Things have really gone down the pipes...

[Disillusioned]

I went to my first speed dating event in '05, then went to about 17 of them until '09 when I lost interest.

 

Well, I went to one just for the hell of it on 8-27, not expecting to meet anyone I'd consider dating. Man oh man, I learned firsthand how things have really gone down the pipes in just 5 years.

 

Speed dating events back before 2010 used to get 16, 20, even 30 participants. Nowadays the hosts/hostesses are lucky to get 10. Also fewer white women... there tend to be a few at the meetup.com-affiliated events, but none at the company-sponsored events (8minutedating, pre-dating, hurrydate, etc), even though 5 out of 7 of the men at this latest event were white.

 

There also seem to be a lot of women in the dating scene these days who are teachers---2 out of the 6 women at the event I went to were teachers---so, I dunno, is there something about teachers that makes them undateable?

 

I didn't get picked by any of the women at the 8-27 event, but neither did I find any of them especially attractive, so no big disappointment there... the only really positive thing I can say about it is a couple of the women were really interesting and smart. I've been to events in the past where all the women sounded like ditzes.

[PegNosePete]

Your sample size is too small to draw any conclusions.

[Disillusioned]

Your sample size is too small to draw any conclusions.

 

Actually, it reinforces my observations.

[neowulf]

Confirmation bias - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

Where ever you go... there you are.

[sid3]

Actually, it reinforces my observations.

 

Sounds like you've been single for quite awhile

[Disillusioned]

Yes... like, my whole life. But I digress.

 

One thing I picked up on from talking to all the women at the event I went to is that TPTB behind OLD have apparently been trying to make it even bigger than the bar scene... as in, trying to be the only show in town. None of them had even heard of Meetup.

 

This is by no means an isolated incident. I've been to plenty of meetups where I've talked to women who seemed delighted to have found out such a thing existed! (I wish I could get that excited about it...)

 

So... when the people behind OLD try to shape a world where everyone has to go to them to get love or sex, what do we do when that scenario starts to slip?

 

We stand around, scratch our heads, and wonder what we're supposed to do now.

[irc333]

(I wish I could get that excited about it...)

 

.

 

I know I got excited about it as I live in a rather rural town outside a major metro area. After all my friends got married off and the husbands couldn't hang out with me because "The wife always wanted to do something on a Fri./Sat. night" (His chance at once a week sex? LOL I dunno)

 

Anyhow, I was googling "Things to do in the area" and low and behold Meetup showed up...and the rest was history.

 

I then deemed Meetup the best thing since sliced bread.

 

Though, when upon meeting people that I would try to talk into getting to join Meetup...I couldn't quite convincing them in joining as they felt they didn't need any organized or planned event in order to make friends.

 

Women of course avoided Meetup like the plague.

 

I recall this one woman, met her at a Meetup...she brought a +1 lady with her..didn't see her lady friend again, but always saw the "Host" friend show up a lot.

 

I noticed on Facebook she had quite a few attractive "gal pals" she hung out with a lot (outside of Meetup of course).

 

Even recent Vegas photos showed them having a blast.

 

I asked her about why she never invites them as +1's or 2's and she said, "They are just a bit put off by the idea of being hit on at those things"

 

They actually ANTICIPATE being hit on, even though it's a completely non-Singles named group just "<insert name of city> Social Club"

 

But it is telling of their paranoia when they are being rather presumptuous that men would "hit on them." lol

 

She said one of her friends are so attractive, men approach her all the time, cold turkey (Grocery store, out in public, flea market, etc).

 

Then it would stand to reason how an ORGANIZED event would make her assume men would be flocking around her like a blow-fly to a cow patty.

[Disillusioned]

Slowly, things will come around.

 

Give it five more years, and more women will decide to bite the bullet and start pursuing men.

 

I hate to tell that guy who posted in another thread, but not ALL of us men enjoy the chase; in fact, I hate it, because to me it's just another chore (and I don't want to hear any of that usual Darwinian BS, because it's a cop-out to justify horniness).

 

Unfortunately, I have mixed feelings about the idea of women getting into pursuing men... I'm going to have a bunch of obese, rude, mannish-looking women chasing after me.

 

Not something I'm looking forward to with enjoyment.

[irc333]

Yeah, I had an ex get on my case about "not chasing me" , even though I gave her the option of giving her her space....to "give me a call when she's ready (that's what I told her), just so I wouldn't come off as some kind of stalkerish ex-boyfriend.

 

She was like, "I'm not going to be chasing YOU" to get together.

 

or the woman that puporsely ignores a man's phone calls 3 or 4 times to some how use it as a "guage" to see if he's truly worthy of her.

 

To a woman: 1 phone call he's not interested and only wants to get laid, 4 phone calls he's a genunine about his interest in her

 

To a man: 1 Phone call and she doesn't return the call, he moves on.

3 or 4 phone calls, he's a stalker.

 

 

 

Slowly, things will come around.

 

Give it five more years, and more women will decide to bite the bullet and start pursuing men.

 

I hate to tell that guy who posted in another thread, but not ALL of us men enjoy the chase; in fact, I hate it, because to me it's just another chore (and I don't want to hear any of that usual Darwinian BS, because it's a cop-out to justify horniness).

 

Unfortunately, I have mixed feelings about the idea of women getting into pursuing men... I'm going to have a bunch of obese, rude, mannish-looking women chasing after me.

 

Not something I'm looking forward to with enjoyment.

[guest569]

6 women.. Come on!

[organizedchaos]

I suspect tinder has pretty much killed the speed dating scene.

[Disillusioned]

I suspect tinder has pretty much killed the speed dating scene.

 

It may appear so, but speed dating won't die completely as long as corporate dollars are propping it up.

[guest569]

I guess you can wade throuh hundreds of singles on a smartphone, but still, i have been pretty disappointed so far with the guys i met through tinder. No connection whereas at least you get an idea of that in speed dating. But I would expect to meet more people than that, increase the odds of finding someone to click with.