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So I am a loner but good looking and intelligent. Ive also been told i have a nice body. I am crazy about and obsessed with women and sex. I'm just scared to death of dating and the embarrassment that can result.

 

I also have psychiatric problems and bipolar and financial problems so it is likely that the only women I could get with would not be looking for commitment.

 

Anyhow I'm new here and hoping will learn what will help me have skills for confidence and good behavior when interacting with members of the opposite sex.

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Well it isnt my penis size I'm hung and have nice body. Ive posted multiple nude photos online and not ashamed of my body.

 

The embarrassment comes from not knowing what to do, messing up a kiss, timidity aroumd women, suttering, shaking, clumsiness, stammering etc

 

I can't summon the courage to ask a girl out. Not one that I'm attracted to anyway.

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Smilecharmer

So you posted online nudie pics and can brag about your penis size but you are timid? You ask others to rate you but can't ask a girl out? Logically I can't determine if you are being facetious or not.

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Can I post nude pics of myself here?

 

Interacting with women or making out with them are two totally different departments than posing nude online

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Can I post nude pics of myself here?

 

Posting pics and interacting with women or making out with them are two totally different departments than posing nude online

 

 

What for? :confused:

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Just a means of flirting with women and maybe get a phone number or feedback about whether or not I could be a webcam model

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To me it sounds like you're just confused. Ok so you're confident with your body and physical attributes, but you're not that comfortable with being intimate through a physical matter. I get that...

Just as for the nudes, this isn't the type of site for that. I recommend rate my pic or something.

Going back to the main point here, even models lack confidence in certain areas. If you're here to self improve I'm sure many will jump in and lend a hand.

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Do_The_Herp

In a similar boat as you, OP. I think I may be a bit less of a braggart about it, but I am a handsome dude who happens to be a bum at the moment, and I've always mostly been a home body even throughout high school, so I've barely been around women. I've had success in spite of that.

 

Just get a better job, work on getting a car and phone or whatever it is that you're missing, and then save money for your own place. You don't need your own place necessarily to meet a girl, but, you need to be able to communicate with her and travel to meet and get her.

 

VERY important, work on your mental illness. Get professional help if you haven't already. That is a major negative that no one will really want to deal with, male or female.

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No offense, but you kind of come across as a troll. Thinking you can post penis shots on a dating advice message board, as if this looks like a hook up site.. Not to mention the way you talk about yourself makes you sound overly conceited when you're really just an average guy.

 

Maybe you should try to just meet your life long sex partner through web cam modeling. You can even cycle through a hundred women or more in a night. Just a click and a wank, rinse (literally) and repeat. ;)

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Well, the quickest way to rid yourself of any self-doubt is to be sure you continue with therapy. I would add that posting nude photos on line and then being unable to carry out a threat is pretty much making big promises you can't live up to, so I'd stop doing all that and just take it step by step getting to know someone -- while keeping up your therapy. I get that you may need assurances since you're insecure, but posting nude photos and penis pics is something most women don't want to see that will only make them NOT want to get to know you.

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No offense, but you kind of come across as a troll. Thinking you can post penis shots on a dating advice message board, as if this looks like a hook up site.. Not to mention the way you talk about yourself makes you sound overly conceited when you're really just an average guy.

 

Maybe you should try to just meet your life long sex partner through web cam modeling. You can even cycle through a hundred women or more in a night. Just a click and a wank, rinse (literally) and repeat. ;)

 

Did I post a penis pic?

 

I just asked. Okay I'm nothing special and pardon me for bragging. I was just saying I'm insecure but not of my physique.

 

I didnt think of making money but posted some youtube videos of me nude and jerking off and some one told me I have the body and penis for webcam modeling so I'll look into it because I'm totally comfortable with being nude and if I can make a few bucks at it great, I'm broke

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Did I post a penis pic?

 

I just asked. Okay I'm nothing special and pardon me for bragging. I was just saying I'm insecure but not of my physique.

 

I didnt think of making money but posted some youtube videos of me nude and jerking off and some one told me I have the body and penis for webcam modeling so I'll look into it because I'm totally comfortable with being nude and if I can make a few bucks at it great, I'm broke

 

Honestly, I feel for you, man. I think you're being sincere. I didn't mean to be a jerk about it.

 

And if you REALLY have a genuine desire for webcam modeling/porn, I say go for it, more power to you. Just make sure you really are comfortable with that sort of thing.

 

But, I think you should just get the basics established; Get a job, get a car, and figure out what you're going to do from there. You're not going to be as attractive without those things, even if you were don juan, if you're looking for an actual relationship. And there's nothing wrong with you, I was just trying to say that nobody's perfect, even if you already knew that and I worded it poorly. :cool:

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Just a means of flirting with women and maybe get a phone number or feedback about whether or not I could be a webcam model

 

That is not the way to find a serious relationship with a girl. Girls who want to view your nude pics and share such online are not likely to be in it for the long term. What kind of girl are you interested in? Seems like you just want sex and any girl will do. Posting nude pics of yourself online will turn off most decent women.

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That is not the way to find a serious relationship with a girl. Girls who want to view your nude pics and share such online are not likely to be in it for the long term. What kind of girl are you interested in? Seems like you just want sex and any girl will do. Posting nude pics of yourself online will turn off most decent women.

 

At this time I don't have money to support a family so I at least would like to have a lady that I have feelings for who could be a friend with benefits that I hang out with, coddle, and give pleasure to.

 

I can't have serious relationship because I'm broke. Otherwise I would.

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