Photofinish Posted August 20, 2014 Share Posted August 20, 2014 I dont think ive seen a thread on this site about meetup yet. Has anyone met anyone using this site? Aside from relationships, has anyone made any good friendships on this? I really want to meet new people but I always feel awkward in groups where I dont know anyone. Sometimes I can find someone and talk but sometimes the opportunity jusy isnt there. So experiences with this site? Link to post Share on other sites
WesternWizard Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 (edited) That's not to say all Meetup groups are great. A few are, and others are terrible... it all depends on whether the organizers know what they're doing. If it's a "me too" singles/dating group that does bar meets, well then the organizer is trying to compete against a zillion other organizers to show people why his group is more fun than the rest (regardless of whether he has his s. together). OTOH if it's a group that does things like BBQ parties and costume parties for singles & dating, well then THAT group has an edge because its organizer is doing something that other groups in the region probably are not doing. Finding a fun meetup group isn't easy (especially if you're looking for something niche), but it's well worth the effort if you find one you like. A big plus is that the Meetup groups aren't all run by some iron-fisted faceless corporate mafia like some of the OLDSs are... Meetup organizers pretty much have the autonomy and flexibility to offer fun things the big OLDSs can't. Or... failing to find a group you like, you may decide to start one if you think you have what it takes. The big perk there is that it will only cost you $72 a year, and you don't need to be a member of some business mafia to do it. Edited August 21, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed non conforming parts 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I tried looking for a group I would join yesterday. I didn't really find anything appealing, and most of it was for the 30+ crowd. Damn my area! Link to post Share on other sites
WesternWizard Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I tried looking for a group I would join yesterday. I didn't really find anything appealing, and most of it was for the 30+ crowd. Damn my area! Wow... what part of the state do you live in? Many of the Meetup groups in my neck of the woods seem to think 30+ yo singles are a bunch of old farts. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I dont think ive seen a thread on this site about meetup yet. Has anyone met anyone using this site? Aside from relationships, has anyone made any good friendships on this? I really want to meet new people but I always feel awkward in groups where I dont know anyone. Sometimes I can find someone and talk but sometimes the opportunity jusy isnt there. So experiences with this site? Made some new friends through a hiking group on it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I'm a bit nervous to go along to any of these especially if they are a tight group and I go in and feel left out. Any tips on how to overcome this? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I used to go to one that played board games. MeetUp is mentioned all the time as a great resource. I also go to ones for business a lot but those are decidedly not singles groups. I did meet my husband at one, but that was not the reason either of us went. When you are the new person, in the best groups that will work in your favor because the regulars who want to expand their own circles should come & introduce themselves to you. If it's not that kind of group, learn how to "work a room". Shake hands. Introduce yourself & move quickly. That should enable you to meet everyone & find a group where you feel most comfortable. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 Don't join meetup groups "to meet someone". Meetup is not a dating site. Of course you will meet single people in the groups and maybe end up dating them, but it's primarily a site for finding groups of friends. If you're looking for a dating site then use a dating site. I find the meetup groups that have a specific hobby to be great. I joined a 20's and 30's hiking group and never looked back, I now hold 3 committee positions. We're very welcoming of new members, it's very easy to start a conversation when you have a hobby in common, and a shared interest means they're more likely to be your kind of people. I would be wary of the generic "meetup" groups that don't really have anything in common other than they don't have any other friends to go to the pub or cinema with - likely social misfits, cliquey and less likely to get on with you. But that's a bit of an assumption because I've never been to any myself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Photofinish Posted August 21, 2014 Author Share Posted August 21, 2014 Don't join meetup groups "to meet someone". Meetup is not a dating site. Of course you will meet single people in the groups and maybe end up dating them, but it's primarily a site for finding groups of friends. If you're looking for a dating site then use a dating site. I find the meetup groups that have a specific hobby to be great. I joined a 20's and 30's hiking group and never looked back, I now hold 3 committee positions. We're very welcoming of new members, it's very easy to start a conversation when you have a hobby in common, and a shared interest means they're more likely to be your kind of people. I would be wary of the generic "meetup" groups that don't really have anything in common other than they don't have any other friends to go to the pub or cinema with - likely social misfits, cliquey and less likely to get on with you. But that's a bit of an assumption because I've never been to any myself. Im not using the site to meet guys for a romantic relationship ( thought it would be cool to meet someone there). Im joining groups that share my interests. I joined a couple but havent met up with any of them yet. Im hoping to soon. There so many meetups here and many of them are repeats. I live in such a huge city that its easy to get overwhelmed (NYC). Wish me luck guys! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted August 23, 2014 Share Posted August 23, 2014 I'm a bit nervous to go along to any of these especially if they are a tight group and I go in and feel left out. Any tips on how to overcome this? Just went to a group this week. I'll admit you'll be a lil bit nervous when you walk up to your first meet up event. All my experiences have been positive. The people I've met are VERY welcoming and kind. Just remember they are just like you looking to get out there and make more friends and start new hobbies. Once you start you won't look back. It's a great way to meet people, for example I met two guys who live across the street from me for years but we would have never met and exchanged names and had caudal conversation otherwise. The group I went to was PACKED the other night. The group had 40 people plus the place was packed. I didn't recognize anyone so all I did all night was smile shake hands approached people saying "hey, I'm happylove are you from xxx meetup?" Sure enough they were and I met about 10 new people I would have never met otherwise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted August 23, 2014 Share Posted August 23, 2014 I have no experience with the Single groups but they have low participation. The regular groups are 80% singles anyways. LOL...funny how that is, you know? But you see the same faces across both non-singles geared to singles-geared Meetups. There's dating that goes on them anyway so it's moot, but as long it doesn't have that "Singles" label in their name, there's no stigma associated with it. It's like "They might as well be singles - Meetups" But never the less, people are always hookin' up, dating, getting married through these venues. What's funny is, where I live the attendence is minimal until..somehow...they pick up momentum where the more people that RSVP YES, the more people will attend. Some even come for MILES if they see 50 people having already RSVP'ed Motivation there is the INCREASED odds of "Meeting someone". ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
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