Shasta Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 So, about 3 months ago I met this really nice guy (let's call him Jeremy). The first couple of dates were really nice. He seemed really awesome. I liked being with him, and it seemed like he was really interested in me. I got a little scared and backed away from him a little bit because I had just left a 10 month relationship, and didn't want to rush into things too fast. I didn't call him a lot, and he kinda got upset that I wouldn't call him a lot/wouldn't hang out with him until the weekend. My whole take on it was, I wasn't going to ditch my friends (who I hang out with every Tuesday and Friday night) just to be with a guy. About a month into us dating, we were fooling around at his house, and he turned over to me and bit me on my face! It hurt really bad. I ended up having to go to the bathroom to cry, and the next day I had a huge bruise! Everyone asked me what happened, and I only told my best friend what actually happened. She told me that she hated him, and that I don't need to be with someone like that who will hurt me. So I decided I would just back completely away from him. He started calling me "diss woman" because I would never hang out with him. I told him I wasn't interested in going out with him anymore, and he said he still wanted to be my friend but he didn't know because I diss him all the time. I just shrugged it off, because it really didn't matter to me that much. Well, my birthday rolled around (mind you I hadn't seen or talked to him for a couple weeks) and they had a birthday party for me at the bowling alley where we bowl on a league. He showed up, and ended up staring at me the entire night. It made me uncomfortable, but I didn't go over and talk to him or anything. I pretty much tried to ignore him. Well, on the 24th this guy called my phone and left a message saying "Hi Shasta, this is Mike. I got your number from your friend Miriam. She said that we both might like each other, so I thought I would call you. Give me a call back at this number when you get this." The guy didn't leave a number, and the caller id said it was a private number. So, I called Miriam and asked her if she gave my number to a Mike, and she said she hadn't given my number out at all. I listened to the message over and over and it really sounds like Jeremy. I mean, the way he talks, the tone, everything sounds exactly like Jeremy. He knows my best friend's name, and he knows that I know a Mike. Jeremy has called before pretending to be my friend Mike for ****s and giggles before. I'm thinking this guy has something really wrong with him. I don't quite know what I should be doing, because I usually see him every Sunday at the bowling alley. I don't want to go accusing him, because although it does sound like him, I could be wrong. I'm really confused about what I should do. Should I just stay away from him? What do you guys think about this kind of behavior? He drinks alcohol A LOT and also smokes pot. Maybe he was just drunk? I have no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 This guy is dangerous. Have someone talk him out of stalking you (DON'T do it yourself unless you are with a few male friends who could stop him if he becomes violent/agressive), threaten him to report him if he does not stop this behaviour. Make it clear he has to disappear from your life. If this does not work, actually report him and get a restraining order. OR Forget the talking, try to get him a restraining order straight away. (this is probably a better option) BTW your ignoring his his staring was wise. If he was just a guy who got dumped, and he was staring at you and occasionally prank calling you you could just ignore him...he'd probably stop in a while. But this is a guy who bit your face for no reason whatsoever. Someone who bit your face *on a whimpse* could badly hurt you once he has been dumped. He could physically hurt you, bite you again more badly, punch you, attack you with a weapon. Please don't take this lightheartedly for whatever reason. You could be in danger. Link to post Share on other sites
kirkyswife Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Most definitely he's riding on the little yellow bus. Change your number, restraining order and if you don't get a gun or take a self defense class - hopefully it doesn't come to that but you can NEVER be too cautious. Be careful, keep us posted and take care! Link to post Share on other sites
msrealdoll Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Call your local police and ask them what steps you need to take. Make sure to file a report with them, too. That way your fears will be on record and can be referred to in case further legal action is warranted. Weird behavior like this should never be ignored or excused. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shasta Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 Thankyou for replying to me. I will definately look into getting a restraining order. I unfortunately have to see him tonight, but hopefully we won't be near each other. Thankfully I'm on a team with my mom and stepdad, so I do have protection. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Good to hear you'll be with them, but I advise you to warn them about this guy, if they don't know the story already. Just in case he might get some funny ideas like telling your mom and stepdad some bullsh*t about you. The ex bf of one of my female friends (who was stalking her altough he didn't look violent) once turned up at her place while only her parents were at home and told them she was pregnant from another guy. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 This guy does sound disturbed. If you have not already done so I think you should tell him clearly that you want to have nothing more to do with him ever again and that you find his behaviour offensive and disturbing. Don't do this face to face on your own, do it with others there or on the 'phone. Then if he disturbs you again, seek advice from the police. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shasta Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 Yeah, my mom knows what happened. Well, not the whole face biting thing...but she does know about the call and that he calls me diss woman, etc. That's completely messed up for a guy to want to ruin someone's life just because they don't want them. I really hope this guy doesn't stoop that low, but I wouldn't doubt it. He work construction and is really strong, so I'm sure he could do some damage if given the chance, which won't happen (knock on wood). On a side note, Pyrannaste, I love your sig. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shasta Posted June 28, 2004 Author Share Posted June 28, 2004 UPDATE! I went to bowling tonight, and they have a permanent replacement for him because he didn't want to bowl anymore. I don't have to see him ever again! Well, unless he goes to watch one night (which I doubt will happen). Link to post Share on other sites
SingleInTheCity Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 Shasta - that's good to hear that you don't have to deal with him at the bowling alley, but don't get too relaxed - make sure you follow through with all the advice the posters suggested because this may just be the calm before the storm. Continue to be careful and take precautions to protect yourself. BTW, tell your Mom the whole truth so she is armed with all the necessary information to assist you should she need to - okay? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shasta Posted June 28, 2004 Author Share Posted June 28, 2004 I actually told my mom tonight that he bit me. She wanted to go to his house and ring his neck, but I calmed her down. Thankyou everyone for your advice, and I'm still going to get the restraining order put against him. Link to post Share on other sites
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