Is all fair in love and war? Really?

[irc333]

I heard this "How we met" story where people were in currently relationships or even engaged when some man....not sure the word "stole" is correct. lol. But it COULD be thought of that way by the victim.

 

Anyhow, and I'm thinking this is not uncommon, because these "How we met..."stories have always started with, "Well, I was with my current boyfriend at the time..."

 

I heard one of the people on the radio who was working an radio events gig at a bar/grill and the female lead singer he had a thing for. I guess they started talking during the break, found a reason to get her # (for networking purposes since they are in the entertainment industry)

 

And....as they also say, "One thing led to another and....now we're married."

 

And these "How we met ..." stories weren't a lame attempt to get laid or anything or seeing, "Let's see if I can steal his/her man/woman", they sometimes wind up in marriages....surprisingly.

 

I even heard a pastor of a church admittedly say he wound up with his wife through a woman he met at a volunteer event were they had to work together at a booth. He asked her for coffee after breaking down the booth...and "one thing lead to another...we're married!"

 

Now, I heard how the "victim" found this to be quite unethical and the pastor giving his "how we met..." sermon left a distaste in one of these peoples' mouths because THEY had been a victim to that...and failed to see how this was "uplifting"

 

BUt anyhow, they saw it as unethical, immmoral, and down right nasty....but from the non-victims...they wound up happy together, and obviously the victims could wish they could take a flying leap.

 

But like headliner says, "IS all fair in love and war?"

 

Looked up the "love" part online. Said this:

 

The point of adding love to the list is likely to compare it to war. There are two main subtexts here. The first and most relevant is the idea that you can wreak all the havoc you want during the pursuit of true love. This includes sabotaging the third side in a love triangle or using deceit and trickery to woo the object of your affection

Edited November 1, 2014 by irc333

[dclan]

I really don't think the 3rd person is the actual problem.

 

Usually, the relationship itself is the one thats going thorugh a rough patch. Most people that leave for someone else, were not happy to begin with (at least not at the time the split ocurred).

 

Usually this new "love interest", is nothing more than a trigger for your partner leaving.

 

This is mostly true for women. Most women will never leave a relationship, even a bad one, to be alone. If you are, lets say a 34 year old woman, still no marriage/kids, you'll probably stick to your relationship even though its a bad one. However, if you meet someone new, you'll leave the relationship to start fresh.

 

Most relationships have good periods, and bad periods, no relationship is perfect. When a man/woman meets another person during one of those rough patches, thats usually when the break up happens.

 

Of course that people these days leave relationships for the stupidest reasons they can find. But this is just because our general way of living, in which we choose the easy way, rather than the hard way (and most of the times, it ends in regrett).

[irc333]

I really don't think the 3rd person is the actual problem.

 

Usually, the relationship itself is the one thats going thorugh a rough patch. Most people that leave for someone else, were not happy to begin with (at least not at the time the split ocurred).

 

Usually this new "love interest", is nothing more than a trigger for your partner leaving.

 

This is mostly true for women. Most women will never leave a relationship, even a bad one, to be alone. If you are, lets say a 34 year old woman, still no marriage/kids, you'll probably stick to your relationship even though its a bad one. However, if you meet someone new, you'll leave the relationship to start fresh.

 

Most relationships have good periods, and bad periods, no relationship is perfect. When a man/woman meets another person during one of those rough patches, thats usually when the break up happens.

 

Of course that people these days leave relationships for the stupidest reasons they can find. But this is just because our general way of living, in which we choose the easy way, rather than the hard way (and most of the times, it ends in regrett).

 

Yeah, good point....there has to be something more to the story, but they aren't revealing of that part I guess. I mean there HAD to be a reason they dumped their man for the one she just met.