Disillusioned Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 The strangest thing happened to me, sometime between age 41 and 46, my desperation faded. Not because of rejection, or being a fat bald midget with a carrot nose etc etc (I'm none of those things), but... I don't know, the desire to find love is just gone. FYI sex was never part of the picture, I never wanted that anyways. It's the damndest thing. When I went on my last date 2.5 years ago, I couldn't wait for it to be over. The whole time I was like, "man, I really got myself into a mess this time". There has been a lot of talk about Dr. Helen Smith's book, Men On Strike... I bought a copy and read it a few months ago, and found everything in it to be true for me (I have a steady job, own a home, no debts, rarely get sick, etc etc) even though I never had the sex monkey on my back. But being "on strike" implies that you eventually want things to get better... in my case, I guess I don't really care if things get better or not re the chance of meeting the right woman. Honestly I'm too preoccupied with real things like transitioning into a new job where I'll be my own boss, writing my books in my spare time... anything but socializing with people I have little in common with. Often we are told "it happens when you least expect it"... well in my case, it doesn't matter if I expect it or not, I don't really want it anymore because at this point in my life it would be a huge inconvenience and it's going to have to find someone else to surprise. The scary thing in my case is... a lot of the changes in the way I feel about getting into a relationship have been happening without any conscious effort on my part. Link to post Share on other sites
TalesoftheWireMonkey Posted April 24, 2014 Share Posted April 24, 2014 I don't think you have lost anything. You have gained wisdom, insight and clarity. You are seeing through so much of the social programming and pressure that says we must mate and coming to the realization that true happiness and contentment is only found within yourself. Stay strong my brother, stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 24, 2014 Share Posted April 24, 2014 Your testosterone levels have dropped. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted April 24, 2014 Author Share Posted April 24, 2014 Your testosterone levels have dropped. Actually, they've stayed about the same... I don't need to shave my beard any less often. In my case, it's mostly been a matter of waking up one day and deciding that trying to play a rigged game is no fun. Even if it's winnable, I don't really care for the prizes offered. Link to post Share on other sites
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