LookAtThisPOst Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 I've noticed an increase in online dating profile pics all or most being selfies. Is this kind of a turn off for you guys/gals as you cannot get a representative true picture of themselves as it's taken from an angle or their face is all squished into one little box? Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 (edited) If "because it's a selfie" is a reason to be turned off then you've got too many options. If none of the photos give a clear impression of what the person looks like then, yes, that's a problem... but I don't think who is holding the camera necessarily has to be a factor in that. Edit to add: Here's a thread on this topic http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/457169-too-many-selfies-dating-profile Edited December 13, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 5 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 (edited) you really don't like much about OLD, nor meet up groups. You have so many complaints about both. Change it, do something else. Step away for a while maybe? Edited December 13, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Let's face it OLD is hard enough as it is, can most of really afford to be using photos that our friends and relatives took? They tend to not really care about how 'photogenic' we look in their pictures. The last photos taken of me by other people were at Thanksgiving. I am sleep-deprived and groggy at the crack of dawn, in a frumpy, dirty sweater, jacked up hair and no makeup, carving up a turkey, and I am so out of it and half-awake that I look drunk. OOOOORRRRR I can take a selfie. Yeah.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 Let's face it OLD is hard enough as it is, can most of really afford to be using photos that our friends and relatives took? They tend to not really care about how 'photogenic' we look in their pictures. The last photos taken of me by other people were at Thanksgiving. I am sleep-deprived and groggy at the crack of dawn, in a frumpy, dirty sweater, jacked up hair and no makeup, carving up a turkey, and I am so out of it and half-awake that I look drunk. OOOOORRRRR I can take a selfie. Yeah.. Actually, its quite unphotogenic to take an arms length selfie and yes, one can afford to use a picture taken by other friends and likely most preferred and quite normal than the awkward looking selfi. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Most of my photos are selfies but I use a digital camera with a timer so the quality is good. I've taken pics of myself outside by placing the camera in a tree. You could claim that having photos professionally shot are cheating because they make you look better than you might. All that matters is that the pic looks like you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mirages Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Hmmm, someone wants to buy a house, and pays a realtor $10k in their fee, but now someone wants a life partner, a greater investment than a house (but who will gladly steal the house from you if given the chance!) and they seem reluctant to put $200 into a basic camera -or- time to learn basics of photography - or- hire a professional. A tripod and timer is not that hi-tech! Cellphones even have a timer, bend up some cardboard to hold it up like a stand, and voila, a C+ level of photography! Selfie is just another description of crappy initiative, inconceivable that anyone would not put an hour's effort into doing it right the first time... So if I can even evaluate someone;'s looks based on their pile of blurry, dim, selfies, I have to take note that effort was D-, so the relationship potential is off to a bad start. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Actually, its quite unphotogenic to take an arms length selfie and yes, one can afford to use a picture taken by other friends and likely most preferred and quite normal than the awkward looking selfi. So you're not actually talking about selfies, but are speaking specifically about poorly done selfies? Yeah I guess I should have inferred that from your original post, due to, "taken from an angle or their face is all squished into one little box," so that was my bad. In cases like that, I think people are playing with angles. I actually did a demonstration once in a blog where I took several photos of myself from different selfy angles, and then picked out the most drastically different looking ones to demonstrate just how misleading photos can be. The results were actually pretty crazy, just how different I looked in each of the 7 photos. In two of them it didn't even look like the same person. So if anything if you see odd-angle selfies, it probably just means the woman is insecure about her appearance. Because selfies that give a realistic portrayal are not that hard to take. Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 I'm not sure why everyone makes a big fuss with selfies. Anyhow, a lot of my profil pictures are selfies but that's because my most recent picture from an 'event' was taken over a year ago... So putting the selfies in there so I have recent pictures. I also take my pictures with my computer instead of my phone... Link to post Share on other sites
Destined2B Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 Personally, neither selfies nor professionally shot photos appeal to me. One says you're not trying at all, the other says you trying too desperately. Both say your social life is lacking. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 Personally, neither selfies nor professionally shot photos appeal to me. One says you're not trying at all, the other says you trying too desperately. Both say your social life is lacking. Exactly. Just need casual pics of you out having fun with friends, on a vacation, doing what you love. Link to post Share on other sites
Mirages Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 So if anything if you see odd-angle selfies, it probably just means the woman is insecure about her appearance. It is the Bubble Guppies look. Where the head is big, and body gets smaller (and dimmer) as you go down. When the camera (or greasy phone) is held high, wide lens, the face dominates the shot. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 Before cell phone cameras pictures HAD to be taken of you by a camera and usually by other people and usually people only took pics to capture particular moments they wanted to capture. These days with every phone having a camera, taking pictures of yourself or other things without it needing to be a a group photo or a special occasion, aka 'selfies' are more common. I don't mind selfies so long as I can see you and you look like your picture. I find pictures of people and their 10 friends or them doing something, depending on what it is, pointless as I often can't tell which one is them in group photos or depending on the activity they are obscure in the picture. Selfies or at least pics of you by yourself facing the camera head on are my preferred pics personally. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 I also take my pictures with my computer instead of my phone... Those "shot up the nose" computer pics are even worse. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 I dont mind as long as they're a nice clear shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 SOme time ago, during the days of MySpace....was an internet Meme that went up online showing "My Space Angle Shots" It's still around today. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 SOme time ago, during the days of MySpace....was an internet Meme that went up online showing "My Space Angle Shots" It's still around today. LOL. Men have caught on and are posing in similar ways to hide their triple chins and big gut. Link to post Share on other sites
D.Mc. Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Hi Lookatthispost, This year my gf's got together once, for dinner in a restaurant, no pics except the one on Facebook of the cake one of them made for us. No pics from work...school's over for me & even if it wasn't - when would I ask a student I just know casually (only seen in the one class once a week) to take my photo? Can't ask my ex to take a photo of me all made up & sexy for a dating site LOL! Soooooo, since social life is nonexistent my OLD photos will be selfies. Of course if I had a better social life I might not be on OLD since my time would be spent w/friends & I would be seen by men in public who might ask me out (vicious circle starting). Selfies are fine unless you think they are being used to hide a body part. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 16, 2014 Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 Well, you might want to set the camera in front of you, put 10 seconds on the timer, and go stand in front of it. Hi Lookatthispost, This year my gf's got together once, for dinner in a restaurant, no pics except the one on Facebook of the cake one of them made for us. No pics from work...school's over for me & even if it wasn't - when would I ask a student I just know casually (only seen in the one class once a week) to take my photo? Can't ask my ex to take a photo of me all made up & sexy for a dating site LOL! Soooooo, since social life is nonexistent my OLD photos will be selfies. Of course if I had a better social life I might not be on OLD since my time would be spent w/friends & I would be seen by men in public who might ask me out (vicious circle starting). Selfies are fine unless you think they are being used to hide a body part. Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I don't mind people having a selfie or two on their profile, but if that's ALL they have is selfie's then I tend to pass them up. A ''selfie'' to me at least, is, a picture that just show's your bust essentially, Basically the central focus is on your face. And that's fine, but it is frustrating when people only photograph their face/bust area in an attempt to conceal their figure. On my PoF profile, I have 4 clear photo's of myself. Two of them are ''selfies'', as a matter of the fact, the same photo I use here on LS is my main photo on PoF. But I also have two photo's depicting my full body ''clothed'' very clearly. Link to post Share on other sites
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