irc333 Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 (edited) I have been talking to quite a few women lately ,and they were talking about how they've read the aforementioned book. Basically, it takes the focus of traditional dating, and focuses more on getting to know the person on a friendship basis. I've been reading the reviews and it's a rather popular book. It questions one's true motivations behind their motive to date which usually is a selfish one. The recent single lady I had been talking to says people rush into things too quickly, and she prefers to get to know someone over time. Sometimes it may not involved getting TOO emotionally invested too quickly. She mentioned how people don't really show their true colors when dating (putting their best foot forward), but this method apparently keeps things real. Anyone read or heard of this book? Edited April 22, 2014 by irc333 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted April 24, 2014 Share Posted April 24, 2014 I haven't heard of the book even, but I'm increasingly coming to the same conclusion for the following reasons: People can be very nice in a couple of dates but only show their true natures if you see them over a period of time and in different situations. I've known a couple of women who've ended up in dangerous relationships where the guy started out utterly charming and considerate. People can lie and until you've seen them in person with their friends or family you cannot be certain they are not telling you a pack of lies about their circumstances. Sometimes it takes time to really feel a bond with someone; it doesn't always happen instantly. However, if you find them repulsive from the start, it's not going to happen! People have expectations of 'dating' and some feel it hasn't worked if it doesn't turn sexual within a couple of dates. Getting to know someone as a friend is much more relaxing and natural and neither feels obliged to 'make a move' quickly in case they are 'friendzoned'. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted April 24, 2014 Author Share Posted April 24, 2014 People have expectations of 'dating' and some feel it hasn't worked if it doesn't turn sexual within a couple of dates. Getting to know someone as a friend is much more relaxing and natural and neither feels obliged to 'make a move' quickly in case they are 'friendzoned'. Very good points, esp. with the "sex not happening on X amount of dates". Usually the demise of relationships are inevitable in that case. Because people just jump in Willie Nillie. Because "There was great chemistry or spark" between us. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted April 24, 2014 Share Posted April 24, 2014 Very good points, esp. with the "sex not happening on X amount of dates". Usually the demise of relationships are inevitable in that case. Because people just jump in Willie Nillie. Because "There was great chemistry or spark" between us. Well if there is, then why not? Link to post Share on other sites
Do_The_Herp Posted April 24, 2014 Share Posted April 24, 2014 Well if there is, then why not? No reason, if it doesn't lead to false expectations of more than it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted April 24, 2014 Author Share Posted April 24, 2014 No reason, if it doesn't lead to false expectations of more than it is. Right...it really just gives those a false sense of security. It's an impulses that passes. Link to post Share on other sites
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