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i feel lost. i like two girls but i dont know


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i was thinking about a girl, lets call her molly, in my class that i briefly spoke to last semester. there is something about her that i like and we do have alot in common. but molly isnt attractive. i dont know how to explain it because i find her attractive in some ways but at the same time i kind of dont. not sure if that makes any sense. that doesnt bother me at all though. but the reason why i didnt talk to her more or ask her out is because i like another girl.

 

the other girl, lets call her sarah, is what i consider the perfect girl. she is beautiful (even though not everybody sees it), has more in common with me, personality that i like, and is shy. but she rejected me already and even though i havent seen her in a year, we still go to the same school and i am hoping to bump into her again. i dont know why because she kindly rejected me already.

 

i dont know what to do. i think i should also mention that there is another issue that worries me. hypothetically if i were to date molly, i wouldnt be 100% satisfied. i should explain, i am a virgin and in my early 20s. i want to have a serious relationship with a girl that i would like to marry someday. so if i go out with a girl that isn't that attractive, i will always have the fantasy of being with a sexy and incredibly attractive woman. its just one of those things i want to experience. i feel bad for thinking like this. i also had the chance to have sex with a pretty good looking girl 2 years ago but i dodged it because that girl wasn't my type at all in terms of personality, and i didnt want to be with someone i truly didnt like.

 

but i dont know. i am so confused. i want to try to see if i can date molly because at the end of the day its a big waste of time waiting and hoping i will bump into the girl that rejected me before. i need to move on but it is so difficult when you found what you consider the perfect person. it is also unhealthy i know. if i could i would go back in time and attempt to go out with sarah again because i was very nervous and shy with her. she is naturally shy so it made things a little weird.

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So if 'Sarah' rejected you, why are you still carrying a flame for her? Cut it loose, onward and upward.

 

 

Your post confuses me, you first say that 'Molly' isn't attractive, but she is??? (I get it, sort of) Then the part about wondering about being with a sexy and attractive woman if you dated 'Molly' makes you sound a bit superficial...no offense.

 

 

If you like this 'Molly', go for it, but don't hedge because of 'Sarah', that's not fair to 'Molly'. If it works, great, if not, you live, you learn. You'll meet LOTS of other women, don't put so much pressure on yourself.

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