Going out solo on New Year's Eve?

[MsSmurf]

The last few years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of yet another new year's at home. I'm kicking around the idea of going to see a band, comedy show, or some other type of performance alone since I'm not into the club/party scene. I'd stick with an early show and likely be home well before the countdown.

 

I go out alone plenty, but holidays just seem different and like a single gal will stick out more than normal. What do you think? I'm not hoping to meet anyone, but do want to just have a drink, relax, and enjoy a show in the company of others without looks of pity. Is this possible? Have any other gals done this or would you?

[Destined2B]

Go for it. Sounds like you already made up your mind. I'd stay for the countdown too. Isn't it lovely to see all the couples being affectionate and happy as the midnight arrives?

[CarrieT]

I've gone out single on New Years; hit various friends' parties and whatnot.

 

Very depressed after and I wouldn't do it again. Hated seeing all the kissing at midnight whilst I had no one to smooch.

[Els]

Not single, but I was considering the possibility of spending NYE solo this year, since my friends are out of town and the nature of my guy's work requires them to have 24/7 coverage of shifts, so it's always possible that he would draw the NYE shift. Fortunately, he didn't. If he had, though, I doubt I would have gone out, as I'm not a party person anyway. I'd probably have stayed at home with a bottle of good wine and watched the fireworks from my apartment window. It wouldn't have been bad at all.

 

That being said, if you feel you would enjoy going out alone then go for it! Especially if you're planning to do an early dinner/show instead of hanging around for the countdown, I don't think it would be too awkward. Hanging out alone on special occasions is easier said than done and does take quite a bit of courage though.

[ltjg45]

I am sure I will be going solo for NYE as well, like I did last year.

 

Fortunately, I don't stick out like a sore thumb so I don't typically get any problems but I don't see me doing much outside of just being there for the countdown.

 

I would go out to eat beforehand but I am scared of packing up too many pounds.

[d0nnivain]

If you think it will make you feel better do it!

[genuinelyloverly7]

I take myself out on dates frequently. In home or out to dinner with a good sci-fi book, or whatever… I think it is great to do that!

 

But like CarrieT said- it is the end of the date that kinda blows, unless your all ready for a happy ending at home with HappyBunny, the MasterVibe. That would be enough for me to anticipate the ending Without it, going home alone and no-one to snuggle with becomes a let-down, and ends up depressing me a little. Thus do I stay home with my pets and try to make sure I at least make myself a great meal.

 

If you really want to avoid looks of pity, get the sexiest plate on the menu, and make out with your food while you eat dinner. Close your eyes and taste each bite; drink the wine like it is the best wine ever, with small sips and deep inhalations of the bouquet. No-one will give you looks of pity then. They will want to sit with you.

[clia]

I'm not against going out alone at all, but New Year's Eve is kind of a different animal. Have you considered looking into possible Meetup.com group events that you could attend? That way there might be a greater chance that other people will be flying solo (you can look at the RSVPs to see who is going without a +1 or more), which might make it more comfortable.

[newmoon]

i go out alone all the time, even valentine's day, but i stop short of new year's. it seems very couple/group oriented and unless i'm in either of those categories i don't think it's safe to be out, nor an optimal time to meet anyone. i can't imagine anyone engaging me in conversation and i feel like i would stick out more on that particular night because 99.99% of people won't be alone. and people tend to dress up and look better, so that would feel lame - dressing up and sitting alone. just for this one night i'd rather be home in my new frosty the snowman pjs and some hot cocoa.

[MsSmurf]

Thank you everyone for your responses. First let me say that being out around couples isn't usually a problem, its when they shove their coupleness in your face or pick on you for being alone that is a problem. I try not to let it get to me when out solo at other times, but sometimes it does so I am concerned that new year's will be worse with that. That was largely why I was thinking of doing an earlier show so I could disappear before the couples got too irritating and also to get home before the drunks are out on the road.

 

I am a part of a few meetup groups and that's where all my new coupled or will be out of town friends are from. I've personally found meetup terrible for meeting quality single friends and all the chatter I've seen about new year's is couple focused. If any of the singles attend I can guarantee they'll go with a date or they'll be the singles complaining about being single. I don't want to go out to complain about being single, I just want to avoid being bored at home you know? I also don't want to play 3rd wheel with my friends because we all know how much that sucks.

 

 

 

... it is the end of the date that kinda blows, unless your all ready for a happy ending at home with HappyBunny, the MasterVibe. That would be enough for me to anticipate the ending Without it, going home alone and no-one to snuggle with becomes a let-down, and ends up depressing me a little. Thus do I stay home with my pets and try to make sure I at least make myself a great meal.

 

If you really want to avoid looks of pity, get the sexiest plate on the menu, and make out with your food while you eat dinner. Close your eyes and taste each bite; drink the wine like it is the best wine ever, with small sips and deep inhalations of the bouquet. No-one will give you looks of pity then. They will want to sit with you.

 

LMAO! I'm not into such devices but I can see how that might make the evening less depressing. I like the idea of just savoring my food and wine during the show though.

[salparadise]

I wore a suit and tie on New Years Eve last year. I spilled mustard on the suit and had to throw it in the garbage. $2000 down the drain.

 

A $2k suite... thrown away? I don't think I've ever seen one. I would probably have saved it... in case mustard comes back in someday.

Edited December 20, 2014 by salparadise

[LookAtThisPOst]

I've personally found meetup terrible for meeting quality single friends.

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And why do you say this? I wouldn't completely rule out Meetup as a venue of those to dates. It far beats online dating that's for sure.

Went to a bonfire Meetup last night, had a great time. Met an attractive lady that claimed to be rather reclusive and her friend just "dragged" her out.

She's a member of Meetup, but rarely attends events.

 

So perhaps I can break her of that nasty habit. ;-)

[Targetlock]

Ive never gone by myself new years, last two years I've spent it alone and its been rather miserable to be honest, felt rather left out.

but then the local club, night scene is to be honest a bit rough around where i live and i can be a bit socially awkward which makes things harder not sure what im going to do this year, and I've never kissed a girl at midnight for new years either.

I will just have to wait and see what happens i guess

[Teraskas]

Ive never gone by myself new years, last two years I've spent it alone and its been rather miserable to be honest, felt rather left out.

but then the local club, night scene is to be honest a bit rough around where i live and i can be a bit socially awkward which makes things harder not sure what im going to do this year, and I've never kissed a girl at midnight for new years either.

I will just have to wait and see what happens i guess

 

Sort of in a similar situation here. :/

Spent the last 2 years with family due to the fact that my limited social circle of friends now all have girlfriends and don't bother to meet up anymore.

Used to go out solo prior to that, but it's a soul crushing experience...

Oh well, at least I'm surrounded by people who I care about and truly matter to me in life, lol. ^_^

[MsSmurf]

And why do you say this? I wouldn't completely rule out Meetup as a venue of those to dates. It far beats online dating that's for sure.

Went to a bonfire Meetup last night, had a great time. Met an attractive lady that claimed to be rather reclusive and her friend just "dragged" her out.

She's a member of Meetup, but rarely attends events.

 

So perhaps I can break her of that nasty habit. ;-)

 

Oh I agree that Meetup is a thousand times better than OLD in terms of people actually showing up and being who they said they were. However when seeking friends I like a mix of people.... couples, singles, old, young, men, women..... and it has been ok for that probably because most of the planning is done in advance and the organizers are great. Of that mix of people though I find the singles the least appealing in most cases and its not because I'm trying to date them or anything. They generally are the type that want to just whine about being single, are introverted and its pulling teeth to get them to go out in the first place and then they're not having fun, or they're broke and have to complain about that all the time. I get being broke, but seriously? Much of the stuff on Meetup is free, you just need a couple bucks gas in your car. The better friends I've made on there tend to be coupled or older, which is fine but hanging with them on new year's would be me playing 3rd wheel.

[Frank2thepoint]

I usually spend New Year's Eve with friends, two of which are married to each other and have a kid. We just eat food, watch NYE events on television, and play board games. If they were unavailable, I either hit up a comedy club or a concert with any available friend. I really hate going out solo. Except for a movie theater, that I have no problem doing alone. In addition, there are plenty of single people doing the same thing, so you can always bump into someone to quickly discuss the movie, maybe even get a quick coffee/tea afterward.

[No Limit]

It's almost a curse-like tradition that if I spend my New Year's Eve with my family it'll be a total disaster. In this year's case Christmas is affected as well, again. So I'll be spending both days alone, and glad of it.

 

I don't see why so many people are having such a hard time dealing with being alone on those two days when many are alone the rest of the year as well. And it's not like we're a poor minority, there are many on their own. And they're fine.

[Phoe]

I usually spend New Years alone. Twice I did spend the evening with a group of friends and that was awesome, but otherwise I've always had nowhere to go. I've ALWAYS wanted a New Years kiss, too. It's a wish of mine, haha.

 

While I'd gone out by myself a handful of times on an ordinary night, I'd feel off doing it on new years.

[spanishchick00]

Yeah, I've been friendless and boyfriendless and I've never had a new years eve where I spent it with friends or a guy that I could kiss at midnight. Its not fun staying at home. I wouldn't have the balls to go to a bar/club, but at the casinos where I live are having nye parties and alot of people go to that, so I might do that. I doubt someone will notice that I went solo.

[MsSmurf]

I hadn't thought of going to the movies or the casino for new year's. I go to the movies alone all the time and I would guess it'd be less crowded on new year's. Hmmmm I'll have to see what's playing. I'm not much of a gambler, but a lot of casinos near me have live music which that would be fun. so I'll check out their calendar. I imagine casinos attract a lot of people alone especially if you're just visiting the area or didn't want to go see family or something.

[CaliGypsy]

Casino does sound fun. I don't gamble either,but the buffets always sound good, and I bet the people watching is great .

 

Most of my favorite NYE's were spent at my parents house just hanging out and eating fun snacks and having a few drinks. I know people kiss at midnight,but I never realized it was such a coupley kind of night . Probably because I was married from 19-48 I suppose?

[Gloria25]

As brave as I am to venture out on my own, yeah NYE isn't something I go out on my own...

 

But, having to go back to work the Monday that follows is sorta an incentive for me to go out of my "staycation" with a big bang!!!....if you will.

 

I don't know yet. I've been looking to see if there's something I could go to like a show or something so I don't look that "lonely". I mean, I've gone out alone and chatted up people and/or guys to keep me not looking like I'm all alone, but not sure if I wanna chat up guys, cuz don't want them to think I'm interested. I'm not on the hunt right now for a guy...

 

Now, I was thinking of going to like a Sexy Santa's contest thing over this weekend, but eh, not sure if that's gonna be enough entertainment for me. Also, it just irks me when the only ones dressed up as Santa are the go-go girls they pay to be at the club. What's the matter with people? Is it too hard to put on a freakin' Santa hat and boots? I mean, you don't have to go out and buy a freakin' Santa suit.

[contact1]

I hadn't thought of going to the movies or the casino for new year's. I go to the movies alone all the time and I would guess it'd be less crowded on new year's. Hmmmm I'll have to see what's playing. I'm not much of a gambler, but a lot of casinos near me have live music which that would be fun. so I'll check out their calendar. I imagine casinos attract a lot of people alone especially if you're just visiting the area or didn't want to go see family or something.

 

I did New Year's at a casino once, it was a blast. Endless drinks, the buffets, people all around having a good time, plus there are always some kinds of shows and music going on.

[Frank2thepoint]

I've ALWAYS wanted a New Years kiss, too. It's a wish of mine, haha.

 

I haven't had one of these in a very very long time. I don't even remember how it's like. Hopefully, one day, I will get another opportunity.

[mario_C]

Isn't it lovely to see all the couples being affectionate and happy as the midnight arrives?

NO IT ISN'T.

But seriously, if you want to go out, go out. If you're going somewhere where you feel comfortable (and won't get ripped off or harassed), please, just enjoy it. Actually, that goes for any night of the year.

(Disclaimer - I'm working NYE)