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Old 17th January 2004, 10:51 PM   #1
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How To Tell If Someone Is Interested In You....

How do you know if someone is truely interested in you? Not sure why I keep asking the same questions or the same kinds of questions but I guess it is because I am curious as to know how do you know if someone is really interested in you. Is it with the long glances?

I don't know.
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Old 17th January 2004, 11:34 PM   #2
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I'm surprised you'd ask this, but yes, it is with the longlanzes.

You

DID ALREADY KNOW THIS,

didn't you, longlegzs.

I'm glad you got over the holiday blas.
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Old 18th January 2004, 10:42 AM   #3
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I am being straight up on this one. I don't know if someone is interested no matter how often I keep raising the question.
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Old 18th January 2004, 10:54 AM   #4
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A guy is interested when he does this:

1. Frequent eye contact.

2. Talks to you alot about not very much. He just enjoys your company.

3. Starts confiding with you about his opinions about mutual acquaintances.

4. Tries to make you laugh or dazzle you with his wit and intelligence.

5. He just seems to want to be in some type of connection with you: conversation, email, IM, text messaging.

6. Starts asking you about your likes, dislikes, interests, etc.

7. Frequent eye contact. (Again)

8. Tells you one or more "secrets" about his life. The goal is to get you to do the same.

9. Tries to get you to go drinking with co-workers after work. (Assuming you work together).

10. Acts on your behalf or just supports you--an ally.
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Old 18th January 2004, 4:38 PM   #5
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A guy is interested when he asks you out on a date.

I'm not kidding.
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Old 21st January 2004, 6:13 PM   #6
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well, since we are on the subject how do you know when a female is attracted to you. is it the same, which i doubt it, or is it different?
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Old 22nd January 2004, 12:32 AM   #7
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There are two types of guys you're dealing with: men who have confidence and self-control, and men who don't.

Men who don't have confidence will show you that they like you by hanging around you a lot, smiling a lot, inventing just about any reason to talk to you about subjects which couldn't interest you in the least....and they'll never ask for the number - or they'll be very awkward in their approach when they do (as if they're asking your permission). Men who have more self control will keep their cards a little closer to their chest and at some point, when they feel like they've gauged your interest level well enough, they'll take a shot and ask you out.

A piece of advice: sometimes you have to help us guys out a little. He may be holding back because he's trying to pick up on your cues (smiles, a little tap on the arm etc). There are varying degrees of confidence that we men have, which means that whereas some men won't hesitate for a second to go for the phone number, others may need a little reassurance. Don't necessarily reject the ones who are slower to go for the gusto - fear of rejection is natural and it's something that's particularly weighing heavily on the mind of a man. You may find that with many men they'll relax a little once they get past the part of asking for a phone number. Now if they're still acting goofy on a first date, well, I guess how you play it after that is your choice.
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Old 22nd January 2004, 12:37 AM   #8
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A guy is interested when he asks you out on a date.

I'm not kidding.
That's pretty much what I go by!
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Old 22nd January 2004, 12:49 AM   #9
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I'd agree that these are indeed signs that a man is interested in a woman. I'd like to add that some of these signs are attraction killers, too.

>>>1. Frequent eye contact.<<<

If you're a guy, make sure you keep looking into her eyes and nowhere else. No matter how much you're tempted, NEVER let her catch you looking at her breasts. Yes, some women might be flattered, but those same women will get a quick read on where your head's at. It kills the intrigue and makes you look like just another guy.

>>>2. Talks to you alot about not very much. He just enjoys your company.<<<

Another intrigue killer. A guy should be like a great boxer - stick and move.

>>>4. Tries to make you laugh or dazzle you with his wit and intelligence.<<<

The best move in small doses. Like I said, stick and move.

>>>5. He just seems to want to be in some type of connection with you: conversation, email, IM, text messaging.<<<

Very, very bad move. This is where a lot of us guys just get lost in a sea of uncertainty.

>>>6. Starts asking you about your likes, dislikes, interests, etc.<<<

Very important. Good move.

>>>8. Tells you one or more "secrets" about his life. The goal is to get you to do the same.<<<

Not until at least the 3rd date, buddy.

>>>9. Tries to get you to go drinking with co-workers after work. (Assuming you work together).<<<

If you're on the hunt, you have to do what good predators do: separate the prey from the herd, and you certainly don't want to add more lions to the chase. What if Mr. Right is one of your co-workers and he picks her up right in front of your face? I almost had that happen once until I made it obvious to my pal that I wasn't too pleased. He didn't mean any harm because he didn't know what was up at first, and eventually backed off and the girl and I had a nice time together that night, but I almost learned a painful lesson. One on one, dude. Always.

>>>10. Acts on your behalf or just supports you--an ally.<<<

That's a good way to LJBF (let's just be friends).
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>>>10. Acts on your behalf or just supports you--an ally.<<<

That's a good way to LJBF (let's just be friends).
Yes, I agree 100% here, AND, may I add...

When you GET into the friendship category, you're gonna have a MAJOR battle on your hands to GET OUT of that category.

Unless you're JUST looking to be friends with her, or are satisified with that eventually,

"Let's just be friends" should be your que to bid her adieu.

That's my $0.02.

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Yes, I agree 100% here, AND, may I add...

When you GET into the friendship category, you're gonna have a MAJOR battle on your hands to GET OUT of that category.

Unless you're JUST looking to be friends with her, or are satisified with that eventually,

"Let's just be friends" should be your que to bid her adieu.

That's my $0.02.

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Old 22nd January 2004, 3:33 AM   #12
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I'm surprised you'd ask this, but yes, it is with the longlanzes.
What if the woman dumped you and she still gives you long glances? That's my dilema right now with my ex. She made it clear (out of anger I believe) that it's over. But she still looks at me with a romantic glance. I'm tortured!!

Starting tomorrow I'm going to stop giving the glance back!
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Old 22nd January 2004, 3:52 AM   #13
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If you have any suspiscion that a dude likes you, and you think you might be interested in him, you might as well might at least make subtle attempts at conversation. What would you possibly risk from this?

Rob: you hang in there buddy
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Old 22nd January 2004, 3:57 AM   #14
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One of my relationships happened with a guy friend who everytime he seen me, he'd give a tender "bop" to my upper arm and act like he wanted to play fight..... at first I was put off a bit by this.... then it was apparent to me AFTER my friend noticed and would say.... "hes into you hard" then it just happened... I questioned him why he would do this finally.... and his answer was he just wanted to wrestle me down to the ground everytime he saw me.....
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Old 22nd January 2004, 5:45 AM   #15
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1. Frequent eye contact.
When a girl looks at me its easy to tell that shes thinking how ugly i am... as i would. Looking back at her would most probably freak her out.
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