how to create the perfect online dating photo?

[Eddy Street]

I'm talking about the primary photo, which if I'm not mistaken, should be of me and me only, and me not doing anything in particular to distract attention away form my face. Basically, a head-shot. Does that sound right?

 

My questions are:

 

1. Is it better to smile or not to smile? Also, what should the smile be like? Really pronounced or subtle?

 

2. Is a head-on shot better or a side-view better?

 

3. How should hair be worn, if you're a long-haired male?

 

4. Is it better to be standing or sitting?

 

5. Should obvious body language be avoided or is it encouraged? (ex. pride, happiness, etc..)

[normal person]

I'm talking about the primary photo, which if I'm not mistaken, should be of me and me only, and me not doing anything in particular to distract attention away form my face. Basically, a head-shot. Does that sound right?

 

My questions are:

 

1. Is it better to smile or not to smile? Also, what should the smile be like? Really pronounced or subtle?

 

2. Is a head-on shot better or a side-view better?

 

3. How should hair be worn, if you're a long-haired male?

 

4. Is it better to be standing or sitting?

 

5. Should obvious body language be avoided or is it encouraged? (ex. pride, happiness, etc..)

 

You're obsessing about this a bit much. All that stuff will depend on the individual. The picture in your avatar (assuming that's you) is perfect.

 

Have a few more of you doing something fun.

[Eddy Street]

You're obsessing about this a bit much. All that stuff will depend on the individual. The picture in your avatar (assuming that's you) is perfect.

 

Have a few more of you doing something fun.

 

Thanks, I know my picture is good but maybe it's not good enough for attracting the opposite sex in a romantic sort of way. It's probably good in the way a picture of a puppy is good.

 

I just browsed through my e-mail history and view history. Turns out, just 1 out of 10 women I e-mail actually look at my profile. That is, if 10 read my message only one of them will actually look at my profile. The rest, they probably just hit the x at the top which deletes my profile form their view/search. So this particular picture must be the repulsion factor here. They must think I'm like a "fry" from futurama or something.

 

To test my theory, I will upload a picture of some other dude, hopefully match won't punish me for that.

 

Or maybe it's the substance of my e-mails that does the repelling. I don't know. Next time I want to e-mail someone I will probably post my rough-draft, first draft, second draft and final draft here.

Edited July 22, 2014 by Eddy Street

[BlueIris]

Maybe some women can’t picture taking you to a business function in their field. I deleted lots of profiles on photo alone because, just on looks and presentation, he would not fit into my life and activities. And he probably wouldn’t want to, right? No harm, no foul. I dated an artist for a while- 6+ months- who had longer hair, didn’t own a dark suit, white shirts, ties and J&Ms or Allen Edmonds. He hated going to “my” stuff because of how people dressed and looked, and felt bad and then got critical and then I started going to them alone and then he thought I was rejecting him and… you get the picture. Not good.

 

Be yourself. Look like yourself. Find the right fit for you as you are.

[d0nnivain]

the hair should be neat & preferably combed unless your normal style is otherwise

 

 

Your face shape & whether you are photogenic will dictate whether your perfect picture is full face or profile head shot.

 

 

Some type of smile, at least happy non-mean expression is best. My DH doesn't smile in picture bet even without the pearly whites he looks better in the photos where he's not glaring at the camera ala why the F are you pointing that GD thing at me?

 

 

Dress should be your normal style but neat & clean. You don't have to be someone you're not but you should refrain from looking like a sloppy unmade bed.

[sillyanswer]

I'm talking about the primary photo, which if I'm not mistaken, should be of me and me only, and me not doing anything in particular to distract attention away form my face. Basically, a head-shot. Does that sound right?

 

My questions are:

 

1. Is it better to smile or not to smile? Also, what should the smile be like? Really pronounced or subtle?

 

Depends which makes you look best. Some people don't smile well, and some other people look naturally grumpy without a smile.

 

 

2. Is a head-on shot better or a side-view better?

 

For your main pic, a head-on shot.

 

3. How should hair be worn, if you're a long-haired male?

 

Either however you normally wear it, so that you're presenting the 'real' you, or however looks best. Your call. Include photos of it the other way, too.

 

4. Is it better to be standing or sitting?

 

For the main photo, for a man, you probably only want it to show from the shoulders upwards so it doesn't really matter. (If your first pic is a full-length pic then it'll be too small to tell what your face actually looks like.)

 

5. Should obvious body language be avoided or is it encouraged? (ex. pride, happiness, etc..)

 

Look happy. Try "Surprise" for one of your later photos and caption it "I'm surprised anyone looks this far".