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So far in my life I have only gotten dates with woman who I've met in person. I haven't been the one to to really even try to get a date via online anything. However, I was bored and went on my facebook. I happen to find this beautiful woman who's a facebook friend to one of my friends. I've been thinking about trying something but I feel that I have no chance if I'm doing anything online. I have about zero online pick up experience.

 

However, I was hoping with enough advice I might be able to muster something. If it seems that there would be too much work or my odds of getting a date would be too low, I'll probably forget about it.

 

Now due to my lack of experience I have a few questions: Is facebook commonly used for dating purposes? This girl has no pictures or mention of a bf or husband, can I assume she is single? I only have about 20 friends on my facebook would that be a turnoff?

 

If you gotten a date from facebook from a person that you haven't met please explain your strategy and how long it took.

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I won't name names, but I FB friended someone from here. No strategy, just 2 people making friends. I'm now organising to visit them in person in a few months.

 

Just be bold and email them. I did. Worked just fine.

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My sister's friend added me on Facebook and asked me out on a date. It didn't work out, but that's because of factors that had nothing to do with the internet. If you want to add someone on Facebook, you should send her a message about why you want to be friends along with your request. Don't wait for her to message you asking who you are! Start off just with friendly chatting to get to know her, then maybe ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. Do you know your mutual friend well? If not, it might be a bit strange to message her out of the blue (she will most likely ask him/her who you are before she accepts a request). If you are, maybe ask the mutual friend about her or to introduce you guys.

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I noticed a guy who commented on a lot of the same things I did. We had a good number of mutual friends. I befriended him, and we chatted for three months before getting around to going on a date. Got married eleven months after that first date.

 

Troll your friends' friends lists. ;)

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I currently have a crush on a guy that friended me because he saw me on a mutual friends list. Then he started poking me and liking my pics and eventually we started talking. He didn't ask me to hang out yet and it's been 2 months. I'm close to suggesting something myself.

 

He is gorgeous and smart and funny :love: The only complicating factor is that he is friends with my ex and they seem to be tagged getting drinks once every 2 weeks or so. I hope he doesn't reject me due to that :/

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Well from personal experience...both yes and no at the same time actually, lol. :)

Anyhow:

Started 2 years ago when I switched Universities from interpreter to teacher training.

(I took majors in English and History.)

 

All in all, there were only 25 people or so who enlisted for English in the 1st year.

(Plenty of dropouts in year 1 as well, but that's beside the point atm.)

Year 1 was really full of cross-course tasks.

During those tasks, I already noticed her, but didn't know her name.

Plus we constantly had to move between campuses so I didn't exactly have time to chat.

In the first week, we teamed up with students from other specialisations: Biology, Physics, Economics, French, German, Maths, etc.)

I practically added everyone from the English group in order to improve communication with regards to assignments, teacher being ill, etc.

 

Then one day, we were tasked with an assignment for 'Social Cultural Immersion' which required us to visit a museum, conjure up a presentation, and defend our perspective pertaining to its cultural relevance to a jury.

THAT very day, I was the last to hear that we needed to visit a museum.

There were very few groups remaining, and I asked a mutual friend which group I could join.

He said 'Np, it's fine, just join S' group, they're still looking for someone. S ? I asked. 'Yeah, the blonde one, he said'.

I joined it and little did I know that the blonde S was the same girl I had noticed prior lol. :)

After that, I seemed to be running into her a lot more often in history class.

By fate or by happenstance one day we sat next to one another in history class, she was crying when she was looking at her phone.

(Her then ex sent her a cruel and hurtful remark.)

I tried to cheer her up, and near the end of the lesson when out of an assembly of 80 people, I was forced to read something in the coursebook by the teacher, she started laughing and snickering.

That night, she said that she had dreamt of me. (to a friend, and later told me that on our first date.)

Because she didn't have a Facebook profile, she asked this female friend of hers to check out my profile and report to her if I was single.

Turns out I was.

Then we were in the same group for our observation internship.

I noticed her name in the excel sheets and turns out we were both listed to observe at the same school.

I talked to her about it, said if she wanted to wait at the entrance of that school as neither of us had ever been there before.

Then during breaks we got talking, found out she didn't have a bf, and I told her that I had been seeing her a lot more frequently and wanted to get to know her better.

Before I could finish that sentence, she already moved in and was practically nomming my face off. xD

 

Anyhow, long story short: Finding someone who's single through Facebook does work, and I never expected it to go that way.

I assumed at the time she had a bf, and that's why I never made a move.

She didn't have a fb profile and I didn't pry.

Alas, it didn't work out and here I am 2 years later.

Oh, how I desire to fall in love again, yet keep getting rejected left and right. :/

Apologies for the long post, but you asked for specifics.

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I won't name names, but I FB friended someone from here. No strategy, just 2 people making friends. I'm now organising to visit them in person in a few months.

 

Just be bold and email them. I did. Worked just fine.

Why can't you name names? :confused: I'm sure they'd be thrilled to be welcomed into the dated someone from loveshack club.

 

The most people I've ever had on my real facebook account is 25 so it's certainly not my preferred method of getting to know someone.

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Why can't you name names? :confused: I'm sure they'd be thrilled to be welcomed into the dated someone from loveshack club.

 

The most people I've ever had on my real facebook account is 25 so it's certainly not my preferred method of getting to know someone.

 

Because I'm not going to "out" him (so to speak) without permission. I'm being respectful. ;)

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Pickflicker, I'm jealous :)) Seriously I've got lots of dates thanks to FB.

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Pickflicker, I'm jealous :)) Seriously I've got lots of dates thanks to FB.

 

Can't say I've used FB as a dating medium. I only have about 50-odd friends and they're all people i know. I mostly use it to schedule events with friends, follow bands, and keep in contact with long-distance people.

 

And to post my inane inner monologue.

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Because I'm not going to "out" him (so to speak) without permission. I'm being respectful. ;)

 

Good luck!

 

I FB friended about 8 people from LS but none in romantic context (and mostly women).

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I won't name names, but I FB friended someone from here. No strategy, just 2 people making friends. I'm now organising to visit them in person in a few months.

 

Just be bold and email them. I did. Worked just fine.

 

 

I would have a hard time waiting that long to get moving to meeting in person. I'm not that patient, I wish I was.

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Well from personal experience...both yes and no at the same time actually, lol. :)

Anyhow:

Started 2 years ago when I switched Universities from interpreter to teacher training.

(I took majors in English and History.)

 

All in all, there were only 25 people or so who enlisted for English in the 1st year.

(Plenty of dropouts in year 1 as well, but that's beside the point atm.)

Year 1 was really full of cross-course tasks.

During those tasks, I already noticed her, but didn't know her name.

Plus we constantly had to move between campuses so I didn't exactly have time to chat.

In the first week, we teamed up with students from other specialisations: Biology, Physics, Economics, French, German, Maths, etc.)

I practically added everyone from the English group in order to improve communication with regards to assignments, teacher being ill, etc.

 

Then one day, we were tasked with an assignment for 'Social Cultural Immersion' which required us to visit a museum, conjure up a presentation, and defend our perspective pertaining to its cultural relevance to a jury.

THAT very day, I was the last to hear that we needed to visit a museum.

There were very few groups remaining, and I asked a mutual friend which group I could join.

He said 'Np, it's fine, just join S' group, they're still looking for someone. S ? I asked. 'Yeah, the blonde one, he said'.

I joined it and little did I know that the blonde S was the same girl I had noticed prior lol. :)

After that, I seemed to be running into her a lot more often in history class.

By fate or by happenstance one day we sat next to one another in history class, she was crying when she was looking at her phone.

(Her then ex sent her a cruel and hurtful remark.)

I tried to cheer her up, and near the end of the lesson when out of an assembly of 80 people, I was forced to read something in the coursebook by the teacher, she started laughing and snickering.

That night, she said that she had dreamt of me. (to a friend, and later told me that on our first date.)

Because she didn't have a Facebook profile, she asked this female friend of hers to check out my profile and report to her if I was single.

Turns out I was.

Then we were in the same group for our observation internship.

I noticed her name in the excel sheets and turns out we were both listed to observe at the same school.

I talked to her about it, said if she wanted to wait at the entrance of that school as neither of us had ever been there before.

Then during breaks we got talking, found out she didn't have a bf, and I told her that I had been seeing her a lot more frequently and wanted to get to know her better.

Before I could finish that sentence, she already moved in and was practically nomming my face off. xD

 

Anyhow, long story short: Finding someone who's single through Facebook does work, and I never expected it to go that way.

I assumed at the time she had a bf, and that's why I never made a move.

She didn't have a fb profile and I didn't pry.

Alas, it didn't work out and here I am 2 years later.

Oh, how I desire to fall in love again, yet keep getting rejected left and right. :/

Apologies for the long post, but you asked for specifics.

 

 

 

Yeah specifics help. In your case you had were acquaintances before. I'm sure that would help to make things be easier on the facebook side of it all.

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Never had a date from facebook.

 

I once attempted to get a date back in the day on MySpace but it didn't work, haha!

 

 

I don't think there's any real trick to it, just start chatting.

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Yeah specifics help. In your case you had were acquaintances before. I'm sure that would help to make things be easier on the facebook side of it all.

 

Although I forgot to mention that she did economics, and I had never seen her before in my life. :p

True, it helped that we had seen eachother on various occasions compared to the cold approach.

Seems to me that the times I tried the cold approach with women (during the years I've been single lately.) they don't appear interested and are weirded out. :S

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I added three women last night and so far none of them has accepted my request. I had one of my friends add the same women and one of them accepted his request. What I find troubling is he's overweight and takes pride in looking like a prison convict. Whereas I have gotten into shape, improved my looks and I still have zero luck online.

 

I think the low number of friends on my page and the lack of activity might be the biggest factor. The only thought I can think is maybe they wouldn't add a guy that they're attracted to on Friday but it's doubtful. I'll give it a few days, see what happens.

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I added three women last night and so far none of them has accepted my request. I had one of my friends add the same women and one of them accepted his request. What I find troubling is he's overweight and takes pride in looking like a prison convict. Whereas I have gotten into shape, improved my looks and I still have zero luck online.

 

I think the low number of friends on my page and the lack of activity might be the biggest factor. The only thought I can think is maybe they wouldn't add a guy that they're attracted to on Friday but it's doubtful. I'll give it a few days, see what happens.

 

Yeah, see I wouldn't accept people randomly adding me either. If I've been chatting to someone in a forum setting like this, and then we moved to FB, fine. But people who randomly added me would be immediately blocked.

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I added three women last night and so far none of them has accepted my request. I had one of my friends add the same women and one of them accepted his request. What I find troubling is he's overweight and takes pride in looking like a prison convict. Whereas I have gotten into shape, improved my looks and I still have zero luck online.

 

I think the low number of friends on my page and the lack of activity might be the biggest factor. The only thought I can think is maybe they wouldn't add a guy that they're attracted to on Friday but it's doubtful. I'll give it a few days, see what happens.

 

I don't add anyone unless I know who they are, regardless of how many mutual friends we might have. You would be far better off sending them a message and introducing yourself and providing some reason about why you want to be friends (i.e., have you been commenting on similar things)? I'm always kind of flabbergasted when random people send me friend requests and I have no idea why they want to be friends with me. So I just decline. If they sent a message first and said "hey, I notice we both like X..." I might be more inclined to accept. Of course, I'm probably older than you, so I don't have 8,000 Facebook friends like some of the younger folks who will accept friend requests from anyone and everyone.

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Yep had that the other day. `I like your name, can i add you?` Bugger that! I have no idea how these people do their random searches???? Ahhh `Haydn` lets see who is out there?

 

I am not so old Clia and i only have about 70 friends. I doubt you are 106!

 

 

 

 

I don't add anyone unless I know who they are, regardless of how many mutual friends we might have. You would be far better off sending them a message and introducing yourself and providing some reason about why you want to be friends (i.e., have you been commenting on similar things)? I'm always kind of flabbergasted when random people send me friend requests and I have no idea why they want to be friends with me. So I just decline. If they sent a message first and said "hey, I notice we both like X..." I might be more inclined to accept. Of course, I'm probably older than you, so I don't have 8,000 Facebook friends like some of the younger folks who will accept friend requests from anyone and everyone.
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Yeah, see I wouldn't accept people randomly adding me either. If I've been chatting to someone in a forum setting like this, and then we moved to FB, fine. But people who randomly added me would be immediately blocked.

 

 

That would makes sense but my friend didn't know them and at least on them accepted my friend's request.

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I don't add anyone unless I know who they are, regardless of how many mutual friends we might have. You would be far better off sending them a message and introducing yourself and providing some reason about why you want to be friends (i.e., have you been commenting on similar things)? I'm always kind of flabbergasted when random people send me friend requests and I have no idea why they want to be friends with me. So I just decline. If they sent a message first and said "hey, I notice we both like X..." I might be more inclined to accept. Of course, I'm probably older than you, so I don't have 8,000 Facebook friends like some of the younger folks who will accept friend requests from anyone and everyone.

 

 

 

The only problem with trying to make conversation with someone who isn't on your friends list is that is that the sent message doesn't show up in their inbox it goes to the other. The other is basically spam and it doesn't even indicate a new message. By the time anyone would check the other, it would be months later. I would rather quick chance of them seeing my profile picture even if they don't know me. Either way the odds are not going to be good.

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Personally...Facebook is for *******

 

Unfortunately, posts such as this merely highlight an ignorance of social media.

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