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We have a pretty fun Meetup group. It's basically a social club that does varied activities like kayaking, volleyball, kickball, softball...to a night out at a bar/grill dancing to a local band.

 

Sometimes we get these newbies and of course at all Meetups, pictures are inevitably to be taken. Though, one cannot afford to be camera shy at these events...so basically we disclaimed this.

 

Though, I've had people approach me and say, "Don't post that pic/video", I would say, "Well, I will for this one time, but I cannot guarantee this at future events"

 

Typically, we even highly encourage photos of the newbies purposely as we have tons of photos of the regulars already.

 

That being said, typically some of these fuddy duds try to go around telling the photographer to not post pics and eventually they wind up "Darwinned" out of the group anyhow....basiclaly, they wouldn't get along with our types anyhow.

 

It's telling of their character and like I said, probably would not mold well into our group.

 

I was wondering if anyone here has had the same experience about these people not wanting their stuff uploaded? And respond, "Sorry, can't guarantee that!"

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I was wondering if anyone here has had the same experience about these people not wanting their stuff uploaded? And respond, "Sorry, can't guarantee that!"

 

Respond with "Why, are the police looking for you?" :)

 

 

I have met some people who are camera shy (despite looking great, too) but if it's a photo at some sort of group meeting in public then sometimes that's just tough luck.

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I really don't want any photos I haven't approved posted on me and that goes back a long ways. I avoid places where that's likely to happen. If I have holiday dinner with a friend I know will post the table photo, I ask to take the photo so I'm not in it. I think it's a huge invasion of privacy and nonprofessional photos usually make you look your worst, too.

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I really don't want any photos I haven't approved posted on me and that goes back a long ways. I avoid places where that's likely to happen. If I have holiday dinner with a friend I know will post the table photo, I ask to take the photo so I'm not in it. I think it's a huge invasion of privacy and nonprofessional photos usually make you look your worst, too.

 

Please tell me how a table photo taken at a holiday party a "invasion privacy"? You might as well stay indoors, welcome to the modern world. *shrug* Nothing you can do to stop it except hide out all night.

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Reminds me of your thread on the woman you're seeing and you feeling it was the norm to post tons of date pics of her...

 

To each his own, but for me, I'm not a fan of people taking my pictures when I'm out and without me being able to vet it especially if they decide to upload it to a public space. Especially if the event includes drinking and where the photographer may catch you in a position that while in reality isn't compromising may look that way in pics.

 

People have a right to their privacy and a right to refuse pictures of them being taken or disseminated. If the groups motto is sorry we're gonna take your pics even if you don't want to I'd be pretty annoyed. What's so hard about only taking pics of people who don't mind?

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Easy peasy, they can just require approval before being tagged if it's a facebook pic. I have that on my fb, I have to approve anything I'm tagged in and anything posted on my wall.

 

I'm not familiar with the meetup thing. Is there a forum where you post the pics or are you all connected on fb or...?

 

I personally hate pics of myself and very rarely feel that I look decent in them. Which is why I have that setting on fb. ;)

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With Google's photo search thing you can take that photo and then find photos I've posted on my anonymous blog that I only want invited friends to go to. There are a number of people I don't want knowing my business, not the least of them bad old friends, exes, internet stalkers, and employers. I have a presence on the internet, but not together with my real name.

 

I'll give you an example that didn't exactly affect me but affected a friend of mine in a bad way. We were both going to a band gig, first gig in a lot of years, in a club, and press was there. He and I were acquaintances going way back and nothing more. We ran into each other outside and walked in together and journalists photographed us as we entered. I thought it was fun at the time. But his wife got a load of it online and the photo made it look like we were together and the guy never got to speak to me again nor is he apparently allowed to come out much anymore and disappeared from the board the event was organized on.

 

There's people I don't want knowing at all what I'm doing or how to start finding me and if it shows up on Facebook, then they're going to have a way to bug someone to find out how to contact me.

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I'm one of those "fuddy duds". I don't go to social gatherings and activity gatherings to show myself off on the internet. That would seriously irritate me and I wouldn't return to a meetup group where some amateur photographer refuses to respect those boundaries.

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I go to meetups to meet up.

 

If I wanted people to see me hamming for the camera, I'd take a bunch of selfies and put them on FB.

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Please tell me how a table photo taken at a holiday party a "invasion privacy"? You might as well stay indoors, welcome to the modern world. *shrug* Nothing you can do to stop it except hide out all night.

 

It might not be an invasion of privacy for you, but it is for others. And your refusal to respect another person's feelings and boundaries is insulting to that person.

 

Do you like it when someone does something to you that you don't like, and when you tell that person you don't like it, they continue to do it? Would you continue a friendship with that person? I sure as heck wouldn't.

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Also, consider this: if you're at some boozefest and you're 3/4 crocked, dancing on a table with a lampshade on your head, do you want someone taking a pic of you in that condition and putting it online?

 

I didn't think so.

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Thats rude and inconsiderate to not respect their wishes by not posting photographs Of them on the Internet when they have asked you not to. Could be many reasons aside from "camera shyness".

 

Seriously, why would you go ahead and post them when they said no?

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I didn't post it.... at least not this time around but clarified that I cannot guarantee such things in the future as there are other shutter bugs in the group.

 

Tis the nature of our Mewtup and that will not change

 

Thats rude and inconsiderate to not respect their wishes by not posting photographs Of them on the Internet when they have asked you not to. Could be many reasons aside from "camera shyness".

 

Seriously, why would you go ahead and post them when they said no?

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I didn't post it.... at least not this time around but clarified that I cannot guarantee such things in the future as there are other shutter bugs in the group.

 

Tis the nature of our Mewtup and that will not change

 

Then soon you will be posting about the new girls who came to the meet up. Seemed to have a good time. You took so many pictures even though they said not to. It's the nature of meet up that you be inconsiderate of people's requests.

 

You will wonder why these picky women chose not to come back because you're single after all.

 

Do you not see a pattern? People try to give you advice because we can all see where you're headed. People are not leading you astray here but you have formed your opinion already and just want to tell the world how it should be.

 

Snore. No effort to prove anything in yourself. Just complaints about why women suck.

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I feel sorry for those kind of people, it's like why even bother showing up if your not gonna at least try and get out going and instead just crawl under your rock like a crab. But hey that's their loss not ours.

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Our group has a note at the bottom of the attendance sheet:

 

"Our events are public events and we may publish photos taken during this event. If you don’t want your photo to be used for this purpose then please let the leader know today. If you’re in a photo on our website and not happy with it, just let us know and we’ll remove it as soon as possible."

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I feel sorry for those kind of people, it's like why even bother showing up if your not gonna at least try and get out going and instead just crawl under your rock like a crab. But hey that's their loss not ours.

 

The problem is certain people document EVERYTHING on Facebook.

 

I have my Facebook set so I have to accept tags with my name for them to appear in my news feed. I usually don't.

 

Social media is a reflection on you. I don't want pointless pictures of me on my Facebook. I can very much understand the motivation of some people to ask about not being photographed.

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Yeah this is also representative of the person themselves. Its very telling.

 

We had this new woman that kept pestering the photographer on not taking photos of certain angles that was what she thought was non flattering. Of course the photographer said " Don't worry you look fine!

 

Needless to say she never did comeback. .. she seemed a little "off" anyway.

 

 

I feel sorry for those kind of people, it's like why even bother showing up if your not gonna at least try and get out going and instead just crawl under your rock like a crab. But hey that's their loss not ours.
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This has nothing to do with why Im still single. In fact thois a perfect weeding out process of I probably would not be compatible with any way. Ill just focus on those that appreciate the camera.

 

Its a public event. Not a big deal

 

Plus there ism a consensus among our members that also coincides with my view on this

 

 

Then soon you will be posting about the new girls who came to the meet up. Seemed to have a good time. You took so many pictures even though they said not to. It's the nature of meet up that you be inconsiderate of people's requests.

 

You will wonder why these picky women chose not to come back because you're single after all.

 

Do you not see a pattern? People try to give you advice because we can all see where you're headed. People are not leading you astray here but you have formed your opinion already and just want to tell the world how it should be.

 

Snore. No effort to prove anything in yourself. Just complaints about why women suck.

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Our group has a note at the bottom of the attendance sheet:

 

"Our events are public events and we may publish photos taken during this event. If you don’t want your photo to be used for this purpose then please let the leader know today. If you’re in a photo on our website and not happy with it, just let us know and we’ll remove it as soon as possible."

 

I think that's the decent way to go about it.

 

My university also does this. At the beginning of the year when you register for a new semester somewhere in the process there is a page that makes a disclaimer about photography at different events and your picture possibly being used in publications, on the website, on a poster and various things and you have the option of giving them the okay to do it or to opt out completely or for them to ask you for your permission first.

 

It is only right IMO instead of doing stuff like that without people's consent.

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I feel sorry for those kind of people, it's like why even bother showing up if your not gonna at least try and get out going and instead just crawl under your rock like a crab. But hey that's their loss not ours.

 

You don't need to feel sorry for me. I led a very exciting life and my hall is lined with professional copyrighted photos of me and my friends and acquaintances. No one wants some piece of s**t photo of them with bad lighting and not camera ready floating around unless they are 18 or trying to prove they have friends by posting photos of near-strangers on the internet.

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This has nothing to do with why Im still single. In fact thois a perfect weeding out process of I probably would not be compatible with any way. Ill just focus on those that appreciate the camera.

 

That contradicts all that you preach on here about women being too picky when they should forget about standards and chemistry and "settle" for someone incompatible and "give them a chance". Seriously, you think being camera shy (or Internet shy) is a deal breaker.

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That contradicts all that you preach on here about women being too picky when they should forget about standards and chemistry and "settle" for someone incompatible and "give them a chance". Seriously, you think being camera shy (or Internet shy) is a deal breaker.

 

I'm saying, them being camera shy is rather representative of a personality type that wouldn't get along withour group.

 

They typically wind up Darwined out of the Meetups as a whole, because they wouldn't get along with not only me, but the ENTIRE group/Meetup.

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I'm saying, them being camera shy is rather representative of a personality type that wouldn't get along withour group.

 

They typically wind up Darwined out of the Meetups as a whole, because they wouldn't get along with not only me, but the ENTIRE group/Meetup.

 

I'm not sure why you keep using the term 'Darwinned'. When I see it used, it's usually a derogatory term, as in someone did something stupid to knock themselves out of the pool.

 

Unless you're saying Darwin didn't like cameras?

 

In any case, I think your attitude toward women, and painting them all with a broad brush, is limiting any possibility of you dating. Ever.

 

Do you ever have anything happy to report?

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IRC, did it ever occur to you, for instance, that someone, male or female, could have a nosy meddling mother who would be always trying to find out what they're doing or an abusive stepfather trying to get something on them? A meddling mother on Facebook could see a photo and friend all her daughter's friends and interfere with her business. And there are just infinite number of reasons someone doesn't want themselves plastered all over the internet. The number one reason is potential employers. No one wants them seeing their business. It's common sense. It's not a flaw. People who don't mind putting themselves all over are irresponsible and immature.

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