Targetlock Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) Hi It has been almost two months since my break up, and i feel i have now let it go and i am ready to move on with my life and I have learnt from the experience and it has taught me lot and i have feel i have learned a lot and come out stronger for it. But now i feel i am eager to experience it again and try again and put myself out and maybe even get some winter romance I found love once, i can find it again maybe the real deal this time, looking forward to all the new dating adventures i end up on. now i can afford it with my new job i'm thinking of trying one of the proper dating sites at the start of the year possibly match or e-harmony just to expand my options. wish me luck, any advice or ideas would be great ladies, watch out because im back on the market P.S though i am waiting for the new year before anyone i know knows and before i put anything into motion so to speak. Edited November 16, 2014 by Targetlock extra info 5 Link to post Share on other sites
jonsnuh Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I'm in the same boat. I haven't seriously dated... more like going on adventures with activity partners. I've been very fortunate to have understanding and mature playmates who've agreed to being friends for now, and with everything that's happening with our careers this is probably best for us. I really don't know when I'm ready to date again, given that I'm still working and looking for jobs, looking at increasing my investments and hopefully getting a house. What made you realize that you're ready to date? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Good luck!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 I'm in the same boat. I haven't seriously dated... more like going on adventures with activity partners. I've been very fortunate to have understanding and mature playmates who've agreed to being friends for now, and with everything that's happening with our careers this is probably best for us. I really don't know when I'm ready to date again, given that I'm still working and looking for jobs, looking at increasing my investments and hopefully getting a house. What made you realize that you're ready to date? just feel ready for someone new in my life, ready for the fun and also someone to warm me up and cuddle with on these cold winter nights. kind of miss being in a relationship to be honest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 18, 2014 Author Share Posted November 18, 2014 life is weird.. Okay so a couple of days ago i redid my old dating profile on PoF and soon got contacted by someone, turns out they are in the same line of work as me, similar hobbies (were both geeks), similar age (one year older) but sadly lives a bit further away from me, and she gave me her number as she thinks we have a lot in common and wants to get to know me better and looks forward to hearing from me not pinning any hopes on this but it seems to be a pretty good start. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 20, 2014 Author Share Posted November 20, 2014 And now its all gone quiet :/ haven't heard anything from her at all, no response to my message (she only responded to a hello message but didn't respond to the next one) i guess she is busy or has already moved on or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 now i can afford it with my new job i'm thinking of trying one of the proper dating sites at the start of the year possibly match or e-harmony just to expand my options. P.S though i am waiting for the new year before anyone i know knows and before i put anything into motion so to speak. I would recommend not doing OLD, but get comfortable chatting up real women in the real world. Anywhere such as school, work, supermarket, etc.. Get comfortable talking, flirting, and becoming confident. Meeting women in person is a much better and positive experience than reading some static profile on OLD. Also, why are you waiting for the New Year to do anything? Talking and flirting does not require a stringent timeline. And now its all gone quiet :/ haven't heard anything from her at all, no response to my message (she only responded to a hello message but didn't respond to the next one) i guess she is busy or has already moved on or something. If you sent just a hello message, meaning literally "Hello", then she isn't going to reply. You have craft a succinct message to gain her interest and want to chat with you back. This is why I a suggest for you to talk and flirt with real women in the real world. Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 Come on Target, go for it. I'm rooting for you. However, I wouldn't eliminate OLD entirely. It's a tool to used. Heck, I was randomly sending things to women without expecting anything, and finally found someone who 'liked' me in return. ^^ Just saying, keep your options open. It pays off to have more than one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 20, 2014 Author Share Posted November 20, 2014 Come on Target, go for it. I'm rooting for you. However, I wouldn't eliminate OLD entirely. It's a tool to used. Heck, I was randomly sending things to women without expecting anything, and finally found someone who 'liked' me in return. ^^ Just saying, keep your options open. It pays off to have more than one. yeah im using OLD as one of the options not just the only one or thats the plan anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Good luck Sad to hear your last relationship ended. Take things slower next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 21, 2014 Author Share Posted November 21, 2014 Good luck Sad to hear your last relationship ended. Take things slower next time. you live, you learn i guess, it all got too much for her it seems but anyway im tired of thinking it over and just want to get on with new romantic adventures, hopefully Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 ..... I really don't know when I'm ready to date again, given that I'm still working and looking for jobs, looking at increasing my investments and hopefully getting a house. What made you realize that you're ready to date? Waiting till you build a better 'good on paper' you for the women to appreciate. lol. Don't put it off until you have the good house + the good career. Do it now. Plenty of people have gf/bf while studying & working. I knew a couple of guys that put having gfs off. They were not finding it easy so put it on the back burner while they focused on themselves or pleasing the parents by getting the status career + assets and then a good wife. Trouble is when they were older they still wanted the cute fun loving girls they had lusted after in their late teens/early 20s. They were a bit too old & serious to snag them now. They increased the age in a gf they wanted each year but they were also another year older themselves. They regretted putting that part of their life on the backburner. Give the time to the gf you are willing to commit and not what she insists. TargetLock - I remember reading the post where your gf dumped you. The whole relationship went from 0-100 too quick, with both of you. Like you say you live and learn. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 22, 2014 Author Share Posted November 22, 2014 Waiting till you build a better 'good on paper' you for the women to appreciate. lol. Don't put it off until you have the good house + the good career. Do it now. Plenty of people have gf/bf while studying & working. I knew a couple of guys that put having gfs off. They were not finding it easy so put it on the back burner while they focused on themselves or pleasing the parents by getting the status career + assets and then a good wife. Trouble is when they were older they still wanted the cute fun loving girls they had lusted after in their late teens/early 20s. They were a bit too old & serious to snag them now. They increased the age in a gf they wanted each year but they were also another year older themselves. They regretted putting that part of their life on the backburner. Give the time to the gf you are willing to commit and not what she insists. TargetLock - I remember reading the post where your gf dumped you. The whole relationship went from 0-100 too quick, with both of you. Like you say you live and learn. first real relationship for me, so it was a bit of a learning curve i guess. you live you learn i guess. and life is too short for me to sit and wait to build a 'good on paper', i think i already am lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted November 25, 2014 Author Share Posted November 25, 2014 Getting back in the OLD thing and just remembered now why can be so annoying and disheartening sometimes, so hard to get a response these days even if i write a nice individual message that talks about something in their profile. considering doing a trial run of one of the major ones (match maybe?) but honestly expecting similar results. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Good hunting Targetlock! In a sea of would-be-relationship horror stories from men, your story was a safe haven. I'm disappointed that your relationship ended, things were going so great! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mirages Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 P.S though i am waiting for the new year before anyone i know knows and before i put anything into motion so to speak. You notice that OLD seems to get really active after new year's, thru about May, then tapers to a stagnant state until the next turn of the year? Both the quantity and turnover of candidates seems to follow trend. I suppose this will positively affect your search. I wish you the best 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 (edited) at the moment me and that online girl are talking all the time, texting and chatting online and also through skype (hopefully a video chat next), so you never know it might lead somewhere, just got to play it cool and see what happens dont know til i try. Edited December 17, 2014 by Targetlock Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted December 23, 2014 Author Share Posted December 23, 2014 nothing new to report, still going well. we are friends at the moment and if it leads to anything else that will be a bonus, though i do rather like her more than a friend . just see how it goes i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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