SJC2008 Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 See my fwb thread. She was all over me, asked me if I was sure when leaving the bar because I'm "so good looking". We even did it again in the morning. We set up a "date" for tonight and she flakes. Why not say no thanks when I texted? Why ask to talk on the phone? (I then called her). Why agree to another date? The bottom line is that I'm always om the losing end. Not one woman I have dated hasn't thrown a wrench into things, I'm talking 2-3 dates + in most cases. My beliefs may be flawed but it seems like people can pull dates, r's and fwb's out of their wazoos and I can't get a second meeting with a desperate older woman. Smh Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Ouch. That's gotta hurt. How much is up to you though, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 That sucks dude. At least you had fun with her that time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Xiane Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 hard one pal..but the good news is, at least new points added to your experience, keep leveling it up Link to post Share on other sites
Cristo Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 See my fwb thread. She was all over me, asked me if I was sure when leaving the bar because I'm "so good looking". We even did it again in the morning. We set up a "date" for tonight and she flakes. Why not say no thanks when I texted? Why ask to talk on the phone? (I then called her). Why agree to another date? The bottom line is that I'm always om the losing end. Not one woman I have dated hasn't thrown a wrench into things, I'm talking 2-3 dates + in most cases. My beliefs may be flawed but it seems like people can pull dates, r's and fwb's out of their wazoos and I can't get a second meeting with a desperate older woman. Smh Take it from the source it comes from. I knew from your other thread that she's low quality. This is how low quality people act. Don't go for FWB when you want more. Something nothing is actually better than something that you don't want. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Take it from the source it comes from. I knew from your other thread that she's low quality. This is how low quality people act. Don't go for FWB when you want more. Something nothing is actually better than something that you don't want. +200 Low quality from the start. Could smell it coming. This result doesn't surprise me in the least. Easy come, easy go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Welcome to women in the 21st century. Nah, it's welcome to the OP trying to have a relationship with a FWB. I'm having the same issue with guys I have dated, it's not just women who pull this stuff. Instead of blaming the opposite sex, we should just continue on with life, move on and be our awesome selves despite a few people not being interested in us. Desperation is obvious to people and it's also a turn-off. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted October 18, 2014 Author Share Posted October 18, 2014 Nah, it's welcome to the OP trying to have a relationship with a FWB. I'm having the same issue with guys I have dated, it's not just women who pull this stuff. Instead of blaming the opposite sex, we should just continue on with life, move on and be our awesome selves despite a few people not being interested in us. Desperation is obvious to people and it's also a turn-off. Yes men flake too. Why do women have to "bring it back" when we talk of our struggles? What does men flaking have to do with me getting jerked around by almost every woman I've dated in my life? As far as being desperate being a turnoff. This woman takes the cake and is ten times more desperate than me; So this would serve as yet another example of how a woman can be over insecure but still accepts nothing less in the men she dates. I showed no neediness, I texted her three days later, asked if she wanted to get together again and that's pretty much it. The only thing I can think of was that after we did the deed that night and were talking, I told her I was shy and she didn't beleive it. It couldn't of bothered her that much though as we did it again in the morning. Contrary to how this sounds, this is more about getting rejected by another *woman*, not her if that makes sense. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Yes men flake too. Why do women have to "bring it back" when we talk of our struggles? What does men flaking have to do with me getting jerked around by almost every woman I've dated in my life? As far as being desperate being a turnoff. This woman takes the cake and is ten times more desperate than me; So this would serve as yet another example of how a woman can be over insecure but still accepts nothing less in the men she dates. I showed no neediness, I texted her three days later, asked if she wanted to get together again and that's pretty much it. The only thing I can think of was that after we did the deed that night and were talking, I told her I was shy and she didn't beleive it. It couldn't of bothered her that much though as we did it again in the morning. Contrary to how this sounds, this is more about getting rejected by another *woman*, not her if that makes sense. I was responding to another poster's comment, not yours. They made a generalization that I feel is not really healthy to have as we stop looking at people as individuals but as a whole. "All women" do this, "All men" do that. Instead of blaming these women, why don't you date women who are interested in a relationship? It's a tired game honestly, I've seen it more than once on this website, when a woman posts about how she can never find a guy who wants more then sex, the responses are "stop attracting people who only want you for sex". So, I'll say something similar to you, look at the choices you make and stop attracting people who don't want a relationship. The desperate comment was about the women you're dating, not you. You said: "My beliefs may be flawed but it seems like people can pull dates, r's and fwb's out of their wazoos and I can't get a second meeting with a desperate older woman". My point was you shouldn't be dating desperate older women, you should try to attract like minded people. If you're not turned off by desperation then you need to change what you're doing in regards to dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted October 18, 2014 Author Share Posted October 18, 2014 I was responding to another poster's comment, not yours. They made a generalization that I feel is not really healthy to have as we stop looking at people as individuals but as a whole. "All women" do this, "All men" do that. Instead of blaming these women, why don't you date women who are interested in a relationship? It's a tired game honestly, I've seen it more than once on this website, when a woman posts about how she can never find a guy who wants more then sex, the responses are "stop attracting people who only want you for sex". So, I'll say something similar to you, look at the choices you make and stop attracting people who don't want a relationship. The desperate comment was about the women you're dating, not you. You said: "My beliefs may be flawed but it seems like people can pull dates, r's and fwb's out of their wazoos and I can't get a second meeting with a desperate older woman". My point was you shouldn't be dating desperate older women, you should try to attract like minded people. If you're not turned off by desperation then you need to change what you're doing in regards to dating. No you're right, our people pickers do have a lot to do with it so I agree with that type of advice. My point is that I can't even land a fwb. So I see that I fail in *all* areas of relations with women, from casual to dating/relationships. Do you see where I'm comming from? It just adds to the insecurity. Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 No you're right, our people pickers do have a lot to do with it so I agree with that type of advice. My point is that I can't even land a fwb. So I see that I fail in *all* areas of relations with women, from casual to dating/relationships. Do you see where I'm comming from? It just adds to the insecurity. Ahh sorry, I must have misread your initial post. Don't think of yourself as a failure, you're just running into some bad luck and picking maybe not so great people. Just be upfront about what you want and if they don't want the same thing then byebye to them. I'm looking for someone to have some fun with and not love, I'm having bad luck as well. It's not easy for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts