shinobininja Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 A girl that I have been flirting with has been seeming distant lately. We work together. We usually text once a night. She still seems quite interested and always replies, but It feels kind of like maybe I'm wearing myself too thin with her, not giving her enough space/time to miss me. She isn't as enthusiastic as she was a few weeks ago. I really like this girl and don't want to blow it. I want to try distancing myself a bit to see if that changes things, but It's soooo hard not to talk to her! I'm pretty infatuated, and I think it's clouding my judgement. So what would you advise? Would making myself unavailable possibly help things? I know she already likes me at least a little. I just don't want to appear desperate or even worse..."creepy":eek: Should I leave the ball in her court? Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 (edited) Let's start with the basics - have you asked her out on a date yet? If the answer is no, then we have nothing else to discuss until you do. Edited October 17, 2014 by oldshirt 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author shinobininja Posted October 17, 2014 Author Share Posted October 17, 2014 No I haven't. I should probably do that and just figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 No I haven't. I should probably do that and just figure it out. Do that and then we'll go from there. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
most_distant_galaxy Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Maybe she is expecting you to ask her out, and since you don't, she assumes you don't like her enough? Link to post Share on other sites
Prince123 Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 So what would you advise? Would making myself unavailable possibly help things? I know she already likes me at least a little. I just don't want to appear desperate or even worse..."creepy" Should I leave the ball in her court? Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 Let's start with the basics - have you asked her out on a date yet? If the answer is no, then we have nothing else to discuss until you do. You do go right to the heart of things, don't ya. I presumed that was something already done but no... no. You saw this post and figured it out right away. Kudos Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 So what would you advise? Would making myself unavailable possibly help things? I know she already likes me at least a little. I just don't want to appear desperate or even worse..."creepy" Should I leave the ball in her court? Do guys that ask women out on legitimate dates desperate and creepy?????? If so then every guy with a girlfriend is desperate and creepy, you might as well be one of them. Asking a girl out is not creepy. That is how guys have been getting dates and GFs and wives since time immortal. Creepy is parking outside her house all night after she has already said no. Ask her out. She'll either say yes or no. If she says yes take her out and have a nice time. If you enjoyed her company ask her out again. If you didn't enjoy being around her, then don't ask her out again. If she says no at any point then just move on to the next girl that catches your attention. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 Nobody should PLAY hard to get. Doing so means you are playing games. Intentionally distancing yourself on one level is a game but if you have been smothering this poor girl, stepping back & letting her breathe is a good idea. Texting is a horrible clinical way to communicate. It's best for things like good morning & please bring home milk or I'm running late. You can't form the foundation of a relationship though text or email or social media. If you like this lady, stop with the daily texting. Pick up the phone & call her. Invite her on a date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mascara Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 If she likes you, she already thinks you're not interested because you haven't asked her out. If you distance yourself she'll be even more convinced and probably lose interest. And if she doesn't like you that way, at least you won't waste any more time. Ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 You should be hard to get. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Prince123 Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 So what would you advise? Would making myself unavailable possibly help things? I know she already likes me at least a little. I just don't want to appear desperate or even worse..."creepy" Should I leave the ball in her court? __________________ Get Florida Institute of Technologyand SY0-401 practice dump - pass4sure with 100% success guaranteed. Our high quality IBQH prepares you well before appearing in the final exams of Kyoto University. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 Maybe she is expecting you to ask her out, and since you don't, she assumes you don't like her enough? Or don't have the balls, which is worse. Link to post Share on other sites
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