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im a size 18/20 but im 5'7 so i can carry it off sometimes x

 

i feel like men dont look past the fat x

 

i was sat outside my work last week and 2 men kept smiling at me and making comments about me makin them a brewe x but when i went out later on a skinny girl walked past and i saw what they were like when they REALLY liked a girl!

 

what do men really like and how am i supposed to 'love myself' when i feel like men cant see past my larger belly even though im a nice woman??

 

to all the men in my past ive been one of the lads or a great mate!

 

hello cant have a future with my 'friend'

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Most men prefer women that are slender but not skinny. Most women prefer men that are muscular but not fat. That's just a fact of life. No getting around that. The women who are more slender will have the advantage over the bigger girls. They are seen as healthier and more appealing.

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Some men do like bigger girls (there are many fetishes) but generally western men do not.

 

A man isn't going to want to sleep with you just because you're a nice woman. Same how you won't want to sleep with a guy just because he's nice.

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what am i suppose to do? lose weight so men fancy me?

Did you know that the most common advice given to men who have dating troubles is to hit the gym and build muscle?

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That's the advice you'll get on LS.

 

I married a woman who was 5'1" and 180lbs when we met (I think a 16 petite) and had no problem finding her attractive and she had no problem replacing me when we split up with an even skinnier guy :D

 

So, YMMV.

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what am i suppose to do? lose weight so men fancy me?

If you want to expand your options, the answer would be yes. If you want to have more and better selection among men, the answer would be yes. Do you have to lose weight in order to find happiness? No. There are men who like larger women. There are larger men who would be satisfied with a larger woman. But if you want to increase your chances of finding someone, you would be wise to lose the weight. It's hard to do, but you will be glad you did.

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and what people belive that?? i would rather a skinny guy or one with fat than a guy who thinks he is john ceena anyday! i understand men go to the gym as do alot of woman but muscle is not the way to find a partner!

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That's the advice you'll get on LS.

 

I married a woman who was 5'1" and 180lbs when we met (I think a 16 petite) and had no problem finding her attractive and she had no problem replacing me when we split up with an even skinnier guy :D

 

So, YMMV.

 

 

what does YMMV mean??

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If you want to expand your options, the answer would be yes. If you want to have more and better selection among men, the answer would be yes. Do you have to lose weight in order to find happiness? No. There are men who like larger women. There are larger men who would be satisfied with a larger woman. But if you want to increase your chances of finding someone, you would be wise to lose the weight. It's hard to do, but you will be glad you did.

 

 

thanks for the advice but i would much rather a man like me for who i am now and if i chose to lose weight than fine . than him like me because im thin. i was a size 24 so im happy with the way i look but thanks all the more.

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and what people belive that?? i would rather a skinny guy or one with fat than a guy who thinks he is john ceena anyday! i understand men go to the gym as do alot of woman but muscle is not the way to find a partner!

Going to the gym is a good plan for men. It keeps them in shape and keeps them healthier. Most women are attracted to guys with muscles and a good physique. My husband is very muscular and has worked out continuously since his teenage years. He is the same weight as the day I met him (and we are now middle aged). He's not egotistical about his appearance, but it shows he takes pride in his appearance, and has a commitment to be healthy and fit. I find that attractive about him, and still find him attractive after many years of marriage. That's understandable. But you are right that good looks without the other qualities necessary in a mate would be just an empty shell. I'd want the whole package. A lot of people do.

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what does YMMV mean??

YMMV = you mileage may vary = your experiences may differ

 

My exW is a perfect example. She's been married three times and now has a live-in BF. She's been 'heavy' since in her early thirties. I recall her mentioning birth control issues with her second H is where it started. OTOH, she's street-smart, likes sex and men find her interesting. So, YMMV.

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Going to the gym is a good plan for men. It keeps them in shape and keeps them healthier. Most women are attracted to guys with muscles and a good physique. My husband is very muscular and has worked out continuously since his teenage years. He is the same weight as the day I met him (and we are now middle aged). He's not egotistical about his appearance, but it shows he takes pride in his appearance, and has a commitment to be healthy and fit. I find that attractive about him, and still find him attractive after many years of marriage. That's understandable. But you are right that good looks without the other qualities necessary in a mate would be just an empty shell. I'd want the whole package. A lot of people do.

 

 

but thats the thing. i aint some lay about fat woman who has kids and doesnt work with greesy hair and no fashion! i take time to make sure i look good im always well presented. i am pretty and im only 22. people can take pride in them selves with out going to the gym and watchin what they eat my ex was a very attractive blond who was a size 8 she didnt go to the gym and ate what she wanted to and that was the sexiest thing about her. she didnt try.

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my ex was a very attractive blond who was a size 8 she didnt go to the gym and ate what she wanted to and that was the sexiest thing about her. she didnt try.
OP, are you a lesbian/bi-sexual? There may be different parameters in play if that's the case. This quote and the thread title have me a bit confused.

 

I will add that my exW also put her best foot forward out in public by always looking her best and wearing tailored clothes which fit her shape.

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OP, are you a lesbian/bi-sexual? There may be different parameters in play if that's the case. This quote and the thread title have me a bit confused.

 

I will add that my exW also put her best foot forward out in public by always looking her best and wearing tailored clothes which fit her shape.

 

i was with a woman for 4 years but i feel in love with her not her sex. she could have been a man i loved her personality then my love for her grew and before i knew it i was livin with a woman and was engaged but i ended it because i didnt love her any more and i feel like i want to be with a man

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but thats the thing. i aint some lay about fat woman who has kids and doesnt work with greesy hair and no fashion! i take time to make sure i look good im always well presented. i am pretty and im only 22. people can take pride in them selves with out going to the gym and watchin what they eat my ex was a very attractive blond who was a size 8 she didnt go to the gym and ate what she wanted to and that was the sexiest thing about her. she didnt try.

Some people have a high metabolism and don't gain weight. They can get away without going to the gym (although it's still a good plan to go to the gym just to be arobicly fit), but for most people, they have to control what they eat and also go to the gym. It's nice that you are trying to make the most of what you are now, and there certainly are men who would be interested, but your original question was what do men prefer and you were wondering why these other girls got the attention, so I told you. Most men prefer slender women. Those are the ones who will attract the most men.

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Some people have a high metabolism and don't gain weight. They can get away without going to the gym (although it's still a good plan to go to the gym just to be arobicly fit), but for most people, they have to control what they eat and also go to the gym. It's nice that you are trying to make the most of what you are now, and there certainly are men who would be interested, but your original question was what do men prefer and you were wondering why these other girls got the attention, so I told you. Most men prefer slender women. Those are the ones who will attract the most men.

 

thank you for your honesty.

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There are some men that like it but most don't just as KathyM said. Be as healthy as you can be with an eye on keeping body fat down.

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im a size 18/20 but im 5'7 so i can carry it off sometimes x

 

i feel like men dont look past the fat x

 

i was sat outside my work last week and 2 men kept smiling at me and making comments about me makin them a brewe x but when i went out later on a skinny girl walked past and i saw what they were like when they REALLY liked a girl!

 

what do men really like and how am i supposed to 'love myself' when i feel like men cant see past my larger belly even though im a nice woman??

 

to all the men in my past ive been one of the lads or a great mate!

 

hello cant have a future with my 'friend'

 

I am one of those bigger women, and I am middle aged, so I have been thin, and I have been bigger than I am now. I do find that when I was thin, men looked at me... ALOT. When I was my biggest, I was pretty much invisible. Now, some look and some don't.

 

What's ironic is that when I was my thinnest, alot of men looked but very few approached me. More approach me now, at my medium-large weight, go figure. Honestly, I don't care if lots of men don't look at me, I only need one, and haven't been without one since high school so, it's okay.

 

Loving yourself doesn't come from a size. It's from knowing down to the bone that you are fabulous just the way you are and carrying yourself as such. No man, no woman, no child dictates your worth. You do!

 

What do men like more than anything? In my experience it is....confidence.

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Some guys (including myself) like chubby girls, although we seem to be a minority.

 

If you're going to lose weight, make sure you're doing it for yourself, because YOU prefer the way you'd look being more skinny.

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YMMV = you mileage may vary = your experiences may differ

 

My exW is a perfect example. She's been married three times and now has a live-in BF. She's been 'heavy' since in her early thirties. I recall her mentioning birth control issues with her second H is where it started. OTOH, she's street-smart, likes sex and men find her interesting. So, YMMV.

 

You're not a troper are you carhill?

 

Anyway OP, many men like girls with some meat on their bones. I personally have a pretty large sphere of the kind of woman I would consider to be "physically attractive"?

 

But I do recommend that you try and exercise more. For mental and physical health purposes, you know?

 

Although sadly enough, I have a harder time getting dates now, than when I looked like a human teddy bear.

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