GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Hey guys, So I'm trying to think of some activity ideas that I could get involved with that would potentially have a lot of early 20s women involved that I could actually enjoy. I'm a pretty techie guy, so I'm mostly into cars, computers, electronics, ect.; stuff women rarely find interest in. What can I do or where can I go or what groups can I join that would get me around some young women? Also, please don't just say Meetup.com because I have been to many random meetups and have yet to find any single women at all in them. Apparently, only couples or involved women attend those for some odd reason. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Try a hiking group. Mine is full of single women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 There's always a lot of young attractive women in the exercise classes at the gym I go to. I have yet to work up the guts to approach any of them, but at least I get some exposure to the opposite sex there. Plus, going to the gym is something I actually enjoy doing for myself, so I don't feel like I'm on the prowl when I go there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 Try a hiking group. Mine is full of single women. That's actually an excellent idea! I do live in a mountainous area and enjoy hiking There's always a lot of young attractive women in the exercise classes at the gym I go to. I have yet to work up the guts to approach any of them, but at least I get some exposure to the opposite sex there. Plus, going to the gym is something I actually enjoy doing for myself, so I don't feel like I'm on the prowl when I go there. I do work out a couple times a week, but I don't enjoy working out in public. Good ideas so far guys, keep them coming! Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Yoga classes. Cooking classes. Book club. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Sewing or other craft classes. Many women do love to shop but short of hanging out in malls I'm not sure how that helps you. Try volunteering somewhere: health based groups attract a lot of women (working at a hospital; raising money to cure a disease). Also try political campaigns. Cultural bases charities also have a lot of women; serving on the board for a museum or theater. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 Yoga classes. Cooking classes. Book club. Not my kind of things, but thanks Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Not my kind of things, but thanks Isn't that the point? The things you like and prefer you've found are things not a lot of young women frequent...so don't you think it means you're gonna probably need to go to stuff that are THEIR kind of thing and not yours? You asked for stuff women enjoy...many of these things will probably not be things you'd enjoy so you're gonna have to get out of your comfort zone if you're that serious about meeting young women. Edited August 18, 2014 by MissBee 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 Isn't that the point? The things you like and prefer you've found are things not a lot of young women frequent...so don't you think it means you're gonna probably need to go to stuff that are THEIR kind of thing and not yours? You asked for stuff women enjoy...many of these things will probably not be things you'd enjoy so you're gonna have to get out of your comfort zone if you're that serious about meeting young women. Actually, this is what I asked... "So I'm trying to think of some activity ideas that I could get involved with that would potentially have a lot of early 20s women involved that I could actually enjoy." I really appreciate your suggestions, but frankly I couldn't tolerate yoga, cooking, or book clubs, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Single groups would be great, but I can't for the life of me find any of those around here; unless your 50+ that is, lol. I've never danced at all before, maybe a class like that would be a good idea; since it would be a nice skill to have I guess Edited August 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Quote deleted. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Cycling. Running. Try googling Hash House Harriers and see if there is a club in your neck of the woods. Link to post Share on other sites
Zeurich Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I do swimming, cycling, diving, skiing, Roller skating, hiking, dancing,also cooking and baking, but I am a tomboy too, I do motorcycle racing, so there is a possibility that you can find a tomboy girl to have fun with you with cars motorcycles and so.... those I have started when I was 16 so I am sure you think of something, Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) I'm not a sports guy, but it's funny though... The area I live now, everyone including most women seem to be hellbent on sports, but I just don't understand the obsession with them. Where I'm from, it was really rare for a woman to be interested in sports, but they just won't shut up about them here, lol. Go figure I guess These are all great suggestions! Anything else we're missing? Edited August 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge Link to post Share on other sites
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Depends on which type of girl you're looking for. This question is really general. Once you know the type, it becomes easier to find it. Young girls in their 20's are generally crowd followers and go where the group goes and end up at bars, clubs, lounges. Opportunity for meeting women is literally all around, depending where you live. You don't necessarily have to join a group to meet someone, but if you want a group thing... - Photography class - Running Group - Hiking groups (my mountain close to me has a Saturday evening singles hike) - Painting class - Tennis round robin weekend tourneys Why do you want a group event? This is easy to get friend zoned and for potential awkwardness... Girls take classes to learn about their selves or fun hobbies... Not usually to find a guy. Guys came up with that. Note how you said most meet ups are taken women and couples.... There's a reason for that. Honestly, do active and creative things. Approach women and flirt. Get the number, have a fun date. (example... Take pictures outside... Cute girl walks by... "can I take your picture? The way the sun is hitting your face... It's perfect") Then actually get a great shot and send it to her on e-mail... BAM! That's her new facebook profile pic, and your her new interest. I'm in my twenties too and approaching women you don't know, is the best because if you get rejected, you don't have to see them again or next week at a class. Plus you could get a rep in the group for being 'that guy'. Or if you approach in gyms and yoga studios... Your rep will get murdered by being someone who always approaches. Lame. You never know how a girl will react and if they will gossip. Link to post Share on other sites
Zeurich Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I'm not a sports guy, but it's funny though... The area I live now, everyone including most women seem to be hellbent on sports, but I just don't understand the obsession with them. Where I'm from, it was really rare for a woman to be interested in sports, but they just won't shut up about them here, lol. Go figure I guess Where are you from? Link to post Share on other sites
isisisweeping Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 When I was in my early twenties I was into fitness- did some running groups and hiking groups- and volunteering. I did not go to bars or dance clubs but a lot of my friends did. Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Actually, this is what I asked... "So I'm trying to think of some activity ideas that I could get involved with that would potentially have a lot of early 20s women involved that I could actually enjoy." I really appreciate your suggestions, but frankly I couldn't tolerate yoga, cooking, or book clubs, lol. Yes, if you truly aren't interested in and/or dislike those particular activities, then don't do them. It would be a mistake to force yourself to partake in such things simply because single women may be there. Other people can sense whether you're there just to be on the prowl versus being there because you have a genuine and serious interest in the activity. Guys in the former group may come across as creepy to women. I think a lot of people in their early and mid 20s meet potential partners at parties, thru friends-of-friends, college (if still in it) and so on. Many of them are focused on finishing school (if not done already), getting their career off the ground and otherwise just having fun with their friends. A lot of these organized social activities groups tend to attract people who are a little older...late 20s and up. Same with meetups. Even if your current interests seem male-focused (such as cars and computers), I suggest getting more social with those things anyway. You may not meet a woman directly within those interests, but you're still giving people an opportunity to notice you...hopefully the REAL you. Assuming you're a likable person, one or more of the guys might include you in his own circle of friends and acquaintances. Which may include one or more single women. In general, I think you just need to get more social where-ever you go. Bars, hiking, etc. You need to get to a point where you're comfortable striking up a conversation with men and women around your age. If your social circle is very small then look into expanding it. If a friend invites you to a party, then go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 18, 2014 Author Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Great info guys! Yeah, I'm a 29yo guy that's never had a GF, so I guess my biggest issue is is lack of experience when trying to approach women. I have got a lot better at it this last year though, but it is still tough to force myself into social groups sometimes. I don't have a lot of friends and most of my friends I do have are reclusive married people. I never get invited to go to parties or anything like that so anytime I try to put myself in a social situation, it's always just me running solo whether it's some event or even just a bar. It's just that every time I try to go do something social, it feels as if I have to always act different than my boring self or "put on a show" per say. Half the time I just have to ask myself why I'm even do as it just seems like a lot of work and nothing ever comes of it. My whole drive to even put myself out there is the chance I may find a compatible single woman, but I have extremely poor luck finding decent single women anywhere. I guess I don't "connect" with people very well either; which adds an additional challenge. I'm hoping that if I can do something that can at least be somewhat fun to me and have the possibility of there actually being single women around that things will change. I think some of these suggestions will really help too Thanks Edited August 18, 2014 by GTO06 Link to post Share on other sites
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 You can't tolerate cooking? Really? I'm not saying you should be a master chef, but it's a pretty important life skill (and that first breakfast in bed goes a long way). Not being able to fend for yourself in the kitchen is a different kind of inexperience that may work against you. Volunteering is a good idea, as are social sports like running and hiking clubs. Meetup has everything from generic "20s-30s singles" clubs to oddball groups (singles who like Jewish food but aren't necessarily Jewish!). Your local indie paper should have a solid directory of special events that attract people your age. Don't try to connect, just be, but have a good time while doing it. If it helps, try to interact with people the way you'd want others to interact with you. Listen attentively, ask questions, and be upbeat. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Sports...yep. Volleyball is #1, rec league Softball is #2. Girls grew up playing both, and they keep playing them, with alcohol, after they finish school. Meaning they are already loosened up and open to socializing. Somebody should have mentioned by now...salsa classes. Often bars will host salsa lessons for an hour. Afterwards the girls all go grab a drink and you can join them. And if you're not willing to put yourself out there where you'll have ample opportunity to meet women, well you're just making the ratio better for the rest of us. Thanks! Edited August 18, 2014 by PogoStick Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTO06 Posted August 19, 2014 Author Share Posted August 19, 2014 Hmm, maybe you guys are right. I've opened my mind up a LOT this year, but maybe I still have a little closed mindedness left in me to get rid of. I've never done any type of cooking really, unless throwing things in the microwave count, lol. I've always just assumed the woman would do the cooking as they seem to like it. It's not like I think it's hard or anything, I just don't spend much time with food in general. I would love to scope out a mall, but all the malls around me have been shut down. Actually, I haven't seen an active mall in years come to think of it. It may be seen as a little odd to prowl around a regular store like Walmart or something looking for women I would think, lol. About the sports thing, I know sports are big for young women for some reason or another. In fact, 90% of the bars around here are sports bars, which kind of annoys me, lol. I'm just not a sports guy, at all. Sure, I don't mind playing a game of baseball or something every once in a while, but I just don't see how people are so into sports, especially football. In fact, I've never played football in my life because it just has no appeal to me whatsoever. The dancing lessons sounds like a good idea maybe, since I've never danced a step in my life, lol. The volunteering and hiking groups sound pretty appealing to me too. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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