Not the ideal type/ Not attracting girls

[TyphoonALX]

Right now Im finishing up this year and have yet to have had a girlfriend in college, I have not had an actual girlfriend since high school. I've struggled with developing a relationship with a girl. (sure i got friends that are girls, which im fine with) I have had several one night stands and have taken other girls on dates I have not established anything beyond that.

 

In my observation it seems that most girls are attracted to guys that are either

1. The "douchebag" type. affliction, american eagle, or some kind of mma t-shirts, white sunglasses, flat brimmed monster hats, pierced ears...etc (you get the idea)

2. The artistic hipster type. make art, heavy into music, skinny jeans etc.

3. The could be mistaken as being gay type. always well dressed stylish, "great hair", sensitive.

Oh yeah and they all are tall.

 

Yes Im stereotyping but i've lost out on girls to these types of individuals

 

It's frustrating to me cause I do not fit into any of those categories. It feels that I am always being ignored. I mean I do make efforts to talk/flirt with girls and be friendly with them. but at the end of the day I am losing out.

 

To best describe myself Im a stereotypical country boy through and through. I love the outdoors, to hunt and fish, I love country music, I love to drink beer and get drunk, I chew tobacco, I love sports, I drive a truck, Im a t-shirt & jeans or collared flannel or plaid shirt guy. Im not a real big guy (5'9 160) Im not out of shape at all, and I have been told "I am handsome." While mostly I am a nice guy, Im not a wuss, I speak my mind and Im not afraid to be mean.

 

While I know the obvious answer is to find a "country girl"It seems to me those type of girls fall for the douchebag types, along with other type of girls.

 

I would love any advice anybody has for me, if somebody has had/ or is dealing with a similar experience, or the female perspective.

 

Is there still hope? or is this how college just is? and do I have to wait til I graduate and move into the real world for things to get better, or is this how things are in the real world too?

[ThaWholigan]

You've got yourself something of a niche, you could try adding to it. Finding new things to enjoy and interests to cultivate. You don't have to fit a stereotype really.

 

I would advocate that you learn more about attraction - learn how to find an expression comfortable to you but emphasizes your attractive qualities. Learn how to talk, how to have stimulating convos and banter with women so that they never forget you. Get really good at small talk .

 

Use your body language to effect too, as well as your physical expression. That is another way.

 

Also, don't worry too much about a type of girl to go for, just keep doing you and add to the person you are, and make yourself more attractive. It will pay dividends - even if college doesn't work out in terms of dating.

 

[NateC]

I've read somewhere that 90% of college relationships never make it past college or fail shortly after (although hey, anyone can quote statistics as this is the internet after all). I do know though that college relationships are very...fickle to say the least. The abundance of people around (i.e, options) adds to that difficulty, as do parties and those opportunistic hook-ups.

 

My advice: focus on college and worry about the whole girlfriend thing after. I'm not saying to avoid it like the plague, but don't let it run your daily life.