hunter11 Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 I am a female who has been divorced for about 7 yrs..dated several different men and obviously they weren't the right ones...I am frustrated and have worked on the areas that I think were harmful to a relationship...The men that want to go out with me are married, which is a no-no for me and really disgusts me...or they are 15 yrs, older than me...no offense because I'm old...lol...the men my age want young women...I don't want to get married..I just want a good relationship...It's just hard...I am tired and not getting any younger..lol Does anyone feel the same about how hard it is to date at our age? Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 I am a female who has been divorced for about 7 yrs..dated several different men and obviously they weren't the right ones...I am frustrated and have worked on the areas that I think were harmful to a relationship...The men that want to go out with me are married, which is a no-no for me and really disgusts me...or they are 15 yrs, older than me...no offense because I'm old...lol...the men my age want young women...I don't want to get married..I just want a good relationship...It's just hard...I am tired and not getting any younger..lol Does anyone feel the same about how hard it is to date at our age? are you a smokin 56 ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hunter11 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Share Posted October 31, 2014 I don't think I'm ugly!!! lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 I don't think I'm ugly!!! lol you probably are not Link to post Share on other sites
Author hunter11 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Share Posted October 31, 2014 Well I don't want anyone to think that I am stuck on myself because I am quite the opposite...my friends tell me that I am nice, funny, etc..but why can't I meet someone...a good man...considerate, knows how to treat a lady etc... Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Have you ever thought about dating younger perhaps? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Well I don't want anyone to think that I am stuck on myself because I am quite the opposite...my friends tell me that I am nice, funny, etc..but why can't I meet someone...a good man...considerate, knows how to treat a lady etc... because they have all been turned into *******s by woman themselves ,I used to be a sweet,caring man.Until one clean my account up ,ruin my credit and had a baby with another man while trying to reconcile with me Link to post Share on other sites
Author hunter11 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Share Posted October 31, 2014 I have dated younger men...gosh when I was on some dating sites in the past I had 25 yr old guys wanting to go out with me...of course I know what they wanted but...I have dated men 10 yrs,. younger but the point is it is hard to date at my age... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 I get guys in their late 70's wanting to date me too and I'm 45. It's the nature of OLD. Some people see it like an online store so believe implicitly they can get that woman who is several years/decades younger. It's a numbers game to find someone on OLD. Real life was always the best way and still is. Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 i don't think age really matters overall. it's how you are presenting yourself, where you are going to meet people, what activities you are involved in, etc. i am 39, never married, and also have the older guys and married guys who approach me, but ALL women, at any age get those. i am sure you also did, in your 20s/30s, etc. i have found that dating when you are older requires a lot of effort. i have to go out of my way (and comfort zone) to meet potential men. i talk to men more, go to lots of social activities/outings/parties, etc. you have to take every opportunity to meet people and talk and interact and tell people you are single. i have also found that as the age of a man increases the interest/comfort with technology decreases so looking "in person" for someone in your age group is much better than looking online, although there are sites specific to older daters 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 (edited) When I was 49 and 50 or 51, I lost all the weight and dolled myself up and looked pretty effing amazing. I went on a nice date with my flamiest old flame, a terminally unrequited but nonetheless very exciting intermittent fling during the early years. He was long-distance and wanting to move overseas again (hadn't been back long). I know he was at least considering prolonging our relationship this time because on our weekend, he asked me how a couple of places he wanted to move sounded to me, places like Dubai. I wasn't keen on 140 degree temperatures and suppressed women, and sighed wondering why he couldn't just want to move someplace temperate and woman-friendly. But no. We were still in communication shortly after the date when 9/11 happened -- and that was it. He shifted gears and started preparing to go on a big adventure again across the globe,working overseas. Thing is, he still was surrounded by young girls every day. To his credit, he also did hang out with some 40-ish ladies. When young, he was the best looking guy, to my eyes, I've ever seen. Now he put a beard over it, but it was still under there somewhere. Everyone I had any attention from during that time were 30-ish guys except for him, who was older than me. But none of it turned into dates. I think all of them could have turned into one-niters but not a serious relationship. Speaking of old guys, at the dog park, where two young guys were talking to me a lot, out of just being nice, I talked to a couple of old guys and both of them acted like me hanging around was going to cramp their style from hitting on the young women there. I don't understand what happens to old single men, but it isn't pretty, though it is pretty obvious why they're single again. A few years later, I had an online romance with someone that was very serious, but our timing was bad. I finally pulled the plug, regretfully. When you reach my age, first this hip hurts, then that one, then something else happens. He was a minor celebrity having career issues, and then Facebook happened and he had many women to talk to. I think when I threw in the towel was after my nerve compression in my arm. Literally I was trying to figure out how, logistically we could sleep together without getting injured (slept with that arm straight out for a couple or three years). We'd gotten nowhere trying to agree on a place to live (well, actually, we'd semiagreed on a place that was later wiped out by a Gulf hurricane) Overcoming all the issues began heaping stress on me, and I pulled the plug. I decided I was just too old to try to pull it together one more time. On an encouraging note, my aunt was married for 50 years or something and had a guy waiting in line after the other died, I guess, because she got a boyfriend right away. She was always very beautiful and flawless in character. She never talked about it, but I imagine he'd been in love with her forever. Maybe you should think back over anyone who was ever crushing on you and see what they're up to these days! Edited November 1, 2014 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Based on what I read here there are lots of people of many different age groups who can relate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hunter11 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Share Posted November 1, 2014 I get out alot! Go to concerts, walk, live near the Gulf of Mexico so I'm at the beach a lot. Grass doesn't grow under my feet!!! Lol. Dated someone who recently broke up with me. He was a nice man! We went boating, fishing, to his hunting camp... Loved doing all of this. He just got a divorce a year ago and I was the first person that he was in an exclusive relationship with. We were enjoying each other! He told me he needed space. We know what this means! Anyway... It's just hard to try and keep your chin up when you think things are going well and all if a sudden there isn't a relationship anymore! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 He was probably not ready to get into a marriage-like situation again that soon. Lots of older people vow never to remarry, but then there are plenty who want to remarry asap. If you get out a lot, you are ahead of the game. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hunter11 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Share Posted November 1, 2014 I didn't want to get married! We never told each other we loved each other. We were in like with each other. I liked him a lot and really wished it had worked out. He was younger but just a few years. I guess I have to be patient. I would love to have someone to spend my last years with... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Yeah, it's a good time to have someone, but to go through old age with, they have to be really good and dependable. Just stay out there doing activities where men congregate. Link to post Share on other sites
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