Can I still ask her out?

[John316C]

While I was at the hospital. One of the first nurses, named Sandra introduced herself. She is short, has a slim face, and brown hair and looked very pretty. My mom and I took turns night and day and I stayed night, because I hate the day at the hospital. She also worked only the night shift at 7PM to 7AM. I watched her. She blew me away.

 

She was both beautiful and what really drew my attention was the attention she payed to her work and caring for the patients. She also acted like a leader and it seemed she was "the" leader on the floor. She took 2 days break during that week. I noticed she didn't seem apprehensive when I asked about my fathers condition but she did like me. She never gave me any clear signs though. But you can tell. She did give me a overnight bed. During that time I never spoke to her about anything else but hovered around the outside of the door looking watching the nurse talk in the nurses station and walk by doing their night duty. As the days went by I noticed she became accustomed to my presence and half way through the week she took 2 days break.

 

During that time I became alarmed and asked a few nurses those nights when she would return etc. They noticed I spoke in a very apprehensive un-confident way. They wouldn't tell me for confidential reasons. Finally one slipped and told me she's in "tonight" and when I asked again said that she can't say. I believe at least one of them told her; the friendly, pretty 45-55? year old one to me who asked about my job. The next night when I walked in and stepped out of the door to go to the local 7-Eleven(mini-mart) I stepped out 4/5 yards in front of her and looked at her - she looked down before looking at me and I thought to myself, "wow" her face was red like a tomato! It was about the middle of the week by then. She expected me to say something to her, but I never got a clear signal. Just the bed, wished me good night.. or "day" twice when I saw her leave, from standing in the hall door... Glancing at me sometimes.

 

I noticed a silver band around her marriage finger but didn't get a good look at it. Nurses wear gloves a lot. Then later I noticed a big diamond ring on her same finger but still couldn't get a good enough look at it. I think she put it on a little later after towards the end of my visit. I think she might have gotten fed up waiting. She didn't give me any clear 'GO's' like a big smile to approach her. She might actually be married. But I know some women wear rings to disqualify potential suitors.

 

I hovered around her a lot not close to her but around because my dad was there. She appeared more self-concious around me, like she was afraid of me. For instance instead of trying to hide blushing, it eventually changed to a solemn face and I think she avoided walking my way.

 

... Anyway. I really like her. But because of my voice disorder and self-consciousness I was terrified of speaking to her. My dad is dying and I never knew If she was available or not. It's more than looks for me which really struck me. And not finding out. I can't not find out. I have to get rid of this disease! I'm thinking of waiting a few months? to aggressively fix myself and return to the hospital on my own. Or I'm thinking of writing a 'Thank-You' card and then explaining shortly my behavior and asking her to call me. I've never seen a woman beautiful and with this kindness before. I really like her!

 

While I was there I came across... apologetic when speaking, using hunched closed body language and hovering. Once she was in the hall turned a corner and I was walking her way. She turned the bend and came back straight into me. I moved away past the corner before she turned around and when she almost hit me. I noticed she didn't look at me, but made a frustrated face at the floor.

 

I really want to go back and talk to her and find out if she is really married. I've never seen a girl like this before, in my limited experience. My standards for what I want have just went up because of her. Please tell me if you think there could be some good news. Everything matters to me now. And I really like... this girl.

Edited October 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[d0nnivain]

The nursing code of ethical conduct in most states prohibits nurses from dating patients. It also discourages them from dating family members of patients.

 

It does appear that she is married.

 

Finally I think you are mistaking the kindness & comfort offered to you as a matter of her profession for a personal interest.

 

I am very sorry your father is ill but do not ask out this nurse.

[The Like Fairy]

You could ask her if she is married. ....

[preraph]

This nurse is definitely not interested in you. Definitely the desk nurses would have told her you were asking about her. Definitely she noticed you staring. She went and put on the big ring to send you the message she isn't interested. I'm sorry. Nurses are paid to be kind to patients and their families. It keeps the hospital out of a world of lawsuits. Just be grateful your dad did have such a caring caregiver, though.