Potbarley Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Hello I am new to the open marriage as my wife and I are beginning a new chapter in our relationship. Scary but exciting. We have been together since high school 16 years. Married 10. I'm 33 her 32. She has found a man to chat with and is enjoying that. I am happy for her. It seems far more difficult as a man to find a real woman that is worth the time and effort. I'm attractive and fit but have never really needed to court a woman. Im somewhat green at it. I don't want to just randomly hook up with anyone. I want to have a connection after a lot of chatting. I want to get to know someone before I ever meet them. I like the safety of chatting I suppose. I'm from Canada and would like to speak with like minded Canadians. I would like to find someone I am really interested in and that can hold a real, intellectual conversation. Someone open and fun. I am willing to send pics and start slow. Any advise or thoughts would be appreciated. My thanks be to you. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Try plentyoffish.com. I am sure there are swinger websites as well. Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 I wouldn't be able to do any type of open relationship. Heck I don't even let the zipper on my pants stay open. Can you really sleep at night knowing another guy will soon be bonking your WIFE, you know the woman who took vows to be faithful and true to you. What's the point of a marriage if it's "open"? Insurance and tax purposes? And of course she found someone already...women can pick up guys in a heartbeat. Not so easy for guys to pull this off. You've got to be on some charismatic Jim Jones type -ish to convince a woman to do this...or be rich. Not knocking your lifestyle, do what you do, but beware that this could be a very bad idea. Good luck though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Potbarley, IMHO an "open marriage" is a marriage that isn't working.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Potbarley Posted October 25, 2014 Author Share Posted October 25, 2014 I wrote that post in hopes of finding some people to chat with. All I found were haters. My wife isn't banging other men at all. We've barley started to chat with people online. We're a long way from even being ready to meet people. The reason we started and I've seen it all over this website and everywhere is this: Do I want to loose everything I've ever worked for in my life,everything I love and have worked so hard to achieve with my wife. Do I want to loose it over a text or email. Is that the tiny thing that could destroy my marriage because of jealousy. Or would I rather be open with my wife. Communicate how I feel and how she feels. But up boundaries and try to have fun. Be honest and genuine in my actions. We are classy people. We are not trying to hump random people or just run off and have sex with someone at the first opportunity. Our marriage is strong and the first rule is when one of us can't take it we quit. Hands down walk away. I would never want to hurt my wife or do anything to damage my relationship. There is nothing wrong with attention from others. It's natural to seek it and it feels good to be noticed. So if your only going to hate them don't bother writing as I've no uses for it. If you have something constructive please say it. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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