Finding A Fitness Girl

[Rexxy]

I don't think its a great place to meet fitness girls at the gym because when I'm in there I'm 100% focused on the workout as much as they should be too.

 

I hate drinking but I feel as if going to clubs is the only way to meet girls, I'm very good at picking up girls in the club and then progressing to dates. But every girl I meet at the club is the typical party girl who goes out every night they get a chance to drink and go crazy.

 

I'm not against people having fun or whatever but it's something I don't enjoy doing because I'm focused on my boxing goals and strength gains.

 

I'm just wondering where would be a place to start finding a girl with similar goals as mine.

[daisydook]

Online ...

[irc333]

You know what's ironic, someone that's fit themselves, LOOKING for a "Fitness" girl, but refuses to date some hot fitness chick in their own gym, because ...as they say, they are "focused on working out."

 

I mean, you're surrounded by women with the same exact interests as you do, but you refuse to ask them out? I would imagine the amount of time you've been a member there, they'd eventually be familiar with you upon even SEEING you come in, yes?

 

I just don't get it. *Shrug*

[Mirages]

Yep,

 

I'm not against people having fun or whatever but it's something I don't enjoy doing because I'm focused on my boxing goals and strength gains.

 

It is important not to take yourself too seriously, ditto for her. I also am health nut, but am happy with a lady who exercises about daily, even half an hour missing a few. It is much better relationally than to be offering a Conconi Test on her every week to make sure you get a strong one!

 

There are some at your gym, some online candidates want to be fitness types will lose 40 lbs, look fit, and gain it back once they get a man anchored. I'd also be looking at how they looked 5 years ago. What comes fast, goes fast (or inverse if speaking of weight).

[hotpotato]

You know what's ironic, someone that's fit themselves, LOOKING for a "Fitness" girl, but refuses to date some hot fitness chick in their own gym, because ...as they say, they are "focused on working out."

 

I mean, you're surrounded by women with the same exact interests as you do, but you refuse to ask them out? I would imagine the amount of time you've been a member there, they'd eventually be familiar with you upon even SEEING you come in, yes?

 

I just don't get it. *Shrug*

 

IA with the OPs sentiment. It's hard to meet people while working out. Young people are focused on their goals and working out, not on socializing, while they are at the gym.

 

I've said before places where people exercise are not good places to meet fit people. It is a good place to meet older people though. It's easier to meet someone who is not in great shape because they are less focused on working out.

[irc333]

IA with the OPs sentiment. It's hard to meet people while working out. Young people are focused on their goals and working out, not on socializing, while they are at the gym.

 

I've said before places where people exercise are not good places to meet fit people. It is a good place to meet older people though. It's easier to meet someone who is not in great shape because they are less focused on working out.

 

Yeah, but they have to eventually, over the course of the months of being a member...find time at the water fountain or out by the juice bar (if there is one), taking a break between workouts, walking out to the parking lot, etc., know what I mean?

 

Here you've been to the gym for a year, you see all these same people, but NEVER strike up a conversation with them at all?

[hotpotato]

Yeah, but they have to eventually, over the course of the months of being a member...find time at the water fountain or out by the juice bar (if there is one), taking a break between workouts, walking out to the parking lot, etc., know what I mean?

 

Here you've been to the gym for a year, you see all these same people, but NEVER strike up a conversation with them at all?

 

Yes, that's about right, never strike up a conversation lol

When I'm working out, even on taking a water break, im still focused. I'm not interested in socializing. Maybe OP is the same way.

[HappyLove]

"I don't think its a great place to meet fitness girls at the gym because when I'm in there I'm 100% focused on the workout as much as they should be too."

 

 

Excuses, excuses, excuses....HELLO you want a fit girl you SEE her working out WHY WHY WHY would you look for another venue to find what you've already found?

 

Newsflash: A LOT of women AND men join the gym solely in hopes of meeting someone there! So unless your AFRAID to approach a woman who is sober cut out the excuses and chat one up at the gym.

[hotpotato]

"I don't think its a great place to meet fitness girls at the gym because when I'm in there I'm 100% focused on the workout as much as they should be too."

 

 

Excuses, excuses, excuses....HELLO you want a fit girl you SEE her working out WHY WHY WHY would you look for another venue to find what you've already found?

Newsflash: A LOT of women AND men join the gym solely in hopes of meeting someone there! So unless your AFRAID to approach a woman who is sober cut out the excuses and chat one up at the gym.

 

Because she has her earplugs in? lol

[irc333]

"I don't think its a great place to meet fitness girls at the gym because when I'm in there I'm 100% focused on the workout as much as they should be too."

 

 

Excuses, excuses, excuses....HELLO you want a fit girl you SEE her working out WHY WHY WHY would you look for another venue to find what you've already found?

 

Newsflash: A LOT of women AND men join the gym solely in hopes of meeting someone there! So unless your AFRAID to approach a woman who is sober cut out the excuses and chat one up at the gym.

 

I tend to concur, I mean, who are these people trying to fool? I mean, if I go kayaking with a group of kayakers, I don't say, "I'm there to kayak and not socialize" or if I'm on a hike with a group of people, "I don't talk to anyone I'm hiking with, I'm focusing on the trail with eyes straight forward!"

[HappyLove]

Because she has her earplugs in? lol

 

 

Oh yes, I forgot earplugs are typically super glued to the brain before entrance to gym facilities.

[hotpotato]

I tend to concur, I mean, who are these people trying to fool? I mean, if I go kayaking with a group of kayakers, I don't say, "I'm there to kayak and not socialize" or if I'm on a hike with a group of people, "I don't talk to anyone I'm hiking with, I'm focusing on the trail with eyes straight forward!"

 

Thats kayaking and hiking, not serious weughtlifting or boxing.

[AnnieRose]

I don't mind being approached at the gym although I can see why that's not always the best way to go about it.

 

There are plenty of ways to meet active girls! You just have to get active yourself!

 

Join groups that go on nature walks and things like that. You might be surprised who you meet!

[Rexxy]

You know what's ironic, someone that's fit themselves, LOOKING for a "Fitness" girl, but refuses to date some hot fitness chick in their own gym, because ...as they say, they are "focused on working out."

 

I mean, you're surrounded by women with the same exact interests as you do, but you refuse to ask them out? I would imagine the amount of time you've been a member there, they'd eventually be familiar with you upon even SEEING you come in, yes?

 

I just don't get it. *Shrug*

 

Well in all honesty I've never approached a girl during the day, the 100% focused is more of an excuse that I'd get too nervous to pickup a girl in the gym.

 

But once I start training im in the zone where I dont want to talk to anyone but just focus. I have a water bottle so i don't use the water fountain. But I suppose I could talk to a girl when leaving the gym or coming in before I start.

 

I've heard women don't like to be approached when they're training etc

 

So what do you think I should do, approach them?

Edited August 31, 2014 by Rexxy

[GemmaUK]

I used to regularly attend a gym and it was nigh on impossible to have a workout without having to stop on a machine because someone was standing by it trying to have a full on conversation with me. Either male gym members or the instructors (who were just chatting - not even talking about the gym or anything related to it).

 

I switched the times I attended and eventually cut my workout right down to only using the treadmill as it was impossible to turn and talk to someone on there and there was no space in front of them for a person to stand.

It wasn't even as if I am some hot stunning woman and I only ever wore a loose t-shirt and cycling type shorts. I didn't bother with 'looking good' as I wasn't there to meet anyone.

 

I cut the workout down so much that I chose to end my membership.

 

Funny thing - I've been to that gym on only one occasion since.

I had a flood due to some old pipework in my house last year and had no water at home so I called them one evening to see if I could join in some cheap way just so that I could use their showers for a few days.

They were so kind and gave me two weeks worth of free entrance for when I needed it.

I went down there early the next day for a shower and on my way into the changing room three guys who were workmen working there stopped me and started basically chatting me up. All I wanted was a shower!

My water came went back on the next day so I didn't have to go back.

 

Some gyms have social nights, mine did (not that I ever went). Maybe you could see if they do anything like that OP?

[Million.to.1]

I would suggest taking some alternative classes. You meet/talk to people more at classes. Spin for example, I always chat before and after class with others doing it.

 

.... and yoga is always full of woman. In yoga pants even.

It's really good for you regardless, and men that do yoga are sexy. Especially when they into a sport or a martial art or surf or something and yoga is just something they using to improve their range. It's so worth a try taking some classes that not only stretch you differently physically, but are more social just by nature than the gym floor.

[ufo8mycat]

I tend to concur, I mean, who are these people trying to fool? I mean, if I go kayaking with a group of kayakers, I don't say, "I'm there to kayak and not socialize" or if I'm on a hike with a group of people, "I don't talk to anyone I'm hiking with, I'm focusing on the trail with eyes straight forward!"

 

They are more social activities though. At the gym I think most people are there to get in and get it done. You also have to work at an particular intensity, rest intervals etc and this doesn't lend itself to conversation.

 

When I want a social ride I will turn up to a bunch ride. If I have specific efforts to do I will do them on my own and it is really irritating when some guy tried to strike up conversation when I only have 3 minutes recovery. So I can understand the OP's hesitation.

 

Here there is a website called fit singles or something. Or maybe a more social group? I have a friend who did cross fit and they were very social as the sessions started and finished at particular times so they often went for coffee afterwards?

[thefooloftheyear]

Yeah, but they have to eventually, over the course of the months of being a member...find time at the water fountain or out by the juice bar (if there is one), taking a break between workouts, walking out to the parking lot, etc., know what I mean?

 

Here you've been to the gym for a year, you see all these same people, but NEVER strike up a conversation with them at all?

 

It just doesnt work that way.....

 

As a lifetime member of gyms,. if you are at least moderately serious...the last thing you want to do is start trolling for women...First of all, both they and you are likely to be very focused...I know when I am at the gym and "locked in" J.Lo could be working out nude right next to me and Id hardly notice it...

 

Plus there is nothing more stupid than a bunch of weenies scoping out a girls ass while she is trying to get a workout in..Its annoying and Ive seen it happen...The management should toss these morons on their asses..

 

Back to the topic...

 

You can usually tell just by looking at someone if they are the type that takes care of their body...with women I find it easy..They have firm and developed arms and shoulders, etc....Even when walking down the street, there is a confidence about them as well...

 

No need to turn over rocks...just use your eyes...

 

TFY

[FitChick]

There used to be at least one online dating website for fit people seeking same. Google it.

[ascendotum]

There used to be at least one online dating website for fit people seeking same. Google it.

 

There was one in my country a number of years back. It was not specifically based on gym/fitness but around activities, but they tended to be fitness focused. Sounded good in concept when /i read about it so I checked it out. There was about 10 M for every 1 F...well in my city anyway. I guess it wasn't so bad if you were looking for new mates to hang out with and go say cycling or scuba diving with, but I'm sure most guy's were going there to find an attractive girl to go cycling with for instance and use that common interest to build low pressure attraction from.

I looked for it a few yrs later and I couldn't find it anymore.

 

Trying to chat to someone at the gym is a hit & miss. Yes most people going there are very focused, but not everyone is or all the time. There are also times like the drinking fountain, or at the start or end of their sessions when you can chat to them. The fitness/pilates/zumba/yoga/cross fit classes are very popular with women at my gym, and I have to admit they don't stick around after the class. Your only option is to chat with them before but it wont be 1 on 1 as they will be in a pack of other women waiting for the class. I've chatted to women in the free weight area before between sets. They haven't seemed to mind it. I got the impression they liked to have a few guys to say hi to and feel less intimated working out in that area. These women were not hotties however. The fitness babes in the 'Lorna Jane' designer gear tended to be very focused, worked hard and avoided eye contact and didn't spend too much time standing around allowing an opportunity. The PTs would find excuses to chat to them though about their form/training.