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Old 7th April 2004, 3:43 PM   #1
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talking to someone u dont know good+makin move

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This (female) friend of me is trying to get me together with a friend of her. I never met her or anything but it just seems to be my type (saw pic, takled a bit to her on msn)
but my problem
Even on msn i don't know what to say. Like there are awfull silences after every sentence or something
Like i just asked 3 things

Quote:
>how are u?
<fine and u?
>fine too
>so are u coming with us to that place later this vacation?"
<yes if nothing urgent shows up
>Ahh i see cool!
>Cool pic btw (a pic of herself)
<:S hole!
<
.. silence..
>so melissa said u arent going to that party this saturday huh
<nope..
*me freaks out and comes up with excuse to go offline*
>too bad
but then ill see u maybe this vacation (place i was talkin about earlier)
dad wants to be on pc ciaooooo xxxx
<oke
<ciaociao!
<(K)
And i go offline. afterwards i ponder about what i should have said .. something like u look lovely again @ pic and stuff.. I always have this afterwards, why didnt I say something to the girl, (in this case her) I just can't think of anything.

this friend of me already asked her stuff like 'are u looking for someone?' and she answered "yes but I dont know Thierry(me) that well yet so"
"but u want to get to know him?"
"sure!"
and she also sent her a pic of me.. and she said something like "cool!" .. melissa asked her what she tought of me and she said "looks like a sweet/kind guy "
So i have a chance i think

so.. help me get over this problem with talking!!! I don't have a problem to talk to someone i know better but when i barely know someone its a hell!!!..

ohyeah btw .. someone happen to know any good ideas to "flirt" or make a move in an amusement park (u know rollercoasters and stuff)

Ciao.
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Old 7th April 2004, 4:24 PM   #2
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Hi fella,

its quite easy really....you sound like a shy kinda guy....mate she already said that she wants to get to know cos she answered your friends question....she said you looked sweet etc....so you are definatly in there....you can talk about anything.....find out about her more....ask her stuff....its easy when you know how!!....dont just go ahead and flirt yet....cos you havnt properly talked to her.....flirt while your talking 2 her
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Old 8th April 2004, 11:07 PM   #3
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Hi fella,

its quite easy really....you sound like a shy kinda guy....mate she already said that she wants to get to know cos she answered your friends question....she said you looked sweet etc....so you are definatly in there....you can talk about anything.....find out about her more....ask her stuff....its easy when you know how!!....dont just go ahead and flirt yet....cos you havnt properly talked to her.....flirt while your talking 2 her
I think it won't be a problem in real life. It's just on msn that I act like a fool.. I hope..
anyway.. I'll try to talk to her more on MSN, so it isn't such a problem in real life... argh I'm already thinking about what I'm going to say or tell..
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Old 9th April 2004, 7:39 AM   #4
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I think it won't be a problem in real life. It's just on msn that I act like a fool.. I hope..
anyway.. I'll try to talk to her more on MSN, so it isn't such a problem in real life... argh I'm already thinking about what I'm going to say or tell..

i would have thought that it would have been easier on MSN....oh well
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Old 9th April 2004, 8:22 AM   #5
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i would have thought that it would have been easier on MSN....oh well
normally its easier on msn yes.. but not when I actually don't know the girl very well and stuff
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Old 10th April 2004, 3:04 AM   #6
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ohyeah btw .. someone happen to know any good ideas to "flirt" or make a move in an amusement park (u know rollercoasters and stuff)

If you really want this girl..
Try using Cocky&Funny
Girls like it when you make them laugh..
Try making fun of her, while being funny

Using C&F would truelly raise your attraction to this girl..^_^!
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Old 10th April 2004, 7:43 AM   #7
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If you really want this girl..
Try using Cocky&Funny
Girls like it when you make them laugh..
Try making fun of her, while being funny

Using C&F would truelly raise your attraction to this girl..^_^!
ahhhh feck, thats what im not good at
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Old 10th April 2004, 9:21 AM   #8
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ahhhh feck, thats what im not good at
Well then be yourself...lol
By this time, she's probabbly going think you're hiding something,
and this ofcourse leads to insecurity and unpleasent moments

To start off, just tease her about anything..
Try searching for some lines on what to say..
try using Google or any search engine..
those lines would sure increse your confident on talking to girls.

Oh yeeah! don't use Pick-up lines, they just won't work.
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Old 10th April 2004, 10:27 AM   #9
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Well then be yourself...lol
By this time, she's probabbly going think you're hiding something,
and this ofcourse leads to insecurity and unpleasent moments

To start off, just tease her about anything..
Try searching for some lines on what to say..
try using Google or any search engine..
those lines would sure increse your confident on talking to girls.

Oh yeeah! don't use Pick-up lines, they just won't work.
ARGH! You're freaking me out
Google? been there, done that.. can't find anything usefull

she's online atm .. but i'm like always on "away" mode. I don't know what to say
I just know it will be something like
"hey..... how are you.... uhu........................bye"
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Old 10th April 2004, 10:44 AM   #10
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ARGH! You're freaking me out
Google? been there, done that.. can't find anything usefull

she's online atm .. but i'm like always on "away" mode. I don't know what to say
I just know it will be something like
"hey..... how are you.... uhu........................bye"
You're acting like.. what David DeAngelo calls it... A WUSSIE.. lol
dont feel bad thought..

Remember when i said to Use Cocky&Funny.. Well use it..
when you say you dont got anything to say.. thats just lame..
Try making a funny comment then ask her something about her..
and so on..
And quit being on "away" mode.. that just lower the risk of you learning new about her.

I also believe you dont have enough Confident
remember girls like it when you make them laugh.. thats just it..
Attraction to girl = funny, intellegent, secure, Confident..
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Old 10th April 2004, 10:54 AM   #11
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You're acting like.. what David DeAngelo calls it... A WUSSIE.. lol
dont feel bad thought..

Remember when i said to Use Cocky&Funny.. Well use it..
when you say you dont got anything to say.. thats just lame..
Try making a funny comment then ask her something about her..
and so on..
And quit being on "away" mode.. that just lower the risk of you learning new about her.

I also believe you dont have enough Confident
remember girls like it when you make them laugh.. thats just it..
Attraction to girl = funny, intellegent, secure, Confident..
Ofcourse, now when she's offline, I regret not saying anything to her.
I went online but she didnt say anything so i went offline again lol
yes, I'm a fckin wussie.
I Do have confidence, but then IRL. I really feel like i'm ****ing this up. hard.

ARGH! she's online again. I really think i should wait before i met her irl to start making real contact
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Old 10th April 2004, 11:03 AM   #12
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ARGH! she's online again. I really think i should wait before i met her irl to start making real contact
Well i guess, isntant messaging is not for you..
If you said your ok with her in talking in person..
then drop the whole msn thing..

But Use msn to your advantage thought.. When she's online try asking her out for dates, how she feel's ect...

but i alwast felt there's not really a problem with instant messeging..
How does she know your tone of voice when you're typing something?
It's totally diffrent..
Consider talking to her by the phone...
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Old 10th April 2004, 11:08 AM   #13
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Well i guess, isntant messaging is not for you..
If you said your ok with her in talking in person..
then drop the whole msn thing..

But Use msn to your advantage thought.. When she's online try asking her out for dates, how she feel's ect...

but i alwast felt there's not really a problem with instant messeging..
How does she know your tone of voice when you're typing something?
It's totally diffrent..
Consider talking to her by the phone...
I haven't met her irl yet. We're seeing eachother next week. I just know I'm better in real life in this situation.
I can talk alott on msn, i think its very easy, except if i don't know the person good AND i like her.
so normally i can say anything just plain bull**** but not in this situation since i don't know how she is yet.
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Old 10th April 2004, 12:34 PM   #14
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Well your move is to ask alot of questions!!
ask away, all you can think
if you say she likes you, then try to persuid her
but dont chase her.. lol
let the chasing for her

now if you want a serious relationship, just after you went out for fun.. tell her how you feel.
have confident. girls like that too if she feels the same then your good to go
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Old 31st March 2005, 1:37 AM   #15
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How do you know?

Simple question (sorry if i'm a little off topic). Actually make that two. How do you know if a girl likes you or not? I've had a crush on this girl for 3 years. Last year we used to talk a lot but over the summer we never saw each other and when we came back it's like we're strangers. I have a feeling she knows I like her, but I can't tell if she likes me back. I always find us looking at each other and she watches me out of the corner of her eye. I don't know if she's freaked out by me or not. I've told people at work and they've just laughed at me saying she likes me(but I'm kinda hard on myself and won't believe it) Pretty pathetic really...

The thing is, I've sorta gotten used to the same old pattern. Crush on a girl, she either moves away/ gets a boyfriend, repeat. I'm used to the fact that the girl isn't going to go out w/ me and some guy is gonna get to her before I do. But something's different about her, I want to make a move but I'm too scared of rejection. I think time's running out and I don't know what move to make #1 to start talking to her and #2 whether there's a chance she likes me. If we like each other, I think we're both playing the same game, wait for the other person to make their move. Please help me out here... I've never gone to this measure for advice before. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!
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