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travelling_dreams

Hey everyone - i'm new at this so bare with me. I'm 27 and whilst i've had relationships with men in the past - i've never had what I would describe as a serious relationship. At the moment, I am the only single one from my group of friends - all of which are settling down, moving in with their partners, marrying or having kids and I have to say it's so difficult being that one. I feel that all I do now is hang out with loads of couples and never find myself in situations where I could perhaps meet other people because none of my friends want to do that. I'm generally pretty shy around people in general so meeting new people is never an easy feat for me anyway but I wouldn't consider myself as ugly or that I have a bad personality and people always say to me that they can't believe i'm still single (which doesn't particularly help but hey ho!) but i just don't know what I can do differently! Is there anybody out there in a similar(ish) type of situation??

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Hi travelling,

 

I see three options:

 

(1) Make new friends. By that I mean, find other social circles to spend time in that may have more single folks in them. What are your hobbies? Are there any professional associations or groups you could join? Who are your work colleagues - any singletons there?

 

(2) Ask your coupled friends to start introducing you to single men they may know.

 

(3) Go the online dating route.

 

Of course, all of the above will require you to get out of your introverted comfort zone to some degree. If you're completely unwilling to do that, then I don't think much will change for you.

 

Good luck!

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yeah your probably right there. I live in a relatively small town - having moved here about 3 years ago... i've had the odd date here and there but nothing that has ever led to anything. I think one of my problems is the fact that I do stay in my comfort zone so when i'm out with my friends, i do tend to stick with them and completely involve myself with the group. I have been told that i don't notice when guys are checking me out because i'm so busy having fun with my friends that i ignore what's going on around me. I work in an office full of women - majority of whom are older than myself and married. I'm part of a climbing club - but to be honest i don't get out all that often and whilst my climbing partner is male, he's nearly 15 years older. I think i'll follow all 3 of your suggestions (starting with the first) so thanks for replying to me :) all help is welcome ha!

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