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How Can I Get A Girlfriend?


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I'm a male in his early 20's. Never had sex. A few years ago I had a girlfriend, for about a month until she broke up with me. A few of my friends actually laughed at me, making fun that it didn't last more than a month, and depending on who you ask, I never even really had a girlfriend and it didn't count. Had a few chances in college. In retrospect I had some very good opportunities, but I lack self confidence too much and I froze, nothing really of note happened.

 

And one time I almost found myself in a foursome! And I didn't freeze up for that one, all systems were ready to go, nam sayin? Ladies changed their minds and weren't having any of it unfortunately.

 

Flash forward to now and I'm doing well. And in all honesty I haven't thought about women in a while. But today I just started thinking about it. Almost all my friends are moving along in lives with their girlfriends / wives, and I'm just here. Stuck. People say, "Ohhh the single life I miss that!" Nope. Single life has never been fun for me. I've never had a FWB. Hell, I've never even really had too many female friends to begin with!

 

I'm starting to realize that the best years of my life are starting to slip away from me. Time isn't slowing down its only moving faster. I feel like I've had everything I could have had at this point in my live except for love. Or just knowing what sex is like. I know I'll never be able to make up for the lost time, but how can I change my situation? I would even consider strip clubs or prostitution at this point, maybe one of those rub n tug parlors. I mean Hell, I can't wait until it doesn't work no more, it might not be the same as love, but it's something!

 

Oh, and I can't stand it when anyone asks, "What about you my man? How many girls have you banged huh???" It actually hurts when I get asked that question.

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I would even consider strip clubs or prostitution at this point, maybe one of those rub n tug parlors. I mean Hell, I can't wait until it doesn't work no more, it might not be the same as love, but it's something!

 

Oh, and I can't stand it when anyone asks, "What about you my man? How many girls have you banged huh???" It actually hurts when I get asked that question.

 

Don't go to a prostitute to lose your virginity any guy Ive known whose done that has seriously regretted it..Guys who ask you how many girls you have banged are dicks anyways and will prob end up with it falling off due to some nasty fungus or something..

 

My advice go out and get active in what ever interests you and you are bound to meet women and the bonus will be you will already be doing something you both like so waalaa common ground to start with..

 

love is not a race and its not a score board..but it is worth waiting for and trust me in your early 20s its not going to fall off anytime soon..lol

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Having a GF is different then having sexual conquests. You say you want a GF but your post reads like you just want to bang somebody / anybody & you don't really care who. If that is the case you are going to have a difficult time finding anybody.

 

If you genuinely want someone you can spend quality time with & hopefully fall in love & become intimate, look around & when you see an interesting woman, smile & say hello. Begin talking to her. Build rapport from there & work your way up to a date.

 

Discount your friends. If you had a GF for a month, you had a GF. If you got her to go out with you, you can can get others to date you.

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Having a GF is different then having sexual conquests. You say you want a GF but your post reads like you just want to bang somebody / anybody & you don't really care who. If that is the case you are going to have a difficult time finding anybody.

 

Having a girlfriend is different than just wanting sex, but many people have messed around with others before becoming monogamous, many people I know personally. I'm sure there's plenty of people who've had sex with a lot of one night stands, but want a real relationship. I'm sure there's plenty of people who are in long term relationships who have only been with one person and however happy they are in those relationships, wish they experienced / experimented more when they were single.

 

I'm on both sides because I've never really had either, so while it may seem that I just want to have sex, that's not the case because I'm so inexperienced that I want to experience as much as possible in this life, love as well as lust.

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The most common thing is you did not meet and socialized with enough girls. Did you try to talk to all the girls in bar, club, shopping mall, class, streets? oppotunity is every where

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I feel like most of the girls who I've come into contact with were taken, they were not interested, or I didn't correctly convey the message that I was interested.

 

Really I feel like a lot of the time I come on too strong. I'm overly forward, but that's just because I don't want to play the game and that's how I feel most comfortable. Just laying it all down on the line, it's a lot more simple that way, but I feel like it rarely works for me.

 

But as of right now, I do not meet too many women at all. My post college life has seen a sharp decline in the amount of socializing I do. This is why I've recently started worrying about my future love life.

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But as of right now, I do not meet too many women at all. My post college life has seen a sharp decline in the amount of socializing I do. This is why I've recently started worrying about my future love life.

 

College has built in social things. IRL you have to work for it. If you don't meet many women, change up what you are doing so you come into contact with more women.

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