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Funny thing about how real life transitioning into the online world.

 

I had met a woman in a Meetup group, cute, small petite woman, just moved to my area...and low and behold, I wind up finding her on a dating site.

 

So I sent her a message through the dating site, and it was more of a "Hey, funny meeting you here, what a small world!"

 

Then I transitioned into what she had said in her profile as far as what she was looking for.

 

She did respond, but it was more of a strained conversation, I felt like I was trying to pull it all out of her. I thought she wasn't interested and was just feeling obligated to respond since she knew me from the group (in real life).

 

Anyhow, she wound up deleting her profile so I never saw her since then.

 

Until last night. LOL

 

She sees me and she's talking to other women there, and as I entered the room, she says, "Hey, stranger, funny meeting you here!"

 

She was actually new to this additional Meetup as I had been a member for a while and people had asked, "So how is it you two know each other?" and she said we met on said dating site.

 

I was kind of surprised that she had admitted this aloud. LOL

 

Anyhow, she had apologize for having been "short" with me and that she was seriously over inundated with wierdos, pervs, etc and had to take her ad off the site.

 

Anyhow we spent a lot of the evening talking and getting to know each other and enjoying the party. She was far cry different conversation-wise than that she had been online.

 

SHe was getting ready to leave and she asked me if we'd like to continue to stay in touch, I did...and I got her contact info. She jokingly asked, "You're not a psycho, killer are ya??" You know, the typical question that women asks any man she has an interest in. LOL

 

That being said, I figured she was all of a sudden interested in me, but considering our how short she was with me on the dating site....has her perception changed? I was kind of taken aback by this, as she was so apologetic for having blown me off on the dating site, but yet was so nice to me as to spend a lot of time with me at the party.

 

Any clue? With that being said, I guess there is a big difference from online to the real world?

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As you said, real life is very different to online. You too cannot be 100% sure how you come across on line. It's like that work email you need to re-read several times over before you hit the send button because of how it could have been written in haste or be misinterpreted.

 

Things said face to face IRL can come across well when tied in with facial expressions and other gestures but online it could come across as odd, weird, angry, cruel, dim, etc

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There's a reason I prefer to keep initial email contact to a minimum before I trade numbers. And even then I keep texts minimal before arranging a first date. Email and texting, and phone calls to a lesser degree, are a terrible form of communication. And she's correct, women are usually inundated with terrible messages from guys. The woman I'm seeing has told me some real horror stories. She almost deleted mine without reading it because she was so overwhelmed.

 

Anyway, I wouldn't read in to it at all. If you are getting along well in real life then that's all that matters.

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There's a reason I prefer to keep initial email contact to a minimum before I trade numbers. And even then I keep texts minimal before arranging a first date. Email and texting, and phone calls to a lesser degree, are a terrible form of communication. And she's correct, women are usually inundated with terrible messages from guys. The woman I'm seeing has told me some real horror stories. She almost deleted mine without reading it because she was so overwhelmed.

 

Anyway, I wouldn't read in to it at all. If you are getting along well in real life then that's all that matters.

 

Good point, indeed. It was kind of funny, because I think she, upon having kind of deleting her profile while in lieu of corresponding with me on the dating site, that she COULD have thrown the baby out with the bathwater, luckily she knows me from the real world (red pill or blue? lol)...and this had provided us an opportunity to see each other again. Our encounter last night made it feel like we were kind on a date. lol....considering our awareness of us both corresponded on the dating site.

 

It was interesting to hear her perspective, as a woman in general, that she has to be cautious, esp. with her having kids doing that kind of thing. She was actually very skittish even when going into it and that the very idea of participating in online dating in general made her wary. lol

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do not overanalyze. hit it while the iron's hot.

 

Exactly. Stop with all this over analysis of every interaction with the opposite sex, OP! Why do you do this? Just ask her out!

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