The Friendly Newcome Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Hi I am a 20 year old male and I have never kissed a girl. I find it is starting to get to me now. I would consider myself to be a really passionate young man and I would love to have a girl to spend time with. I see beautiful women all around me and it drives me crazy inside. I have tried in the past to get to know girls but to no avail. I have been told I am handsome but I used to be shy when I was younger which has meant I never had many connections with girls. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetlifevt Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 Start by making a decision to be more social in general. Give yourself a goal of having a short conversation with at least two new people a day. (I probably don't need to say this, but I mean you should talk to people face to face, not via text, chat, video chat, etc. Walk around your neighborhood, go to events, start getting to know the people around you at work or school, and so on.) Look up conversation pointers online if needed (I did recently!) The age or gender of the people you talk to doesn't matter much, you're just building up some self confidence and/or skills in talking to people. Whether you're already smooth at conversation or if you feel awkward talking to others, this is still a great exercise, because you will be practicing small talk and then (occasionally), delving into deeper territory with new people. Believe it or not, talking to women whom you find attractive is pretty much the same as talking to any other person. So practice, practice, practice! You're not going to meet new girls if you don't talk to them! As you gain confidence, try approaching more women your age to talk to them. Think of it as just another conversation. Stay relaxed; remember, you've done this over and over in the past days. No big deal! This will help get you started to meet women and to then begin to forge connections with some of them. Have fun! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 Start by making a decision to be more social in general. Give yourself a goal of having a short conversation with at least two new people a day. (I probably don't need to say this, but I mean you should talk to people face to face, not via text, chat, video chat, etc. Walk around your neighborhood, go to events, start getting to know the people around you at work or school, and so on.) Look up conversation pointers online if needed (I did recently!) The age or gender of the people you talk to doesn't matter much, you're just building up some self confidence and/or skills in talking to people. Whether you're already smooth at conversation or if you feel awkward talking to others, this is still a great exercise, because you will be practicing small talk and then (occasionally), delving into deeper territory with new people. Believe it or not, talking to women whom you find attractive is pretty much the same as talking to any other person. So practice, practice, practice! You're not going to meet new girls if you don't talk to them! As you gain confidence, try approaching more women your age to talk to them. Think of it as just another conversation. Stay relaxed; remember, you've done this over and over in the past days. No big deal! This will help get you started to meet women and to then begin to forge connections with some of them. Have fun! Sounds silly but it's true, and probably the foundation to improving one's love life. Nobody wants to hear that though, everyone wants the one step tip on how to be the Mack overnight. Too bad, as usual the simplest answers are the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 (edited) Start by making a decision to be more social in general. Give yourself a goal of having a short conversation with at least two new people a day. (I probably don't need to say this, but I mean you should talk to people face to face, not via text, chat, video chat, etc. Walk around your neighborhood, go to events, start getting to know the people around you at work or school, and so on.) Look up conversation pointers online if needed (I did recently!) The age or gender of the people you talk to doesn't matter much, you're just building up some self confidence and/or skills in talking to people. Whether you're already smooth at conversation or if you feel awkward talking to others, this is still a great exercise, because you will be practicing small talk and then (occasionally), delving into deeper territory with new people. Believe it or not, talking to women whom you find attractive is pretty much the same as talking to any other person. So practice, practice, practice! You're not going to meet new girls if you don't talk to them! As you gain confidence, try approaching more women your age to talk to them. Think of it as just another conversation. Stay relaxed; remember, you've done this over and over in the past days. No big deal! This will help get you started to meet women and to then begin to forge connections with some of them. Have fun! THIS! Any other advice is rubbish. As you progress (this takes time), eventually talking to attractive women in a romantic setting will feel normal to you, and the progression will just naturally continue. edit: Orrrr you could get really drunk and kiss an equally drunk girl Edited September 3, 2014 by Potz4prez 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Grevensteiner Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 edit: Orrrr you could get really drunk and kiss an equally drunk girl This. It's how I got my first kiss Link to post Share on other sites
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