Eddy Street Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I've had my profile up for one week. On day 1 I received 2 photo likes from girls I found attractive. I quickly replied with messages which were ignored. Then I sent out many more messages to many more members and got zero replies. Since then my profile has gotten ZERO attention and even the women I e-mail don't bother looking at my profile. I'm starting to worry. If I can't get any on an OLD site, how will I fare IRL? Which leads to the natural question, how do I accept the fact that I will die alone? And be forever alone while getting there? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Is it normal for guys to get no attention on OLD sites? Perfectly normal. I have never had a woman send me an unsolicited message or reply to a message I sent. Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I've had my profile up for one week. On day 1 I received 2 photo likes from girls I found attractive. I quickly replied with messages which were ignored. Then I sent out many more messages to many more members and got zero replies. Since then my profile has gotten ZERO attention and even the women I e-mail don't bother looking at my profile. I'm starting to worry. If I can't get any on an OLD site, how will I fare IRL? Which leads to the natural question, how do I accept the fact that I will die alone? And be forever alone while getting there? It's online dating man. Stop wasting your time and go approach women in real life as hard as you might think it is. You will do 400x better in real life than you ever will online. Real world approaches take confidence, while online dating takes none. Did online dating for 4 years without success, then switched over to real life dating and got possibly the best results of my life. Join a club on meetup, take a class, or flirt with cashiers. Anything is better than online. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Yes it's very common. I'm starting to worry. If I can't get any on an OLD site, how will I fare IRL? By recognising that OLD doesn't work for lots of people and that IRL is totally different because you don't have to distil your personality into a handful of photos and a few paragraphs of clichés. Which leads to the natural question, how do I accept the fact that I will die alone? And be forever alone while getting there? It shouldn't lead there naturally... unless you've already given up. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 lol dude it's completely normal. Welcome to OLD. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Yep, that's why OLD has flopped. Whoever invented it 20+ years ago assumed (wrongly) that women would allofasudden break eons of tradition and start initiating contact with men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rewl Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Don't be too nice online. Just send them messages finding fault with their pic or profile description to girls you want to speak to. Chances are, at least a few of them will reply asking why you said such things, they will be curious and/or offended. Then Bingo! You'll have a conversation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Don't be too nice online. Just send them messages finding fault with their pic or profile description to girls you want to speak to. Chances are, at least a few of them will reply asking why you said such things, they will be curious and/or offended. Then Bingo! You'll have a conversation. Yes your right, but it won't lead anywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
rewl Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Yes your right, but it won't lead anywhere. It lead me to a 4 hour conversation with one chick. She even gave me her number, I still have it. She seemed like a genuinely nice beautiful girl and I didn't want to pretend I was looking for gf so I didn't meet up with her. The problem is, I initially only done it to troll girls online since I had zero interest in dating anybody online, I only do it for trolling purposes but I realized very quickly that my antics were convo-starters and began flirting with these chicks. Turns out it's a cool way of meeting people and getting their interest if used properly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 It lead me to a 4 hour conversation with one chick. She even gave me her number, I still have it. She seemed like a genuinely nice beautiful girl and I didn't want to pretend I was looking for gf so I didn't meet up with her. The problem is, I initially only done it to troll girls online since I had zero interest in dating anybody online, I only do it for trolling purposes but I realized very quickly that my antics were convo-starters and began flirting with these chicks. Turns out it's a cool way of meeting people and getting their interest if used properly. Once I came across a profile of a pretty girl with just 1 pic and a very brief paragraph. I thought it was a fake profile made to see how many message it'll get. So I said "this is a fake profile, right?" and she responded, "no, why do you ask that?" I told this and that, she ended up putting up more pics and we had like 5 or 6 long messages. She gave her number, but she didn't actually wanna meet, she preferred the pen pal thing. lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rewl Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Once I came across a profile of a pretty girl with just 1 pic and a very brief paragraph. I thought it was a fake profile made to see how many message it'll get. So I said "this is a fake profile, right?" and she responded, "no, why do you ask that?" I told this and that, she ended up putting up more pics and we had like 5 or 6 long messages. She gave her number, but she didn't actually wanna meet, she preferred the pen pal thing. lol Lol that's pretty funny. Seems like we're the only ones who know how to work this thing, all the other guys are amateurs haha 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scales Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Not going to defend OLD here, but really it isn't so bad. Do you know how many women find men on OLD? lots. By that equation men must also find the same amount of women. It takes 2. Lot's of women here at LS have found boyfriends through OLD. The women are out there reading your messages. You just need to know how to write in order to succeed. If you aren't succeeding on OLD as a man, that means some other guy did. I personally had some great relationships come out of OLD back in the day. There are actual people on there cluttered among the deranged mess. OLD is a long game, but it allows you to find relationships that can be meaningful through it. One night stands are better accomplished through tinder or clubbing. Honestly though OLD isn't that bad if you can succeed at it. The learning curve is steep. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 (edited) Here's how you get attention: 1). Make sure you're the best version of yourself that you can possible be. Be able to display an abundance of qualities that women like (no easy task, admittedly -- hopefully you've been working on this your whole life up to this point.) 2). Make sure you've got the best, most appealing profile of any guy on the site (once again, not an easy task) 3). When girls are likely at home on the computer (8-11pm on weeknights) use a "boost" on OKCupid or Match. It'll put you in the top of everyone's search right at the peak traffic hours. You'll have so many girls liking/messaging you won't know what to do with them. If you don't, you didn't do step 1 and/or 2 right. Edited July 23, 2014 by normal person 1 Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I have 2 dates this weeks . Took me three weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I've had my profile up for one week. On day 1 I received 2 photo likes from girls I found attractive. I quickly replied with messages which were ignored. Then I sent out many more messages to many more members and got zero replies. Since then my profile has gotten ZERO attention and even the women I e-mail don't bother looking at my profile. I'm starting to worry. If I can't get any on an OLD site, how will I fare IRL? Which leads to the natural question, how do I accept the fact that I will die alone? And be forever alone while getting there? Are these serious questions? Link to post Share on other sites
D.Mc. Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Women on OLD are getting ignored as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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