and it never got back on topic. All they wanted to talk about was stuff that usually only kids like. I held on for a long time hoping they'd go away, but in the end, I left out of boredom. I mean, if you have a specialty group, stick to the subject!

 

I've wanted to try another women's group, but the main thing holding me back is the one that sounds the best excludes my age range (I'm over 60). I don't have kids and nothing bores me more than sitting around a group of grandmas talking about their grandbabies, so I know that group isn't right for me. I could join a dog group or something, but one of my dogs is not great socially. Ladies who lunch is about my speed, but I'm just pretty convinced I'm going to not fit in so I haven't tried it. That meetup I mentioned first with the couples and wallflowers was a childfree meetup, which sounds perfect for me, but then it wasn't. Plus the only single guys in that group were literally guys who because of one physical thing or another could never get dates and then all the married guys were trying to shove them off on the single ladies, half of whom were lesbians. It just wasn't a cohesive mix except for the couples, who seemed content.

[BlueIris]

No, I don’t see anything wrong with it all. There’s tension in the pick-up, scope people out agenda at singles mixers. Being with a bunch of women is so much more relaxed and just easy fun.