Considering dating younger

[LookAtThisPOst]

I'm in my early 40s and lately, I've mostly become a regular at some of the dept or grocery stores I go to. Been doing so for months, years even. Some of the young ladies recognize me on sight and are more engaging with me in conversation when they are walking with me helping me with my groceries and one recently tends to linger outside her cashier counter, mingling the entrance so I've been striking up conversations with her.

 

Though I haven't bothered asking these ladies out as they are usually in their early 20s. One of them dropped out of college, because she didn't care for it and is likely going career with the grocery chain she works at.

 

Did the online dating thing only to be like many men in online dating, being ignored, but it's nice getting out of the house during the holidays and have opportunistic encounters with women out and about.

 

Most women probably in their 30s and older I encounter around here are pushing a baby buggy with husband or boyfriend in tow....so those encounters are quickly put aside. lol.

 

But the whole age diff. thing I might have to be wary of the maturity levels of these ladies. Though they may be fun company, probably have a few hobbies in common through our conversations, I figured I'd be a bit silly to date a woman who just made the legal drinking age. lol

 

Suggestions?

[gaius]

Life is short, just go for it. Most people that young don't have much going on between the ears but sometimes they'll surprise you. But you never know until you give it a shot.

[Mysterio]

If I were you I would try to stick with women 27 yrs +. I really think that most women and men need to stay single and just date/have fun till they are closer to 30. Just make sure you don't marry or get them pregnant before you really know them, which is most likely 2 yrs.

[hotpotato]

Whats the worst that could happen?

[mikethemechanic]

Yeah I too have had my share of dating younger women the problem is that They're all about the party.going out drinking every night with their girlfriends kissing guys in the bar fake email accounts male friends on Facebook.seems like a lot of girls who are in their 20s haven't fully matured.

If you want to raise your stress levels 100% then go ahead and date them.however you might find yourself in the poorhouse since you'll be spending a lot of money and time on them and if those gifts stop coming you're going to have problems in your relationship.

Many of those young girls may not even want to leave the house unless you buy them a trip to the beach.

I dated a girl who is 12 years my junior at first she was patronizingly friendly with me as time progressed she wouldn't even add me to your Facebook account.then she wouldn't even hang out with me until I suggested a vacation to a white sandy beach in the Caribbean then suddenly she had time for me.

A friend of mine dated a younger girl and every night he had to take her to a restaurant and that restaurant would come out to over $40.

Until payday he was often sick which was reason for not leaving the house to go see her. Most of those young girls have entitlement issues and are not going to do anything with you until they get this, this and that and they want it all now.

By advice is to pick up a hobby.

[FitChick]

Sales assistants everywhere are friendlier because they value their jobs and know customers will post bad reviews on Yelp about them.

 

If you were rejected, how would you feel about continuing to shop at those stores?

[carhill]

Depends on your goals for dating.... what are they?

 

I recall a few years ago facing a similar dilemma, having noticed a long-time postal clerk who had always been friendly to flirtatious (very unlike postal employees!) missing her wedding ring and who ramped up the interactions. She was younger and I had a tender spot from dealing with 'separated' or recently divorced women in the past so hesitated. By the time I recovered a few weeks later, she was apparently involved with someone else and a new wedding ring appeared later that year. It wasn't a stranger, rather someone I knew in her work capacity for nearly 20 years at the same PO so I accepted it as authentic.

 

The point is make a decision and go with it. If you want to date a checkout clerk at the store, regardless of her age, ask her out. If she says no, OK. If yes, OK. The store is simply the conduit of social interaction, nothing more or less.

[MissBee]

I'm in my early 40s and lately, I've mostly become a regular at some of the dept or grocery stores I go to. Been doing so for months, years even. Some of the young ladies recognize me on sight and are more engaging with me in conversation when they are walking with me helping me with my groceries and one recently tends to linger outside her cashier counter, mingling the entrance so I've been striking up conversations with her.

 

Though I haven't bothered asking these ladies out as they are usually in their early 20s. One of them dropped out of college, because she didn't care for it and is likely going career with the grocery chain she works at.

 

Did the online dating thing only to be like many men in online dating, being ignored, but it's nice getting out of the house during the holidays and have opportunistic encounters with women out and about.

 

Most women probably in their 30s and older I encounter around here are pushing a baby buggy with husband or boyfriend in tow....so those encounters are quickly put aside. lol.

 

But the whole age diff. thing I might have to be wary of the maturity levels of these ladies. Though they may be fun company, probably have a few hobbies in common through our conversations, I figured I'd be a bit silly to date a woman who just made the legal drinking age. lol

 

Suggestions?

 

Seems you've already weighed it and realize the cons and limitations, so it's about if you feel it's a viable option for what you want or not.

 

While many women closer to your age are already settled many are also not or divorced. So I'd not give up hope that you can find someone closer to your age who will share more life experiences and interests and be single.

 

The funny thing is that lots of women your age say the same thing: all men their age are married or the good ones are taken. Yet you and other single men their age also exist and are saying the same about them. So these two sets of people need to find each other and stop buying into the idea that all the good men/women their age are taken.

 

I'm in my twenties and while I have seen some delectable looking 40 year old men , truth be told, for serious dating I'd prefer someone closer to my own age so we can grow together and where we have more similar experience and are at similar life stages. I wouldn't rule it out completely, but he'd have to be pretty special for me to try to make a real go of it. If you're just looking for casual though then it may be easier.

Edited November 24, 2014 by MissBee

[TheyCallMeOx]

This isn't a serious issue. It's just dating; not marriage. If marriage happens down the road, she'll be older. I'm 24 and had sex with a 49 year old woman. Age shouldn't be the central focus of a relationship. This isn't the 1920's anymore.

[Mysterio]

Hey Ox did you feel the age difference with your 49 yr old woman.

[TheyCallMeOx]

Hey Ox did you feel the age difference with your 49 yr old woman.

 

Physically? Not really. In fact, she probably had the best lookin' body out of all the women I've had sex with (which is only a handful). Vagina is vagina.